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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Are you by any chance judgemental and offensive?
    That might be a reason for the problems in your own life.
    so you are fat...
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    From your (very small) picture OP you actually look very pretty. It might be that you're over analysing the situation... A lot of guys are actually intimidated by good looking girls and find it easier to talk to those they're not attracted to!
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    Thankyou! You're all being pretty helpful and making me feel better anyway! 😄
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    No problem. Just don't worry and be yourself! And if all fails just get wasted!
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    (Original post by SHINeexo)
    Yeah of course appearance isnt the major issue but it is one of the issues. It is sad, but a lot of guys simply do not approach girls because they aren't pretty (unless you're sat in class with them or at a workshop)
    Many guys are very friendly too, that's why she needs to seek friendship from different guys than those she's trying to be friends with right now.
    I would say a good technique is just to be yourself, and not arse lick anybody so they can like you.


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    lol i was joking. but there is truth to it i think youll agree, but it should be natural, not something forced.
    most of my female friends said something like 'youre amazing/interesting/smart/funny' or teasing 'youre so arrogant/bad boy/troublemaker etc. when we first got to know each other.
    but yeah dont be an arse licker OP, find the right balance.
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    (Original post by MichaelChm)
    so you are fat...
    No, just not a narrow minded idiot..
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    No, just not a narrow minded idiot..
    I am just taking the piss out of you, thats it.
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    (Original post by eemmmmaaaaa)
    So this might sound a bit desperate but I thought I'd ask anyway.

    Most of my friends have guys wanting to talk to them or have a lot of guy friends, they got pictures with guys at prom and just socialised with them where as guys never really start conversations with me or even wanna be friends. I'm pretty confident, pretty however not extremely beautiful and I'm not really mean to people, just wanna know what I'm doing wrong? I'll text guys sometimes but they either won't reply or will talk for a while then end up giving up replying to me though I'm not exactly clingy, any tips?

    Weirdly I used to get along really well with guys a few years ago but I kind of changed my appearance since then (for the better in my opinion).

    I know this is pathetic but I thought it'd be better to just ask for some tips rather than moping over it so don't be too harsh, thanks!

    Also feel free to ask any questions cause this is making me so insecure
    I'm a guy. Let's chat

    How old are you btw?
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    Here's my perspective as a male if it helps you at all.

    From all my years of living if there's one thing I've learnt it's that everybody is insecure on some level, some more than others. This includes myself. Nobody wants to be on the receiving end of negative attention, so sometimes it's more difficult to reach out to someone if you're afraid of being rejected. It's a natural thing that everyone has, regardless of how pretty or attractive they may or may not be.

    Speaking for myself there are always girls out there that I find somewhat intimidating whether it be due to their appearance or their personality, but as I've gotten older I've realised that they're every bit as human as I am. It's easy to think of the opposite sex as a foreign concept but in reality we're all just human. So with that being said, how would you like people to approach you? What kind of things would you like them to ask you? As soon as you can answer that, flip the situation on its head and start approaching others. As a guy it is a little tiring being expected to make the first move, but it's something that we all subscribe to in the end. I'm sure if you approached a guy he'd feel pretty damn good about it.

    In terms of people approaching you, look happy, be friendly, be talkative; generally be approachable. It's much easier said than done, and it can be a bit nervy at times but just go for it. You'll be surprised how receptive other people are once they realise how friendly you can be.

    EDIT: Apologies for the essay, going to University has cost me my brevity. Damn dissertation.
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    I've been doing a lot of socialising over the past week and watching others do the same. Some girls won't say a thing to you (hardy a smile) unless you make the first move and break the ice, then they talk away very well. Other girls are naturally chatty with guys and really know how to chat to anyone and are very interesting, full of stories and jokes.

    You need to be the chatty and cool girl. If the guy is not bothered its his loss.
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    (Original post by eemmmmaaaaa)
    So this might sound a bit desperate but I thought I'd ask anyway.

    Most of my friends have guys wanting to talk to them or have a lot of guy friends, they got pictures with guys at prom and just socialised with them where as guys never really start conversations with me or even wanna be friends. I'm pretty confident, pretty however not extremely beautiful and I'm not really mean to people, just wanna know what I'm doing wrong? I'll text guys sometimes but they either won't reply or will talk for a while then end up giving up replying to me though I'm not exactly clingy, any tips?

    Weirdly I used to get along really well with guys a few years ago but I kind of changed my appearance since then (for the better in my opinion).

    I know this is pathetic but I thought it'd be better to just ask for some tips rather than moping over it so don't be too harsh, thanks!

    Also feel free to ask any questions cause this is making me so insecure
    Make yourself more attractive, you are likely not attractive enough.

    btw op are you fat
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    Any rumor about you? Sometimes rumors can be true.

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