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Hey!

23 year old virgin male here.

I've had a number of opportunities to lose my virginity but have chosen not to. I, like you, wen't through a bit of a phase recently having a stress about it. Then I met another virgin just a bit older than me and he seems so totally happy with his decision - he is really proud of it.

It's helped me appreciate and respect my previous decisions and to look more positively to the future. Technically I could go and lose my virginity tonight but I have a level of self respect and want my first time and every time to be mean't well, with someone I love and want to demonstrate my love for and also to not risk being wth someone I don't trust e.g. an escort.

Don't fret - your time will come I'm sure. In the meantime, stay active, get involved in social things like sports, volunteering etc - make the most of life in every other aspect and I''l almost guarantee a fine lady will pop into your life when you are least expecting it.

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Each to their own, I guess. And I don't really have a problem with escorts - it's their body. But I think a lot of girls in the future would have problems with it, if they found out.
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(Original post by MarinaAlex)
Do you really want to remember your first time with an escort? maybe it's best to just wait, not in a cliche way but I'm sure that you would much rather look back on it if it was with a girlfriend or someone you knew, not because you were desperate to have sex with just anyone for the fact of having sex
Wait for what? Leaving university took away all of my social life, so nothing is going to happen.

Girls just fall out of the sky for most of the guys I've known but not for me.

Of course I would rather it be with someone I had met naturally, but that ship has sailed and it's getting late in the day for me now.
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(Original post by inmyhead)
Wait for what? Leaving university took away all of my social life, so nothing is going to happen.

Girls just fall out of the sky for most of the guys I've known but not for me.

Of course I would rather it be with someone I had met naturally, but that ship has sailed and it's getting late in the day for me now.

Why are you asking for the approval of complete strangers?


I can imagine you right now in a hotel room with an escort, you hiding away in the toilet with the laptop on TSR.
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The awkward moment when you lose your virginity to an escort or a prostitute... Like, come on man, you can do better than that surely!
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Act the way you did when you were 16, that seemed to work...
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(Original post by omaralr)
Act the way you did when you were 16, that seemed to work...
Was a very different environment then (6th form).
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Ideally, to do it with someone you know sounds better than with an escort, but the pressure of doing it for the first time, and the shame if you dont perform well can be the tricky part. Will the partner understand, what would she think of me, and so on...I guess you wouldn't think too much if it was an escort
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Ok well whatever you do, don't do the ho. As they said before, you'll only end up regretting it later on. Personally I don't see what the issue is in your situation. Go to most places in the world and it'll be considered the norm for a young, unmarried man to be a virgin, heck, it's even frowned upon if you aren't...But if you're that desperate to become a virg-OUT then just go clubbing and pick someone out from there. Why do you think most girls that go clubbing dress like sluts anyway?
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I thought the title said "Praying For Sex" for a moment! :lol::lol::lol:
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I know I'l get negged for this but I think you should do it if you want to. Just make sure you go with 'reputable' company and are safe about it. Do what you need to do.
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(Original post by MarinaAlex)
Do you really want to remember your first time with an escort? maybe it's best to just wait, not in a cliche way but I'm sure that you would much rather look back on it if it was with a girlfriend or someone you knew, not because you were desperate to have sex with just anyone for the fact of having sex
People make such a big deal about having sex for the first time, but once you do it you realise how irrelevant a detail your first time is. Even more so for guys. Of course, if possible, have your first time with someone you care about (actually, I feel that should be the case with everyone you have sex with, not a big fan of the ONS), but this guy is 23. Whilst this is not an outrageously old age to still be a virgin, he is tired of it and so I say, GO FOR IT.
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(Original post by catherinealice)
Who cares what other people are doing? Imagine the number of men an escort would have f*cked *vomits* You should wait until you find the right girl for you and then it will be a lot more special. Anyway, wouldn't it be awkward when people ask who you lost your virginity to? At the end of the day, it is your decision - but I absolutely wouldn't!

