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    can i ask you, for guys how has losing your V affected you emotionally? i meani've heard girls get really reaaly in love and clingy and to marry the guy. but do guys get the same way?

    as for your prob, maybe its nerves?
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    can i ask you, for guys how has losing your V affected you emotionally? i meani've heard girls get really reaaly in love and clingy and to marry the guy. but do guys get the same way?
    Maybe you should m ake a new thread about this! :rolleyes:

    (Original post by shinytoy)
    as for your prob, maybe its nerves?
    I hardly think you are in a position to give advice

    To OP: My bf was a virgin when we first had sex and he had the same problem the first 2 times. What we did: I surprisingly pounced upon him so he hadn't got time to get nervous! Maybe your gf could do the same?
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    There's no need whatsoever for a first time to be "crap". If you're not too stupid and wait until you're with a decent person you truly care about and are close to, it can never be crap. Being as close as you can be with someone you really have feelings for, can only be an enjoyable experience. The awkwardness and clumsy moves are just secondary issues. Of course if you're not doing it with someone special, then all you're going to notice is the awkwardness. The fact is, the first time you sleep with someone, it always is a tiny bit awkward.

    At least if you're with someone special, even if the first time happens to be awkward, you still feel like you're sharing a special moment. What's more, if you're close to that person, you simply have to start again and your enjoyment increases. With some random person you thought was "fit", well the awkwardness will still be there because you're not close to that person.

    If you were to take all the people who had their first time with someone they were in love with (or at least were incredibly close to) and those who slept with a friend, someone they weren't going out with, it's obvious that the first group will have better memories.
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    Try viagra?
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    (Original post by shinytoy)
    can i ask you, for guys how has losing your V affected you emotionally? i meani've heard girls get really reaaly in love and clingy and to marry the guy. but do guys get the same way?
    You hear a lot of crap, really you do.
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    I failed to get it up on my first attempt. I wouldn't worry, everything works after some practice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    There's no need whatsoever for a first time to be "crap".
    are you a virgin?? most guys dont perform well on their first time. its a fact of life. not saying it will be terrible but its never going to be that good.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    With some random person you thought was "fit", well the awkwardness will still be there because you're not close to that person.
    i personally think there is far less awkwardness with a handsome stranger than with someone you really like. with the stranger it doesnt matter what happens. as long as you enjoy yourself its mission accomplished. with someone you like you worry about what they think and things get alot more awkward.

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If you were to take all the people who had their first time with someone they were in love with (or at least were incredibly close to) and those who slept with a friend, someone they weren't going out with, it's obvious that the first group will have better memories.
    it is?? i personally have found that it depends far more on the outlook of the person than who they lost it to. i have great memories of my 1st time and it was with a short term fling.
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    (Original post by high priestess fnord)
    are you a virgin?? most guys dont perform well on their first time. its a fact of life. not saying it will be terrible but its never going to be that good.
    No, I have more experience than you actually.

    You'll also learn with time that the enjoyment with sex is about more than just performance. You still have time.

    (Original post by high priestess fnord)
    it is?? i personally have found that it depends far more on the outlook of the person than who they lost it to. i have great memories of my 1st time and it was with a short term fling.
    Hey I once got an A at history while being high on crack. So that proves that the statement "People who don't take drugs before exams perform better" is wrong? :rolleyes:
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    I never thought people would discuss this topic so openly.

    Not impressed with you guys.
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