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    IMO, it's best to be in relationships with the person as they are right now, not the person they might be in a few months or years. Don't date someone hoping they'll give up their current job for you, date them and love them right now for everything they are, job and all.

    And if you can't cope with the idea that she might be working as an escort for the next few years (it doesn't sound like she's in a huge rush to go to uni and anyway applications for 2013 entry are closed now, it'd be September 2014 at the earliest) then leave now and spare yourself the angst.
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    I'm getting the impression that you are a sucker for love... the fact that you are seeing a hooker is a sign of desperation. If I was you I would end it before you get too attached. You are definitely at risk of getting an STI!
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    (Original post by Biochemical Wizard)
    I'm getting the impression that you are a sucker for love... the fact that you are seeing a hooker is a sign of desperation. If I was you I would end it before you get too attached. You are definitely at risk of getting an STI!
    True say, if a girl has herpes in this situation from a client, she isn't likely going to openly blurt it out. Odds of her having something like that are incredibly high.
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    I don't understand why you would want a relationship with so many complications when there are so many other girls out there.
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    Is she insured? lol :rolleyes:
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    Just try and think about what sort of future you might have with this girl. If you and her are staying in the same area there will be people,men,and lots of them,I`d imagine who know her,or know of her. Can you imagine your parents reaction ,or any family members who happened to find out? Even if she quit today,if someone finds out about her past. How on earth are you going to explain yourself to people? "Well I met her at first as I was using prostitutes". Wow.Classy. This may come back to haunt you years down the line. It will be a serious skeleton in YOUR closet. Get rid of her now,before you become too emotionally attached. Please.!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay, so i was a regular client with this girl for a couple of months. We used to chat a lot (as well as the sex) each time we met and got to know each other pretty well. I ended up asking her if she wanted to hang out some time, we did, then we started dating a few weeks later.

    The relationship is new, we've literally been dating for just over a week now. Her sleeping with other guys doesn't bother me, as I know she is strict about clients using protection. She also undergoes regular STD/HIV tests, but she is 100% safe from all that.

    I know many of you will probably think, you're crazy for dating a girl like that, BUT, the way I see it is, you pick up a girl from a bar/club and she could have an STD, because you don't know her sexual history after a night together. People get drunk, they sometimes forget about protection, so I don't see that she is a worse person than a random "easy" girl from a club/bar. In fact, I'd say she is safer due to the constant testing she has.

    Anyway, what are your thoughts?
    Should I take a dump before or after lunch.

    On a serious note, why did you make this thread? Big whoop dee doo. Our thoughts on what, you didn't ask any questions, you gave no concerns, other than STDs and saying how she is actually safer than most, like you are defending yourself already from negative comments. You want a medal for dating an escort? Or for the fact you seem so non-chalant about her shagging strangers every day?

    We don't care.

    Your post sounds like you pretend everything is okay, but in fact you are bothered by her sucking **** all day, then coming home to you and you know she's had **** in there before kissing you. You want us to read your story, and go "cool bro, well done, awesome job"?

    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay, it sounds kind of crazy now I look back at the post. I guess I am wondering if the relationship is a good idea or not. I spoke to her about her future in escorting, but she said she is still saving money for college course and University fees. I am finding this hard to believe, as she bought a new car recently and has bought a lot of new furniture for her apartment, including £2,000+ for a sofas.

    She told me that she really likes me and is thinking seriously about giving it up to be with me. But I am starting to doubt whether she will stop it. Also, she doesn't have bookings every single day. She can choose what days clients can see her. Also, she undergoes STD/HIV tests every week. She said she's going to start having more regular tests because she wants to be sure, just so we can have a healthy sex life.

    I would like to see her quit and go to University. She said she'll go to University in our area, so she won't be moving. I know Uni fees are a lot, but she said she's been saving for a 1 year now, so she should have the money.

