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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah, but seeing as the clinic is half an hour away and I don't drive, it would take some advance planning to be able to get there and take time off college (which I can't afford to do right now as I'm behind anyway) and they won't make appointments more than a week in advance so it's not really an option right now :/
    Do you actually want to find a solution to this? Lots of people have offered you great advice but you've come up with reasons why you don't think it would work, but you really won't know until you try. I agree with what has already been said - you are entitled to a second opinion and should see a specialist gynecologist. I know how frustrating it is. I've felt like an inconvenience to my GP because I've switched my pill brand more times than I can count until I found one that suited me, but you have to be persistent. Your doctor is there to help, and if your current GP isn't doing that, ask to see someone else.

    There are plenty of options out there, but sometimes they're hard to come to and the first thing you try won't work. You need to give yourself a push to try and find a solution that works for you.
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    I'm not putting up barriers, it's just how am I supposed to get somewhere half an hour away when I have no money for public transport and no-one to drive me there with such short notice? If there was a clinic closer I would go there in an instant - trust me I would love some more specialist help than my GP (I have actually wanted to see someone more specialist for a while now but she wouldn't refer me until I'd tried all they'd suggested) but it's just not an option to go somewhere that far away at the moment. I feel you're being a bit unfair. I've tried more than one thing as stated in my original post... guess I've just learnt not to ask for any advice on the internet
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    I'm not putting up barriers, it's just how am I supposed to get somewhere half an hour away when I have no money for public transport and no-one to drive me there with such short notice? If there was a clinic closer I would go there in an instant - trust me I would love some more specialist help than my GP (I have actually wanted to see someone more specialist for a while now but she wouldn't refer me until I'd tried all they'd suggested) but it's just not an option to go somewhere that far away at the moment. I feel you're being a bit unfair. I've tried more than one thing as stated in my original post... guess I've just learnt not to ask for any advice on the internet
    I have to agree with mythtakes to an extent... you haven't really tried as much as you could have. You've assumed that because one pill or type of contraception uses the same group of hormones as another you will react badly. This is not the case. People often react differently to different brands because they have different levels of hormone and you will react differently. The way the hormones are delivered will make a difference too. Ever tried the patch or vaginal ring?

    I'd be finding a way to get to the clinic before declaring myself sexually abstinent. A half hour bus journey is not going to cost much... probably about £3/4 return. It can't be that hard to earn or borrow that. Couldn't your boyfriend help you out?

    Have to agree with mythtakes that you now seem to be making excuses and are being very dismissive. You don't seem to have thought or mentioned how this is affecting your bf either.
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    Actually it costs near to £7. Buses are expensive where I live. :/ I suppose I could borrow it but I hate borrowing money off people cause I can't pay them back for ages seeing as I have no job or benefits or anyhting like that.

    Another reason I don't want to go is the people on the phone were rude to me when I rang to make an appointment last time but I guess you guys think thats ridiculous too? I have bad social anxiety and those kinds of things put me off going, especially on my own. As stupid as it may be i've only just had the confidence to go out on my own recently.

    I've reacted badly to more than one hormone (at least 4 now) because I've been on 3 or 4 different pills (all different hormones) as stated in my original post and I wanted something I can stop at any time on my own without going to the GP ideally before considering everything else, perhaps i should have made that clearer. I'll probably just go on the implant whenever I can get to my GP surgery b/c they can just take it out if it has side effects. Seeing as the only things she offered me were the implant, another pill (i don't want to try this because she wants you to take it for 3 months before deciding if its bad or whatever, plus like I said I tried 3 or 4 already... Cilest, Microgynon30, Cerazette and smth else I think can't remmeber). I really don't want to get the shot on 2nd thoughts because I'm to scared of the side effects, apparently it stays in your body for like 6 months and I don't really want something I can't stop at any time if it begins getting really bad like Cerazette did.

    As for the bf, he isn't really bothered either way seeing as he just wants me to be in a semi-normal state of mind without feeling like crap all the time :/ he is nice enough to say he doesn't mind not doing anything if i don't find anything.

    I'm sorry if I seem dismissive or whatever I'm under a ridiculous amount of stress with college because I have so much to do in like 2 month and haven't been getting any sleep so I'm probably a bit more on edge than usual... so I apologise if i have been rude or whatever... you probably all hate me anyway now lol
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    Oh btw kabloommybluzz both the ring and patch have oestrogen... which I did say I couldnt take b/c the GP wont prescribe me it in my original post I believe...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've reacted badly to more than one hormone (at least 4 now) because I've been on 3 or 4 different pills (all different hormones) as stated in my original post and I wanted something I can stop at any time on my own without going to the GP ideally before considering everything else, perhaps i should have made that clearer. I'll probably just go on the implant whenever I can get to my GP surgery b/c they can just take it out if it has side effects. Seeing as the only things she offered me were the implant, another pill (i don't want to try this because she wants you to take it for 3 months before deciding if its bad or whatever, plus like I said I tried 3 or 4 already... Cilest, Microgynon30, Cerazette and smth else I think can't remmeber). I really don't want to get the shot on 2nd thoughts because I'm to scared of the side effects, apparently it stays in your body for like 6 months and I don't really want something I can't stop at any time if it begins getting really bad like Cerazette did.
    I personally would suggest trying another pill before the implant. The doc will also keep you on the implant for 3 months and it's a lot harder to stop taking it. The pill you can just stop, the implant you have to go about making appointments to tell them you're having problems with the implant and theres a good chance they'll ask you to take a pill at the same time as the implant for a few months if you are having problems to see if that helps and then you have to make an appointment to have it taken out.

