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Almost certain my teacher fancies me

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i just wanted to know if it does sound like he fancies me
and if i should make a move?

You can't do anything; he'll lose his job.
It doesn't matter that you're 18, he'll be abusing a position of trust and would get into a lot of trouble.

Reply 21

mauvetard

go on! he will be all yours in while, don't mess up the situation now. Just wait a few months :smile:

Reply 22

Miss Behaving

Original post by Carpediemxx

Get the porn cameras rolling people

Lol, this :P

Reply 23

Anonymous #1

but sometimes i get the feeing that he wants me to make the first move
for instance, there was a time when we were alone and he asked me to come over to his desk
so i did and i sort of stood there like what do you want
i saw his eyes sort of staring me up and down before he looked into my eyes and then leaned in
then he gave me a wierd look as if to say "so you're just going to stand there?"
idk im so confused..

take yo clothes off

Original post by jabberwocky43219

leave it a couple more months until you leave school and then do whatever you like.

i know a teacher with an 18yr old is legal, but i just think it'd be a bit inappropriate if he was still having to teach you, marking your coursework etc. for one thing if you got really epic grades people would just assume it was because you were shagging the teacher :L
So yeah, leave it until June, then ask him out.

Is it? I always thought it was not, because he would be abusing a position of trust.

Reply 26

Boffin1234

Obviously, you wait till June after you're finished in sixth form (which, if you are 18, I assume you're in), then you can ask him out or whatever.
From what you say, it sounds as though he definitely fancies the pants off you, but if he makes the first move he will lose everything.
In a way it's flattering that a guy would even be tempted to even begin to put so much on the line for you, even by acting in the suggestive ways you have described. But as a responsible adult, you must exercise restraint for 6 months.

Reply 27

jabberwocky43219

Original post by Xx.MissEG.xX

Is it? I always thought it was not, because he would be abusing a position of trust.

I could be wrong but I was sure that after 18, in the UK, you can do whatever you like with anyone you like.
It is illegal if you are 16 or 17 and the person in the position of trust is over 18 though. But once she leaves school he won't be her teacher any more anyway, so he won't even be in a position of trust.

I'm not saying it wouldn't be weird or "frowned upon" but I don't think it would be illegal. And 18 - 23 really isn't that much of an age gap. The guy's barely out of university.

Reply 28

boba

make some hints about when you've left school

Reply 29

Bslforever

blatantly a paedophile. Dontcha just hate it when paedophiles try and get it on with women two years older than the legal limit?

:holmes:

Reply 30

dshadow

Original post by FormerlyFrisbeeFan

It's possible, and no certainly not - I don't care that you're technically an adult, you make a move and he is professionally compromised.

I totally agree. While I think it is natural to have such feelings, and from your accounting I would say there hasn't been anything too inappropriate so far, his position as your teacher is delicate, and if you expect a move from him, unless he is totally careless about his career, then you might wait forever.

On his part it's pretty much an ethical matter, and if you really like him as you say, you should slow things down, because both of you have much to lose from moving forward in this infatuation.

When he is no longer your teacher, you may want to confront him and maybe you guys are going to be a couple, but as long as he is your teacher, stop there, if you care about him.

Reply 31

insignificant

Original post by Anonymous

i just wanted to know if it does sound like he fancies me
and if i should make a move?

Sounds like he does like you. Wait for him to make a move on you :smile:

Reply 32

violetduck

Here's a plan m'dear!

Go to school wearing some massive plastic parrot earrings, a skirt with grotesque print on it and some crappy shoes, dye your hair slapper blonde (if it isn't already, im sure its not :smile:

), go down to the lesbian hair studio across the road for a lovely bob cut and sit in class right in front of him. When he looks at you in disgust...just say to him...

'What, you dont like the Pat Butcher look?'

To finish the look...fart.

Reply 33

arabie

next time he does anything like this, burst into tears and tell him you're pregnant with his baby... from the sperm that flew out of his eye when he stared you up and down. totally feasible.

Reply 34

alharrison4

Sometimes it's easy to let your imagination run away with you when you fancy someone like a teacher, and take innocent things as 'signs' that they like you too... But if you are 90% confident, and know he's not married or anything, then my advice would be to wait until you leave and then maybe suggest something.

Reply 35

Xx.MissEG.xX

Original post by jabberwocky43219

Just looked it up. In the United Kingdom, a person over 18, who holds a position of trust over another who is under the age of 18 may not engage in sexual relations with that person, as it is considered to be an abuse of trust, as defined by the Sexual Offences Act 2000. Only after that person has left their trust may they pursue a sexual relationship with them. Abuse of trust can result in loss of the abuser's job or even their licence to practice their profession

So it is for just under 18. After she leaves school though, I don't think it would be weird though.

Reply 36

Melanie-v

Don't make a move. It could damage his reputation and if he doesn't stop you cold, it could cost him his career and stop him teaching again.
It's also very unprofessional of him to make a move, even if he is attracted. Just back out, and don't encourage him, it makes it easier for everybody.