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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am in the same position

    But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too

    I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
    Definitely break up with them, in that case. And scrap what I said before about doing it in a private area - if they've made threats like that do it in a local cafe or something so they can't do anything.

    Also, I'd recommend mentioning it to a family member just incase. It's better to be safe than sorry. You don't know how he may react to it all. :erm:
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    You want to know how to break up or how to cope being single?

    Breaking up's easier said than done, and especially in your case you seem to have gotten used to a bad relationship. I think you need to work out for yourself not only why you want to break up with him, but also why now. That should give you some strength. If you've felt wretched for 3 years because of your relationship, you're undoubtedly making the right decision to call time on it, too.

    As for coping with with being, it's tricky without knowing what your likes and dislikes are. But what you ought to do is keep doing the stuff you did without him (time with your friends, time alone etc), and see if you can find something else you enjoy to fill the time you would have otherwise spent with him.
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    I'm scared I won't find anyone else. I'm just so ugly, no one will ever love me. What if this is the only person who will ever want me.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am in the same position

    But I am not scared to be single....I am scared of what he will do to me if I properly break up with him. He has made threats like he will kill me or my family in the past and has said he will take his revenge in whatever way he can. As he has serious anger issues I am sure he will too

    I don't love him and I want to escape but I am scared of what may happen
    For you, you should wire yourself up or keep your phone on record and record him threatening you. When you've collected enough evidence, go to the police and ask for your bf to not be allowed near you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm scared I won't find anyone else. I'm just so ugly, no one will ever love me. What if this is the only person who will ever want me.
    You are much better off to be single than in a bad relationship, just enjoy yourself when you are single, you are only 19. On another note I have merged your two threads together as they were similar
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    He's taking advantage of you sweetie.
    Even if he was looking at porn, he shouldn't have photos of other naked girls on his laptop, let alone a girl he knows. The fact it looked like a girl he was exchanging flirty emails with and even spoke about him seeing her 'vajayjay', this should tell you enough what's happening, and what kind of a boy he is. he wants one thing and one thing only, and if he can't get it from you, he'll get it from someone else.

    end it whilst you've got your pride x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm scared I won't find anyone else. I'm just so ugly, no one will ever love me. What if this is the only person who will ever want me.
    Even if that were true (which I'm sure it's not), there's nothing wrong with being independent and single, and it's certainly better than your current situation.
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    Awh bro, come here. Let me take some of those feels off of you, I know you can't hold them all. I genuinely am upset for you. This is quite clearly causing some mental distress and your repetitive and fairly obsessive behaviour is quite worrying to me. This is something you need to deal eith as soon as possible, don't shift the blame upon yourself; you sound lovely. You aren't going crazy, the pictures probably were of her. Do yourself a favour and either fix it or move on, it's not worth your sanity.
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    (Original post by Leighcakes)
    Definitely break up with them, in that case. And scrap what I said before about doing it in a private area - if they've made threats like that do it in a local cafe or something so they can't do anything.

    Also, I'd recommend mentioning it to a family member just incase. It's better to be safe than sorry. You don't know how he may react to it all. :erm:
    A real man never hits a women or even raises his hands. I guess she is the only one that can judge what can of mentality he has. Hopefully it doesn't result to that, if your going to break up with him, I agree a private area...even a coffee shop whatever. Just show the guy respect, as you must of loved him, for it to last that long . Also its always to break up on good terms.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Few months ago, I was on my boyfriend's laptop. Tried to click on My Computer as was fixing something, accidentally clicked on My Photos. Saw naked photo of someone, an amateur one, taken by someone themselves. Looked like a friend of his. Had suspicions, let go, went to then go check my gmail.

    He was already logged onto his gmail. Not proud of this, but saw conversation with girl I thought the naked photo was of. Quickly saw her talking about "not letting [him] see more photos of her vajayjay". That's all I saw, I shut it down and went into shock. Basically connected the two. Conversation dated in the last month or so.