    In my opinion the pill is so much easier to stop. It took me months to get them to remove my implant.
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    Actually it costs near to £7. Buses are expensive where I live. :/ I suppose I could borrow it but I hate borrowing money off people cause I can't pay them back for ages seeing as I have no job or benefits or anyhting like that.

    Another reason I don't want to go is the people on the phone were rude to me when I rang to make an appointment last time but I guess you guys think thats ridiculous too? I have bad social anxiety and those kinds of things put me off going, especially on my own. As stupid as it may be i've only just had the confidence to go out on my own recently.

    I've reacted badly to more than one hormone (at least 4 now) because I've been on 3 or 4 different pills (all different hormones) as stated in my original post and I wanted something I can stop at any time on my own without going to the GP ideally before considering everything else, perhaps i should have made that clearer. I'll probably just go on the implant whenever I can get to my GP surgery b/c they can just take it out if it has side effects. Seeing as the only things she offered me were the implant, another pill (i don't want to try this because she wants you to take it for 3 months before deciding if its bad or whatever, plus like I said I tried 3 or 4 already... Cilest, Microgynon30, Cerazette and smth else I think can't remmeber). I really don't want to get the shot on 2nd thoughts because I'm to scared of the side effects, apparently it stays in your body for like 6 months and I don't really want something I can't stop at any time if it begins getting really bad like Cerazette did.

    As for the bf, he isn't really bothered either way seeing as he just wants me to be in a semi-normal state of mind without feeling like crap all the time :/ he is nice enough to say he doesn't mind not doing anything if i don't find anything.

    I'm sorry if I seem dismissive or whatever I'm under a ridiculous amount of stress with college because I have so much to do in like 2 month and haven't been getting any sleep so I'm probably a bit more on edge than usual... so I apologise if i have been rude or whatever... you probably all hate me anyway now lol
    Considering the college stuff... I would suggest maybe leaving it til summer, but by no means give up...

    You naturally have all of the hormones in the pills in your body... so you won't be reacting badly to the hormones as such, just the levels and the way they are made up artificially. My point still stands that you could try another brand with the same hormone and be fine. It may not be the hormones that are affecting you badly but the levels and the balance of hormones to other ingredients in the pills.

    So yeah... maybe wait until summer to try something again, but don't give up and don't be afraid to ask for help in getting this sorted. Carrying on like this will do absolutely no good for your state of mind. Actually, have you considered that anxiety might actually be making your reactions worse... espeially with later tries as you might have the expectation of side effects, so get placebo side effects... or that the hormones could be reacting in some way to the stress hormones in your body. Are you getting any help from the docs about the anxiety side of things?
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    Yeah it's a good idea to wait until summer, thanks for that, best way about going about it thinking about it because I'll have a clearer mind to concentrate on stuff.

    You have some very good points.. I didn't think about it like that.. it might be because I think I have some kind of hormonal imbalance anyway (I started my period when I was 12 and they never became regular even when I wasn't on birth control - I'd usually go 4-6 months without one and dr's always talk about me having PCOS but haven't tested me yet) and of course my anxieties could be interfering as it's had such a detrimental effect on my overall health

    I got a test for HIV and they suggested to make an appointment at a contraceptive clinic which I'm hoping to do soon because it's actually pretty close to my house so I could get there on my own. Hoping they'll be a little more helpful than the GP and maybe offer me more options? Like, ideally I would LOVE something non-hormonal but I didn't even get the chance to talk about the IUD because she never mentioned it would be an option for me. So I'd wanna find out if I could potentially have that (like if it doesn't have nickel in it which I'm sensitive to) because it has no hormones and I think it probably has less side effects.. though I did read that it can somehow cause mood changes?!

    As for getting help with it, thats another long story... I've been numerous times for depression and they just don't seem to want to help me. One offered me an anti-depressant for unrelated issues (apparently it helps with the tingling feeling I was getting in my leg? lol read up on it online and couldn't find anything about that on there) but I'd like medication to be a last resort kinda thing because you become reliant on it :/. Last time I went about it she just gave me a link to some online CBT therapy website and I tried to engage with it but it was just sooo juvenile - it looked and sounded like it was aimed at younger teenagers, not someone who is 19... I did actually have a LOT of councelling and such when I was younger but I don't think I should judge my experiences with that wholly on those I had there because its a different service and I wasn't really intrested in engaging with it.. so if I managed to get some kinda therapy again I would be really pleased but they don't want to refer me for whatever reason :/ dunno if any of that made any sense ahaha
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm not putting up barriers, it's just how am I supposed to get somewhere half an hour away when I have no money for public transport and no-one to drive me there with such short notice? If there was a clinic closer I would go there in an instant - trust me I would love some more specialist help than my GP (I have actually wanted to see someone more specialist for a while now but she wouldn't refer me until I'd tried all they'd suggested) but it's just not an option to go somewhere that far away at the moment. I feel you're being a bit unfair. I've tried more than one thing as stated in my original post... guess I've just learnt not to ask for any advice on the internet
    I'm not trying to be unfair at all. I'm just saying that if you're willing to find a solution, it's out there. Writing off sex entirely is a very drastic measure. If your boyfriend is fine with it, that's good, but I'm sure you will want to find something that suits you instead of stopping sex. If you don't like going to the doctors or clinic alone, ask your boyfriend to go with you. He doesn't need to go into the consultation room with you, but maybe having him wait with you would make you feel better? Or a close friend?

    (Original post by Kabloomybuzz)
    Actually, have you considered that anxiety might actually be making your reactions worse... espeially with later tries as you might have the expectation of side effects, so get placebo side effects... or that the hormones could be reacting in some way to the stress hormones in your body. Are you getting any help from the docs about the anxiety side of things?
    I agree with this. I've found that if you expect something to give you bad side effects, it very likely will.
 
 
 
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