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    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    Sorry I mis-worded that. He doesn't go to them-but if he did go to one as part of a night out, no it wouldn't bother me, and if he got a dance from one I wouldn't suppose it was because he found them more attractive than he finds me.

    It's probably worth mentioning that I'm a stripper.
    But do you dance for him?
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    I wouldn't stop him, but I would be a bit put out if he did want to go to one. Just because he's never been one for stuff like that and he's even declined going on a "lad's holiday" because they're not his scene.

    So, yeah - I wouldn't stop him, but it would be out of character for him if he were to go to one so I wouldn't be best pleased.
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    (Original post by danny111)
    But do you dance for him?
    I have done-but it's not a regular thing!
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    (Original post by sugarmouse)
    I have done-but it's not a regular thing!
    Lucky guy!
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    The secret is to be the sort of girlfriend who wants to go to the strip club with him.
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    (Original post by danny111)
    If that means what I think it does, it's not what strippers do. In fact, no touching is a common policy in strip clubs (that goes both ways).
    i just meant a lap dance, my apologises, im not really familiar with what happens in a strip club.
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    (Original post by deedee123)
    i just meant a lap dance, my apologises, im not really familiar with what happens in a strip club.
    Well, a "rub down" sounds like you know...
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    (Original post by Tigers)
    so the fact that he looks at other girls naked bodies(probably because he finds them more attractive) wouldn't bother you?
    Society has utterly collapsed on itself. Values have totally been lost.
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    (Original post by danny111)
    Well, a "rub down" sounds like you know...
    haha i know, although i do realise that a strip club isn't the same as a brothel
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    (Original post by Tigers)
    what's the difference in a private dance?(if she only strips)
    because he is paying for it, yes i know you have to pay to go into a strip club but if hes there with the lads and the woman are in there taking their clothes of fine but a private dance when you spend more money on the woman and they actually dance up you i wouldnt be happy at all i think its disrespectful to your girlfriend
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    If I'm in a relationship with someone they are still their own person and so it's not a case of my "letting" them do something. They live their own life and to be honest I don't see Strip Clubs any different to lads mags or watching porn. At the end of the day they're coming home to me so what does it matter if they've looked at other people.
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    (Original post by Tigers)
    Do you let your bf go to strip clubs?
    A boyfriend is for life, not just for Christmas.

    He's a human, not a dog.
    You can't stop someone from doing anything, you can ask them not to and you can explain how something would make you feel, but to say you won't 'let' them is a whole different story.

    If my boyfriend said he was going to a strip club with the lads on a stag do or something, then that's very different to him popping to a strip club as if it's his local pub, just to catch an eye full and cop a feel.

    I think you need to expand your question slightly.
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    Personally no, I wouldn't want him to go to one, but firstly our views on the relationship are probably a fair bit stricter than most, but I think it's fine to be like that just as long as you're both on the same page about what you don't find okay.

    Although I'm pretty certain mine doesn't really take any interest in strip clubs, so we're okay on that ^_^
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    my boyfriend has been to strip clubs since we got together twice and is going again some time in the holidays for his friends birthday. Hes never "asked" if he was allowed he just told me. Although just before the first time he did drunkenly make a big thing about how he wouldn't go if I wasn't ok with it because one of the other guys girlfriends had got upset and he thought I might have been hiding being upset.

    I've haven't been about him going but one of the times the next time I saw him he was telling me that one of the strippers looked like me and that kinda upset me. I don't want to hear him comparing them to me.( I know its not like he was saying "they are so much hotter than you" or whatever but it still upset me for some reason)
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    lol!!!!

    People can do what the ****ing hell they want. Who the hell are you to prevent them?
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    i'm not the type to get jealous but i think they'd feel that they broke my heart if they did anything like that
    i wouldn't like it either but it's nice to know they'd never go anywhere like that
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    If he went to a strip club, I wouldnt be overly happy about it. But i trust him so I would let him get on with it
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    (Original post by Lukev)
    I went on a stag do to Prague with a group of friends. My wife knew that it was likely that we'd go to strip clubs but it was never discussed.
    However, me being the overhonest guilt ridden idiot that I was called her up one night from the hotel and drunkenly announced "I've jusht sheen shtrippersh....!!! That didn't go down well.
    Note to other men. If it is understood to be unspoken, leave it unspoken!
    Out of consideration to my soon-to-be wife, I wouldn't go to see strippers in the first place...for a stag do or just leisure. I'd also expect her to show the same decency. I do not understand the need for men/women on hen/stag dos to go to strip joints and see other people naked. The whole thing of "it's your last night of freedom" is a terrible reason; if you want freedom, then don't get married to the person! If there's the desire for one, last sordid night out while you're technically 'free', marriage shouldn't be on the agenda.
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    Anon as she's on here but knows.

    I went and she wasn't happy. Didn't know it would be like that as it was my first private dance. But she let me kiss her everywhere from head to toe and touch anything.
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    (Original post by BANS2012)
    If he went to a strip club, I wouldnt be overly happy about it. But i trust him so I would let him get on with it
    Very accepting of you, but would you not question why he wants to go to a strip club? If my partner suggested it to me, I'd immediately ditch them...seriously. They've just expressed the desire to see other people nude and upfront on their 'last night of freedom', presumably before they regretfully shackle themselves to you. If they truly love just you and want to only be with you (as is the supposed nature of marriages), then why would they want to go to a strip club? A girls'/boys' night out, I can understand, but not that...
 
 
 
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