    Exploded at him, he told me it was a pornographic photo, downloaded it as his internet doesn't allow him to watch videos. I don't care about him watching or looking at porn. I care it was potentially a girl he knew. He used to like her and they used to send each other lots of naked photos. This photo, however, was dated a month before. I googled her, keep googling her, the face looks the same, the body shape looks the same, everything looks the same. He convinced me of the above story, just a photo of a website. I never fully believed him tbh.

    Suspicions are rising again. Had a fight, and now I've brought it up. She looks so similar. So incredibly similar. I know I sound like a psycho looking her up but I could swear on my life it is her.

    What the hell do I do. Relationship of 3 years. Everything feels wrong anyway with him, maybe I should just stop kidding myself he's not lying. He said he's been cheated on before and never would do it to anyone else. Maybe he just meant physical cheating. She lives in America. SHe looks so similar and I'm going mad, what do I do?
    Do you go to the University of Leeds by any chance? My GF has had similar conversations with a guy from the UK, shes in the US.
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    (Original post by mikeyd85)
    Better?

    What a load of ****. I won't hear that from anyone. Nobody is innately better than anyone else. People are different, they show their strengths and hide their weakness. When you compare against another, you compare your weaknesses to the stenghts they show in public. This is a twisted view on things and is wrong.

    Sometimes in life **** just happens. You're young, if you've got any doubts about this, just end it. There's no point hanging on to something that doesn't, make you happy. If he's happier with her, then let it be. Fighting a war in a far off land over something you're not sure about just seems a little pointless.

    If I'm reading you wrong here, just say. But your heart doesn't seem in it.

    If your worried about being single, please, don't be. Having someone for the sake of it is just pointless. Be happy in yourself and shared your life with only those you care about. It's an easy way to be very happy.
    If I could thumb you up twice, Sir.
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    (Original post by Annuhlees)
    You know what you've got to do.
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    Post the picture on here?
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    He probably pictures most girls naked anyway so there's not much difference, is there?
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    He probably pictures most girls naked anyway so there's not much difference, is there?
    Then what's the point in having a girlfriend if you want to have sex with other women and are interested in them? What is the point hurting someone in the process?
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    Personally this would be a deal breaker for me, and I hate to say this, but it does sound like he's guilty as charged :/ if you're not happy with him anyway, you know what to do. You deserve better. Even if it had just been the naked photos of a girl, mine would have been out on his ass. ^_^
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    No, you're right to be worried. You should try find out for sure because if he's in love with you then why is he sharing naked photos with another girl?
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    Speaking from experience - run, it's never just one girl and it's never just one time
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She is 24/25. My boyfriend is 25, I am 19 (nearly 20), age gap, ldr, the works. maybe he wanted her. she's probably better than me
    We're not even going to start on this. Simply focus on some points here because I tell you what. I was that guy. And he's about to learn the hard way that he is that guy.

    He's a ****. He's not considering what is best for your relationship and quite frankly I don't think he cares. He might like you, or actually love you, but he doesn't deserve you right now and you don't deserve to be treated like this.

    He's broken your confidence and the worst thing is he doesn't even realise it.

    You're young and you can do better. Take this from a guy who didn't consider a girl enough in the past and give her what she deserved. You need to move on from him.

    To be honest though it sounds like you really know this already. It'll be tough but it's for the best.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Been with him since 16, now 19. 3 whole years of my life. It's just not right anymore, I have no more confidence, everyday I feel wretched and have done for the 3 years. I think he might have cheated on me too.

    Sounds stupid but I'm scared to break up and be single. Can someone give me some reassurance on how to do it? This is my first relationship.
    Sounds like my first relationship! Luckily that only lasted 18 months.

    Just tell him that hes destroyed your confidence and you feel he always compares you too his ex, it isnt working and you are unhappy in the relationship so you are breaking up with him. Good Luck!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm scared I won't find anyone else. I'm just so ugly, no one will ever love me. What if this is the only person who will ever want me.
    I found someone else and I used to be minging so don't worry Theres people out there for everyone
 
 
 
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