Have you ever walked away from a break up and behaved with no dignity whatsoever

Did you even read what I originally wrote. I was giving the poster advice on how I got over my ex because I realised the deep depression you feel afterwards is completely emotional and often not logical. This lead me to realise how my problems are so small in comparison to other people's.

I in no way have suggested that if someone is happy you should stop them because there are other people who are unhappy. You've managed to spin that one up yourself. Although, I do credit you for spinning a debate out of nothing- perhaps you should go into politics.

I wasn't looking for a debate with someone who is purely looking to criticise without helping the actual poster, and who fails to understand what I actually said originally.

Get over yourself, all I said was that hungry children across the world isn't relevant to being broken-hearted (which it isn't), you're the one getting your granny panties in a twist.

To be honest, no. I have behaved irrationally while dating someone, i.e. overreacted and being difficult. But when it's over it's over, and I have too much pride to be harassing a man over text or acting desperate. Secondly, the only way to get over it is to cut them off completely.

You’ll never get closure. How often did you ask the reason why? Usually, he didn’t know the reason why, and if he did the chances of his telling you the truth, e.g. “I don’t like the sound of your breathing,” were slim.
Bad stuff happens, and we don’t know why. It’s true in relationships. If he says he’s going back to his ex, we ask why. When he says it’s because she’s hotter, we ask why. Because I like blonde hair. Why? Because my first crush had blonde hair. Why? And so it goes, on and on forever. No one really knows why. Embrace the finality and accept the uncertainty.

The only thing you can do which will make a positive difference is to cut him off. Right now. You're not behaving like a woman who respects herself.
Read this http://www.therulesrevisited.com/2011/08/dealing-with-breakup-or-rejection.html

Yes but that's assuming someone dumps you and gives you a reason. Imagine someone just said it's over, or scrap that, just disappeared off the radar when you were under the impression everything was fine, it's enough to make even the sanest girl lose her mind. thanks for the link btw, people's responses are really helping me..

Yes but that's assuming someone dumps you and gives you a reason. Imagine someone just said it's over, or scrap that, just disappeared off the radar when you were under the impression everything was fine, it's enough to make even the sanest girl lose her mind. thanks for the link btw, people's responses are really helping me..

I am losing my mind. He dumped me and won't tell me the reason. I keep texting him, apologising, begging for forgiveness, trying to do little things for him to make him change his mind..........the list goes on. I am embarrassed that I have resorted to this behaviour as I thought I was better than that. I don't know what has come over me. I have been behaving like this for months even though he has quite clearly moved on. I think it is because I need the closure of a reason/explanation. Really regret not playing it cool, ignoring him back and walking away? How have you guys dealth with breakups?

Just a quick point, its not just girls who find that difficult.
My ex broke up with my 4 months ago without giving a reason, while I thought everything was fine, and it was bloody difficult, and I did make a bit of a fool of myself . So yeah, its not just limited to girls.

oh gods yes - my one gf abused me emotionally and cheated on me and then when i found out she spent 6 hours throwing every vulnerability i had ever trusted her with back in my face - at the end of it i was sobbing in her lap telling how sorry i was for doing all those horrible things to her - she was THAT good at messing with peoples heads, she made an art form out of it.

Yea i've been a dick towards one of my first ex's about 6/7 years ago now.


The most recent girl was a bit murky. She told me she loved me then did a complete u-turn. I was playing her cool as well and put in a lot of effort towards getting her interested and feeling happy. I do love that girl. I did rant at her when she rejected me but it was justified. I think it was about 3 rants in a month (think how hard it is being told by a girl that she loves you and wants to spend her life with you, then inviting her to your house only for her to do a complete u-turn on the second night and then having to put up with her for a month whilst she stays in your house and ignores you), then I kicked her out of my house and then no contact in a month now (she has me on fb and has my mobile number and my last message was telling her that I am happy to remain friends seeing as we aren't going to meet up again).


But you know, we all have this ****. My only worry is whether I behave with dignity with a breakup now because at the end of the day you just realise that there are plenty more people out there and you really don't want to carry such negative patterns into new relationships. You also have to stand up for what you believe in but you have to know what you believe in first... Sounds like you might not be entirely sure what you want from life atm. Breakups, in any form, really do wound people though. The trick is to realize that you can get the same thing from other people and often it is 1000x better.

how are you feeling now? that sounds awful