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    (Original post by ANB1993)
    An unorthodox method would be to show your parents this thread haha with everyone's opinions!
    Ahahahaha It did actually cross my mind but doesnt it look as if im getting people to gang up against them?? :L
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    My mum doesn't really want me to move out either, so what I am doing and would be good for you to do is compromise. Say that you will come back home at least once a fortnight on weekends or something along those lines. That way you can still move out but they will still see you on a regular basis. If the university you really want to go to requires you to be in accommodation because of distance, then you need to tell them that your education comes first.


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    (Original post by hoggjz000)
    Ahahahaha It did actually cross my mind but doesnt it look as if im getting people to gang up against them?? :L
    It has the potential to backfire, however it also has the potential to be a resounding success. If all else fails you could try it I suppose!
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    (Original post by ANB1993)
    It has the potential to backfire, however it also has the potential to be a resounding success. If all else fails you could try it I suppose!
    It can be my final strategy xD
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    If you live near to campus I would (I do) Save myself a fortune living with my fiancé and my parents and I’m 26! And won’t finish degree till 30, however, we do have a deposit saved for a home for when I finish, and I have already done the socializing scene when I was your age.

    With a degree already being £27000+ worth of debt already; adding extra on top of that to live away from home, when you have the opportunity to live at home may not be the smartest move.

    You will have plenty of time for independence the rest of your life after your degree.

    If you are eligible for the maintenance grant; save that money and spend the money you earn from working part time, that way, you may even come out of university with savings.

    If still not sure, spend the first year at home, then if you feel you are missing out then move out in your second year.

    I would say it is your decision but respect your parents views, as hard as it is to admit, 99% of the time they are right.
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    (Original post by Jordan.G)
    My mum doesn't really want me to move out either, so what I am doing and would be good for you to do is compromise. Say that you will come back home at least once a fortnight on weekends or something along those lines. That way you can still move out but they will still see you on a regular basis. If the university you really want to go to requires you to be in accommodation because of distance, then you need to tell them that your education comes first.


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    See the thing is im already at uni, Im going in to my second year and Ive met some good friends that id like to move in with. It sounds stupid but I hate travelling in to town everyday. Id rather live closer Also, I want my independence.....I have two younger siblings and an older sister and they all drive me crazy :L
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    (Original post by xxxxLillyxxxx)
    If you live near to campus I would (I do) Save myself a fortune living with my fiancé and my parents and I’m 26! And won’t finish degree till 30, however, we do have a deposit saved for a home for when I finish, and I have already done the socializing scene when I was your age.

    With a degree already being £27000+ worth of debt already; adding extra on top of that to live away from home, when you have the opportunity to live at home may not be the smartest move.

    You will have plenty of time for independence the rest of your life after your degree.

    If you are eligible for the maintenance grant; save that money and spend the money you earn from working part time, that way, you may even come out of university with savings.

    If still not sure, spend the first year at home, then if you feel you are missing out then move out in your second year.

    I would say it is your decision but respect your parents views, as hard as it is to admit, 99% of the time they are right.
    I can get where your coming from but that was my argument in first year Im in my second year now ... and I would like to move out...
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    Explain that you understand their side but you would like to make your own decision and whatever you choose, hope that they will respect and SUPPORT (not necessarily financially) that decision. And you can always move back after your first year but I feel that the first year is for being in the middle of everything. You make mistakes but you learn from them.


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    You should have gone to a different university then, far away.
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    I know it's a tough one, I am still screaming for my independence at 26, however I know it's not forever and it will save me a small fortune.

    The way you have got look at it is will you regret leaving home and the cost implications or will regret not leaving?

    Your parents may still see you as their baby, so maybe start doing very independent things (as uni isn't really seen as very independent to parents because they see it as an extension from school) and then they might start to coming round to the idea that you will be ok.
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    Well it's your choice. How old are you OP anyway?
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    (Original post by xxxxLillyxxxx)
    I know it's a tough one, I am still screaming for my independence at 26, however I know it's not forever and it will save me a small fortune.

    The way you have got look at it is will you regret leaving home and the cost implications or will regret not leaving?

    Your parents may still see you as their baby, so maybe start doing very independent things (as uni isn't really seen as very independent to parents because they see it as an extension from school) and then they might start to coming round to the idea that you will be ok.
    See, Im very independent at home already... I basically do everything for myself and more. Im just at a point in my life now where I feel that I am ready to move out and I dont wont to rely on my parents for anything...I want to start living my own life.. .
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    (Original post by Foghorn Leghorn)
    Well it's your choice. How old are you OP anyway?
    Im 17 but ill b 18 when my second year starts
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    (Original post by Whitley)
    Explain that you understand their side but you would like to make your own decision and whatever you choose, hope that they will respect and SUPPORT (not necessarily financially) that decision. And you can always move back after your first year but I feel that the first year is for being in the middle of everything. You make mistakes but you learn from them.


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    Well Ive just about finished my first year Ill b in my second year when Im living on my own. I dont want to have to move back tho because that would be admitting my parents were right and that I couldnt cope on my own..
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    (Original post by hoggjz000)
    Im 17 but ill b 18 when my second year starts
    Ohh ok. I suppose I can see where they are coming from in the sense that you aren't a legally an adult yet (unless you're scottish), but the difference between 17 and 18 is nothing to be so pedantic about. If you want to move out then go and explain try to make them understand that it's not because of them, I'm sure they'd get over it eventually.

    Having said that, I really don't see why you want the responsibility of moving out, honestly it sucks. Constant bills, rent, food, and you personally are liable for everything. I moved out the house because I had to, but personally I would have rather stayed and milked it a bit longer.
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    (Original post by Foghorn Leghorn)
    Ohh ok. I suppose I can see where they are coming from in the sense that you aren't a legally an adult yet (unless you're scottish), but the difference between 17 and 18 is nothing to be so pedantic about. If you want to move out then go and explain try to make them understand that it's not because of them, I'm sure they'd get over it eventually.

    Having said that, I really don't see why you want the responsibility of moving out, honestly it sucks. Constant bills, rent, food, and you personally are liable for everything. I moved out the house because I had to, but personally I would have rather stayed and milked it a bit longer.
    I am Scottish I dunno what it is that makes me feel the need to move out... I just feel like I want the independence and freedom that comes with living on ur own
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    If you really want to leave then sit them down, tell them how much you value their opinion etc, however, you need to do this for your, or you will always be wondering.

    Personally I would hold out for two years (they will fly by) and think of the money you will save. I know I keep mentioning the money but trust me, I have seen plenty of my friends being more fustrated about not having any money and being in debt, than they were in their first year at uni living at home with their parents.
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    (Original post by xxxxLillyxxxx)
    If you really want to leave then sit them down, tell them how much you value their opinion etc, however, you need to do this for your, or you will always be wondering.

    Personally I would hold out for two years (they will fly by) and think of the money you will save. I know I keep mentioning the money but trust me, I have seen plenty of my friends being more fustrated about not having any money and being in debt, than they were in their first year at uni living at home with their parents.
    I do understand what your saying and honestly I have thought this through I do want to have the experience though....
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    (Original post by hoggjz000)
    I am Scottish I dunno what it is that makes me feel the need to move out... I just feel like I want the independence and freedom that comes with living on ur own
    Fair enough.
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    In that case tell them, tell them what you have said on here and show them you can do it (more pressure, but sure you can cope)

    The softer and slower you talk, the more people have to listen, the more they will take in what you have to say; plus sounds like you are in control (10 years of team meeting experience at work on that one)

    Good luck with it all
 
 
 
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