If you aren't comfortable around them then don't live with them.
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- 15-05-2013 02:22
- 15-05-2013 11:13
I like your style.
(Original post by Snagprophet)
- 15-05-2013 11:19
Why is this in relationships? Are you planning to have a relationship with a gay person?
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- 15-05-2013 15:28
I am a gay guy and I see your point. To be honest, I don't have shall we say, feminine characteristics and flamboyant behaviours like your housemates do. However, I would say my voice is quite feminine and 'camp'. But whenever I've said 'I'm gay' everyone has said 'really' or been surprised by it because I don't act it.
My point is, is that it will take time to get used to unfamiliar surroundings. Personally I understand your point. I have met one really feminine gay guy and I just felt completely awkward when I was with him, because we work make-up, spoke in a feminine way and walked in very traditional lady-like manner. But, I got over it and saw past it. You should not let their sexuality define them as a person.
I don't think it's about tolerance like other people have mentioned. I believe it's about acceptance and being more open to new people and not 'tolerating' their behaviour, but accepting it as seeing and experiencing it yourself. That way, in the future you shall be more accepting to other people customs, regardless of their sexuality.
- 15-05-2013 16:48
I completely understand your point.
If a friend of mine told me he was gay, it wouldn't really change my friendship with them.
But I find camp guys so incredibly annoying, that maybe people falsely assume I'm homophobic. But it's not the gayness, it's the campness that annoys me! Kind of in a similar way that overly hysterical women are irritating... the sort that scream and shriek at everything.
If you don't like camp people, make sure you explore other options before it is too late!
- 15-05-2013 19:35
I wouldn't sign a contract to move in with anyone you're not comfortable living with myself.. regardless of whatever it might be that makes you feel uncomfortable. Most straight males find the subset of gay people that is in-your-face/overly camp or attention seeking gay guys intolerable to a certain extent so whilst tolerance is preferable in principal, struggling with it is not uncommon and doesn't make you a bad person, or even homophobic, relax
- 15-05-2013 19:40
How long have you actually lived with them before you found out they were gay.
So what if there gay , they might feel uncomfortable living with a straight guy but I bet they don't whine about it.
Not fair that people are predujice ageist gay people. What if they started being horrible to you because you are straight.
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