I'm quite similar - I grew up with very argumentative parents (who eventually divorced) which has instilled in me a very low tolerance for people who create drama/start arguments. So first of all, I'm very unlikely to get into a friendship/relationship with someone who has that can of personality and secondly if some one ever does raise their voice at me or take a certain kind or tone - I just refuse to rise to the bait. I just walk away from it. I'm not a push over - I've just had to listen to way too many arguments in my life that I just refuse to engage in it. So yeah, I think it's possible for a couple to not argue - it's healthy to have disagreements but you can discuss them without having massive arguments.(Original post by Anonymous)
Different couples have different styles. Me and my boyfriend don't really argue/fight, we talk things through. We've been together 4 years, so I can't take anybody seriously who says you need to argue or that not doing so signifies an "unhealthy" relationship.
I think some couples find shouting and arguing cathartic, the drama adds excitement, and as it is their "norm" it doesn't cause great distress. It doesn't affect them or their relationship in the way it might affect others.
My parents argued and fought a lot where I was growing up. It wasn't cathartic though, it was distressing and never got anyone anywhere. I wouldn't want to repeat that. Having acted as a sort of counselor for diffusing my parents' arguments over many years, I'm very competent at avoiding an escalation/argument and being a diplomat. I'm not a pushover but shouting and having this big argument drama, I just couldn't deal with that in a relationship. I will always go for remaining calm and talking and listening to one another. My boyfriend is the same, he prefers peace!
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- 18-05-2013 15:38
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(Original post by reapingunicorn32)
- 18-05-2013 15:39
I think that's strange though. How often do you speak to or see each other? I'd be a bit suspicious. If you have no problems then fair enough but try talking to your other half and see if they have any issues they would like to address as no one likes to hold anything back. Just do that so then you both know that if there are any problems then it can easily be sorted out. . Hope I helped a tad
- 18-05-2013 16:13
It's good that you don't argue! Every relationship is different and you shouldn't feel odd because you don't argue. I personally love a good argument. The making up is always the best part.
- 18-05-2013 17:54
Wow I'm so jealous! My boyfriend and I argue about once a week. I don't know a single couple that have never argued!
(Original post by NickyJWatkinson)
- 18-05-2013 18:05
My boyfriend and I have been together nearly two years, never had an argument - again, I don't think it's because we 'don't communicate' or bottle up our feelings, we're just good at discussing any issues that arise calmly. That said, there aren't really any issues to discuss most of the time - we're still young (19), I'm on a gap year and he's doing a foundation degree, we still live near each other and see each other at least once a week, neither of us has trust issues and I can't really think of anything that we could argue about, if that makes sense? Like, neither of us is the kind of person to flirt with other people or not put the effort in to meet up, and it's not like there's much else to fight about at this age...