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Breaking up with GF by ignoring her?

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Reply 20

I love shopping

What are you? Like 10??

Reply 21

stargirl63

I'm glad you're ending it..... clearly she deserves better.

Reply 22

InconspicuousGuy

Grow a pair and tell her

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Reply 23

chukster97

Original post by Holby_fanatic

Be a man and say it to her face!

****ing idiot.

yeesh, if I stereotyped women you ladies would go apes**t. I guess life isnt fair

Reply 24

Holby_fanatic

Original post by chukster97

yeesh, if I stereotyped women you ladies would go apes**t. I guess life isnt fair

Would you like me to change it to, "Be a decent person"?

Also, I wouldn't go all funny about it. I couldn't care less about people's stereotypes to be honest.

Reply 25

RHCPfan

Say it to her face. After 6 months she deserves that or a phone call.

Reply 26

Marco1

Clearly not mature enough for a relationship. That's low man. Too selfish to do the decent thing.

Reply 27

gemmam

Grow up and tell her straight out! My ex dumped me this way and it was a horrible experience, I also think I would've gotten over the breakup much quicker if he'd told me to my face.

Reply 28

squealia

Original post by After7

I met her at university and have been together for over 6 months. We've both gone back to our own hometowns now and i don't feel like being in a long distance relationship and there are things about her past I don't like but don't wanna hear her sob over it either.

So think I'm just gonna ignore her texts and calls. Is the fade out ever an acceptable method?

If you do this you deserve to be single for the rest of your life. You have no idea how much confusion and pain it causes people. Grow a spine and tell her its over!

Reply 29

crazytown2014

There's nothing wrong with it. If she loses her confidence in herself and gets depressed that's her problem. But I would leave a text, it doesn't hurt.

Reply 30

crazytown2014

Original post by squealia

If you do this you deserve to be single for the rest of your life. You have no idea how much confusion and pain it causes people. Grow a spine and tell her its over!

I don't usually reply to other comments but what the hell.
It's not about having a spine, people lose interest. You're responsible for your own self-esteem, not other people. If it causes you confusion and pain it's your problem.

Reply 31

Ronove

People need closure. Shutting down all contact and giving her no opportunity to have a brief chat with you and find out what the deal is will make her a) freak out for days and b) eventually torture herself thinking it was because of any and all the things she most fears someone would break up with her over, when it is likely none of them. Tell her it's over, give her a reason, make sure you convey that you've thought about it properly, give her a chance to say a thing or two and ask questions.

Reply 32

redferry

Why would anyone EVER think this was a good idea?

Reply 33

StarvingAutist

Original post by Clip

Don't know about fade out, but I once just went off-grid. I got really fed up with this girl and didn't tell her I was leaving town (forever). I just said "see you tomorrow" and then moved away.

Holy ****ing OUCH.

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Reply 34

Sizzzla112

Ouch. Just be honest and tell her. Ignoring someone in the hope they'll p*ss off is plain ruuude.

Reply 35

Lucevar

It won't cost you anything to tell her. If you're really worried about dealing with the fallout, send her a text message or a facebook message and then block/defriend her. It's much more respectful to let her know in person, but if that's not an option then at least let her know.

Don't just disappear. Humans focus more attention on uncertainty - "Why won't he reply? Did he get in a car crash? Is he okay? Maybe his phone is broken...? Why is he suddenly ... not there?" Speaking from experience, that's absolutely torturous.