    She charges £120 an hour, so it doesn't take much maths to workout that she's earning plenty enough. I want to push the issue with her, but I don't want to upset her over it.

    ARRGGHHH!!
    Case in point.

    Now why did you not make this your OP?
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    (Original post by cambio wechsel)
    Seems hard. She's a person, too; why shouldn't she have a relationship? And it's better that she should have with someone who knows the score from the get go.
    Sure she can, but a former client?
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    OP, it's your relationship, your rules. Personally, I can imagine that if the relationship gets more serious, in the future her profession will start to bother you. But, for know, whatever. Enjoy yourself!

    (Original post by pinda.college)
    If you're in a committed (dating) relationship then you would expect an emotional bond with the partner and her to not sleep with other people regardless of how safe it is.
    I guess the point is that when she has sex with other people she's not cheating as such (it's essentially her job), or at least that's how the OP sees it.
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    I don't get how people can be ok with that. How can you? Seriously.
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    (Original post by dartanoir)
    Surely by letting a random girl pick you up you're just as 'easy'? Just a thought..
    This. ^_^
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    I would like to wish you all the best and hope it all works out for you. I just hate to be the profit of doom. I just can not see it working out. Long story short I dated 2 different escort girls a few years ago one for about 5 months and the other for about 7 months. They both broke my heart.
    Most escort girl have a few demands in them that they can not shake off. Be very very carful and stay safe.
    Best thing I can say is find a girlfriend who is not an escort and just look on this as a bit of fun till ya Miss Right comes alone and if she is your Miss Right then lucky you. What's wring with having so e fun.
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    Fair play OP, you make logical arguments and I would do the same as you in your position. After all, an escort was good enough for my boy Vinnie Chase in Entourage.
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    My advice to you is....Don't. Not worth it. I just can't see how it will work out.
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    If things don't work do you mind posting her username, i'd like to hit that sounds like she's got personality.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Okay, it sounds kind of crazy now I look back at the post. I guess I am wondering if the relationship is a good idea or not. I spoke to her about her future in escorting, but she said she is still saving money for college course and University fees. I am finding this hard to believe, as she bought a new car recently and has bought a lot of new furniture for her apartment, including £2,000+ for a sofas.

    She told me that she really likes me and is thinking seriously about giving it up to be with me. But I am starting to doubt whether she will stop it. Also, she doesn't have bookings every single day. She can choose what days clients can see her. Also, she undergoes STD/HIV tests every week. She said she's going to start having more regular tests because she wants to be sure, just so we can have a healthy sex life.

    I would like to see her quit and go to University. She said she'll go to University in our area, so she won't be moving. I know Uni fees are a lot, but she said she's been saving for a 1 year now, so she should have the money.

    She charges £120 an hour, so it doesn't take much maths to workout that she's earning plenty enough. I want to push the issue with her, but I don't want to upset her over it.

    ARRGGHHH!!
    You have to accept her for what she's doing now. You can't mould her into the woman you would like. You have to be cool with the life she's leading at the moment. It might seem amazing you're dating a hot escort at first, but it will eventually sink in she's doing other guys everyday. You need to definitely be cool with that. From reading that i get the impression she's not for you. You will both end up hurt. I'd get out of there.


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    If you're going to date an escort you may as well just establish an open-relationship. No point you being exclusive to her when she's not going to be exclusive to you, even if it's only because of her profession.

    If you're okay with her sleeping with others, sure, whatever rocks your boat!
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    First name isn't Ford by any chance?
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    (Original post by mrknow1966)
    kick the ***** to the curb.... because she will you when the time is right for her..... this wil be a guess.. 1 she moved in with you 2.she will never tell you the whole truth...3 she will cause an argument out of nothing
    and 4 she will drop you like a brick.... so mate get the **** out of it
    You do realise the post is 2014? Why do you call her a *****?
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    You do realise the post is 2014? Why do you call her a *****?
    DAM!!!
    I hope the OP see's this post and gives me her name ;(
 
 
 
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