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    (Original post by MelanieDickson)
    What if you knew your partner longer than you knew those friends?

    Kinda complicated timeline, but basically I introduced my partner to these 'exes' (if you can call them that) as my friends before I was going out with him. He became good friends with them too. I didn't tell him what happened in the past because we weren't going out and it was none of his business. Now we're in a relationship, I feel like I should backtrack and tell him what actually happened.
    Honestly, you know my opinion. If it was the other way around I wouldn't want to know so I don't think you should tell him.


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    Kind of went through a similar situation. I slept with this boy during freshers week, and am now going out with one of his mates who he made after we slept together. I'm still really close with the guy I slept with and consider him to be one of my best friends. My boyfriend knows and it's not weird or anything. I asked him if he found it weird and he said he doesn't because he knows it didn't mean anything and I have 0 feelings for the guy and he has 0 feelings for me.

    Though my boyf found out before we got together, I would still tell him because it doesn't meany anything to me so there is no point in hiding it.
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    I wouldn't even mention something like that. When you get into a relationship, you want to enjoy spending time together, not drawing up some dossier of each other's sexual history.
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    Lots of nice conflicting answers. :p: Hah.

    I'm not sure what to do.
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    My boyfriend did stuff with my best friend years ago when he was drunk. I always make fun of them because they find it really awkward, but it doesn't bother me haha.
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    I immediately asked my boyfriend about his past with women when we started going out. This is not purely because I'm nosy, but because I feel it brought us closer together and also I wouldn't want to say something without realising and have it offend him. Luckily he had no past with any of my friends or anyone I knew but I find its always good to talk about these things if you're in a relationship.
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    ^ I agree with that. Maybe have a general conversation about BOTH of your pasts and bring it up then.

    The fact that you posted a thread about it shows that it's worrying you and if it's something that's always going to be in the back of your mind you should tell him (even if it's just for peace of mind). It's your past, he can't be mad at you about something that happened before you were together!
 
 
 
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