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    (Original post by pianist)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok call me sick or whatver you want but im just looking for advice. Basically Ive had a crush on my climbing instructor (whos in his early 50's:eek: ) ever since I was 12 (so 8 years). I know its sad but hes all I think about sometimes and the one person I told called me a slut (is this true??) The thing is its not like I want sex/marriage or anything that would be like uhh, I just like being with him:confused: Ive not acted on it in anyway Im the quiet/secret type he doesn't know and he certainly doesn't like me.
    Ive just never been able to fancy guys my own age

    I need some opinions on this am I just sad or what? Does anyone else have crushes that last this long and not bother with guys their own age? I guess Ive been denying it and it sounds so pathetic now Ive put it in writing (or text lol)
    Your not a slut or sick, like you say you haven't acted on your feelings.
    From reading your message thoe i feel perhaps maybe your confusing a crush with feelings of respect and love in a different way like you would for a friend or relative.
    Because like you say theres no sexual or relationship desire there
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    (Original post by MNBStyle)
    Your not a slut or sick, like you say you haven't acted on your feelings.
    From reading your message thoe i feel perhaps maybe your confusing a crush with feelings of respect and love in a different way like you would for a friend or relative.
    Because like you say theres no sexual or relationship desire there
    There is a little sexual desire involved I think but I wouldn't want anything to happen, Im thinking its a crush cause I think about it a lot too. Maybe its more of an obbsession I dunno but I can't tell anyone lol.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There is a little sexual desire involved I think but I wouldn't want anything to happen, Im thinking its a crush cause I think about it a lot too. Maybe its more of an obbsession I dunno but I can't tell anyone lol.
    I think it is some sort of crush, infactuation.
    I mean theres more respect for this man than there is sexual am i right????
    Your in between fantasy, and something you probablly know can't happen or would be to awkward.
    Maybe you look upto him to and you may have a lack of this with other people, its something that will get easier.
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    I think it is some sort of crush, infactuation.
    I mean theres more respect for this man than there is sexual am i right????
    Your in between fantasy, and something you probablly know can't happen or would be to awkward.
    Maybe you look upto him to and you may have a lack of this with other people, its something that will get easier.
    Thanks, yea Id say theres more respect, your probably right, though I used to really fancy a celebrity that reminded me of him, well I still do a bit:confused: I think maybe hes just my type of guy but too old so Im half denying it or something.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thanks, yea Id say theres more respect, your probably right, though I used to really fancy a celebrity that reminded me of him, well I still do a bit:confused: I think maybe hes just my type of guy but too old so Im half denying it or something.
    So its a mixture of alot of things, reminding you of a celeb, being your type of guy but to old and being indenial to the fact you can't have him aswell.
    Plus its harder for you if you have a lack of other people to look upto or who match this guys personallity.
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    So its a mixture of alot of things, reminding you of a celeb, being your type of guy but to old and being indenial to the fact you can't have him aswell.
    Plus its harder for you if you have a lack of other people to look upto or who match this guys personallity.
    Yeah, the celeb actually reminded me of him thats why I fancied the celeb:p: Your right though.
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    Yeah, the celeb actually reminded me of him thats why I fancied the celeb:p: Your right though.
    Oh right lol, well hope i been of help to you anyway :cool:
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    Oh right lol, well hope i been of help to you anyway :cool:
    You have! I think what you said is it actually, thanks
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You have! I think what you said is it actually, thanks
    Anytime and feel free to PM me anytime if you want to, your name would be kept confidential
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    its fine ive always gone for older men....well i do fancy lads my own age but no where near as much as older men...i have a crush on one of my teachers and a 56 yr old actor...its just the way i am lol, i guess its the way you are too, its fine, but id advise not acting on it tho lol....hes married? hes prob happily married..tho anyway.
 
 
 
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