(Original post by KatieO)
Trust me, a girl would rather sleep with a 24 year old virgin then sleep with a 24 year old who lost his virginity to someone who paid for an escort. Seriously good things come to those that wait. Don't sweat it and be patient.
Ok, while I'm not necessarily endorsing the escort plan, I have to ask...how often to you ask who your prospective partners lost their virginity to?! I'm not sure I've ever asked this of any of my boyfriends, nor told any of mine the sticky, sordid truth of my first time, other than perhaps it was complicated, and crap. Mainly, just that it was ****ing crap.

OP - this is entirely up to you. If being a virgin is praying on your mind, then by all means. But, there is a) no shame in being a virgin and b) it's not really a big deal either way, in my opinion. Ifyou're worried about what future girlfriends might think, speaking as someone close(ish) to your age, if you told me that you were a virgin just before we were about to shag, I don't think I'd be that bothered by it. In fact, I'd probably see it as an amazing opportunity...train you up, so to speak. (to clarify, not single, this is not an offer. ahem.).

Oh, and I second what the poster directly above me has said - apart from remembering it was pretty rubbish, I don't really remember much about my first time. But i really don't care that it wasn't hearts and roses and moon explosions. I have a lovely partner now, and a loving, intimate sex life. That's all I really care about...
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(Original post by *~HeartShapedBox)
I thought the title said "Praying For Sex" for a moment! :lol::lol::lol:
Jesus will answer our prayers, no matter what we ask. Praise the Lord! Now let us all speak in tongues:-)
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Mate, you don't need to 'lose it' at 23. Just because society has painted a picture of teenage pregnancies etc. doesn't mean that you need to lose your virginity.

And plus, do you really want to lose your virginity to an escort? Why not wait for someone you really care about?
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I'm worried that it might feel empty, as if something is missing from the experience.

It probably won't make me happy, and I won't really feel like I've achieved anything because paying for it is just cheating.

I wish it didn't have to be this way, but life has not given me the options that are available to most people.

I guess at least I'll be able to say that I've done it once?
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(Original post by Uniiverse)

And plus, do you really want to lose your virginity to an escort? Why not wait for someone you really care about?
Could be waiting until hell freezes over...you should live a typical day in my life and see what I mean.
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To all those saying wait for the right person, that's bad advice. Go out and meet people, make someone the right person.
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(Original post by inmyhead)
So, it's come to this. I guess it was inevitable really.

Failed at getting any signifcant sexual experiences at school or university. I did have a girlfriend once when I was 16, but I never really thought much about sex at that age so I never attempted to initiate anything (this is one of my biggest regrets, she was pretty hot), we only ever kissed. I turned another girl down, which was probably a mistake with hindsight.

I think there were a few girls that liked me through the years at University, but I am hopeless with flirting so I think they probably thought I wasn't interested and so nothing ever happened. As each new year began, I promised myself that this would be the year, but I had no idea how to attempt any form of intimacy with a girl, so I failed.

Plumbing new depths of desperation, I have tried online dating sites for the last month, but it's hopeless. A few girls will reply to my messages, but they always stop replying after a couple of messages. I've pretty much given up on it.

So, there is the anatomy of a 23 year old virgin. Now that I've graduated from university, I don't have any social opportunities to meet new people.

I want to 'call time' on my virginity, already much overdue. I don't want to become a 24 year old virgin. I'm sick of everyone else around me having sex, and me being the one of the few that aren't.

I've been looking at escorts online and found some very nice looking girls in my area. I'm extremely tempted to go ahead with it, because I don't see any other opportunities on the horizon. What do I do?
The thread title makes it sound like you need help paying for sex....
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If you're 100% sure that's what you want to do and you think you won't regret it, then I don't have a problem with someone losing their virginity to an escort. However, by virtue of the fact that you have created this thread, OP, I'd suggest that you are not one of the very few people who actually don't care who they lose their virginity to. In fact, the fact alone that you are thinking about losing it, tells me that it's quite an important event for you.

All that said, I would say "wait." Find the right girl - clearly you get attention - and I think you'd be happier in the long run.
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