Just how do you flirt?

I have a diploma from there. He's a good teacher, very hands on.

Maybe if you're from the Jimmy Savile School of Flirting.

Flirting can be quite subjective; it can be as simple as just making them laugh, to teasing them, to complimenting them. It's more about how you handle yourself than what you say anyway.

Me you home bed screw gtfo. It works wonders. Out of every 1000 girls you'll probable get 1 yes and 999 slaps but trust me its worth it.

No - statistically it is unlikely that the girl to say yes is the 1000th person he asks.
Admittedly, there is a 1/1000th chance that the last one he asks will say yes, and that previously he would have recieved 999 slaps.
However, there is a 999/1000th chance that he won't have to ask 999 girls before he finds the one who says yes.

I'm a nice guy who's considered very physically attractive (I don't just randomly think that - this is what I've been told by many people). I have good social skills and emotional intelligence. I'm outgoing. I enjoy company. I know which talking points or body language/actions girls find repulsive. I talk to girls I like in the appropriate way; I talk enthusiastically, I gently and harmlessly tease them where appropriate, I ask them about themselves and talk passionately about my interests when asked whilst making sure my interests don't dominate the conversation. I come across as confident. All things girls find attractive as flirtation techniques, as far as I'm aware.

And yet... 0% success rate. Every.single.time they fall for a massive douche instead of me.

Bottom line: if you're a nice guy, no amount of good flirting is going to get you anywhere.

Is that you being yourself when you flirt? Because there is a high chance you come off artificial-I would prefer a shy guy that I get on with than a guy who I have no idea about because he's pretending to be someone else.


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My post is exactly how I am naturally. The problem is that when there's a girl I know well and really like on many different levels, I'm just so different. I'll be naturally shy around her such that I have to be artificial, otherwise I couldn't think of anything to say at all. I know this is problematic. Girls don't like guys who are boring, and if a guy doesn't talk, then boring is the assumption girls tend to make; yet the only other option is feigning confidence and flirting in a very contrived (and, in retrospect, embarrasing) way.

But when it's a girl I don't know who I'm superficially attracted to, at a party for example, I'll be very confident around her, and naturally the way I described in my post. 9 times out of 10, this is the situation in which I flirt, and that's exactly who I am around everyone (apart from the very rare infatuation). It's because I'll think she's attractive, but there won't be the deep, multi-faceted emotional attraction that causes me to become extremely shy and boring.

And yet... 0% success rate. Every.single.time they fall for a massive douche instead of me.