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    (Original post by Xinho)
    Why is it so creepy and why get scared? If you don't want to just say no. No big deal. Do you have mental problems?
    Use your brain. Firstly it takes someone by surprise which is often inappropriate and rude, secondly it is very presumptuous and thirdly, and sadly, girls are sometimes at threat from strange males.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Use your brain. Firstly it takes someone by surprise which is often inappropriate and rude, secondly it is very presumptuous and thirdly, and sadly, girls are sometimes at threat from strange males.
    You keep telling yourself that mate, more women for us

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    THe way some people are describing it is as if it always has to be creepy. There are some who do this in a creepy way, and others who don't and manage to be successful in getting numbers. Up to the individual on which path he manages to land on.
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    In a restaurant it is easy.

    'When they have finished their drinks can you send another two over there please? Thanks' - to the waiter.

    Easy. The waiter if he has a brain and is a wingman and not a cockblock will tell them you sent them over. Easy as that really. You have now gained their attention without looking needy and you have also made it easier to go speak to them. In a lot of situations women often come and talk to you if you do this to say thanks.
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    (Original post by Zarek)
    Use your brain. Firstly it takes someone by surprise which is often inappropriate and rude, secondly it is very presumptuous and thirdly, and sadly, girls are sometimes at threat from strange males.
    Ar last a man with brains
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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    In a restaurant it is easy.

    'When they have finished their drinks can you send another two over there please? Thanks' - to the waiter.

    Easy. The waiter if he has a brain and is a wingman and not a cockblock will tell them you sent them over. Easy as that really. You have now gained their attention without looking needy and you have also made it easier to go speak to them. In a lot of situations women often come and talk to you if you do this to say thanks.
    no lol dont be a little ***** who buys girls drinks for free thats dead im not an atm
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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    In a restaurant it is easy.

    'When they have finished their drinks can you send another two over there please? Thanks' - to the waiter.

    Easy. The waiter if he has a brain and is a wingman and not a cockblock will tell them you sent them over. Easy as that really. You have now gained their attention without looking needy and you have also made it easier to go speak to them. In a lot of situations women often come and talk to you if you do this to say thanks.
    Lol good job, now you are a girls ATM while she is getting smashed by other guys. This is probably worse advice, you never buy girls YOU DO NOT KNOW drinks it makes you look weak. Trying to buy affection, you might as well get an escort.
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    (Original post by siamakdie)
    Lol good job, now you are a girls ATM while she is getting smashed by other guys. This is probably worse advice, you never buy girls YOU DO NOT KNOW drinks it makes you look weak. Trying to buy affection, you might as well get an escort.
    Not really. If she comes over to you then she's interested in getting to know you unless its just to say thanks. If not then she isn't. Buying women drinks doesn't make you look weak. It does if you continuously buy them yes. The only person who wouldn't buy women drinks is a cheapskate tbh. At the end of the day its nothing. As for buying affection, not really. Its just an easy way to break the ice with someone. They are under no obligation to take things further.

    Since when was it a weakness to be nice to people? What a strange mentality you have. I'm buying them drinks to break the ice and to then get to know them more, not want a guarantee lay. Loads of my female friends I've bought drinks for like this and after we have got to know one another, it didn't work out as we have wanted different things, they've offered to buy me drinks etc. and we have stayed good friends.

    If you go out with the mindset like a predator of getting laid then that is hilarious. I go out with the mindset of having a good time and meeting new people to get to know. If I meet a woman who is interested in me I won't have sex with her anyway. I would just give her my number and ask her to call me when she is free.

    Buying drinks for someone isn't a sign of weakness and they are under no obligation to do anything with you or even speak to you. Its a simple gift, an act of kindness, and it is not a transaction as you claim.

    At the end of the day its just a drink or two if she is with a friend at a bar. Its not even £10 is it? Hardly going to leave me in poverty being nice and a lot of people spend more than that on cigarettes and I don't smoke.

    I don't get this mentality whereby if you're nice to someone or buy them something there must be an ulterior motive or you should expect something return. Its really weird.
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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    Not really. If she comes over to you then she's interested in getting to know you unless its just to say thanks. If not then she isn't. Buying women drinks doesn't make you look weak. It does if you continuously buy them yes. The only person who wouldn't buy women drinks is a cheapskate tbh. At the end of the day its nothing. As for buying affection, not really. Its just an easy way to break the ice with someone. They are under no obligation to take things further.

    Since when was it a weakness to be nice to people? What a strange mentality you have. I'm buying them drinks to break the ice and to then get to know them more, not want a guarantee lay. Loads of my female friends I've bought drinks for like this and after we have got to know one another, it didn't work out as we have wanted different things, they've offered to buy me drinks etc. and we have stayed good friends.

    If you go out with the mindset like a predator of getting laid then that is hilarious. I go out with the mindset of having a good time and meeting new people to get to know. If I meet a woman who is interested in me I won't have sex with her anyway. I would just give her my number and ask her to call me when she is free.

    Buying drinks for someone isn't a sign of weakness and they are under no obligation to do anything with you or even speak to you. Its a simple gift, an act of kindness, and it is not a transaction as you claim.

    At the end of the day its just a drink or two if she is with a friend at a bar. Its not even £10 is it? Hardly going to leave me in poverty being nice and a lot of people spend more than that on cigarettes and I don't smoke.

    I don't get this mentality whereby if you're nice to someone or buy them something there must be an ulterior motive or you should expect something return. Its really weird.
    This man speaks sense. Too many stupid little boys in this thread. I've bought random people drinks (as a woman), rolled cigarettes for them and I have no intention of taking things further with them. The fact that these boys see every interaction as "smash" opportunity put so much pressure and sexual desperation on the situation and boy, it shows! And when we can feel that sexual desperation thats when we'd deem men really creepy. Probably put 5 tonnes of sleaze on us in the first 5 mins and call us a bunch of ****s if we decline. That's just being **** with women.

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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    Not really. If she comes over to you then she's interested in getting to know you unless its just to say thanks. If not then she isn't. Buying women drinks doesn't make you look weak. It does if you continuously buy them yes. The only person who wouldn't buy women drinks is a cheapskate tbh. At the end of the day its nothing. As for buying affection, not really. Its just an easy way to break the ice with someone. They are under no obligation to take things further.

    Since when was it a weakness to be nice to people? What a strange mentality you have. I'm buying them drinks to break the ice and to then get to know them more, not want a guarantee lay. Loads of my female friends I've bought drinks for like this and after we have got to know one another, it didn't work out as we have wanted different things, they've offered to buy me drinks etc. and we have stayed good friends.

    If you go out with the mindset like a predator of getting laid then that is hilarious. I go out with the mindset of having a good time and meeting new people to get to know. If I meet a woman who is interested in me I won't have sex with her anyway. I would just give her my number and ask her to call me when she is free.

    Buying drinks for someone isn't a sign of weakness and they are under no obligation to do anything with you or even speak to you. Its a simple gift, an act of kindness, and it is not a transaction as you claim.

    At the end of the day its just a drink or two if she is with a friend at a bar. Its not even £10 is it? Hardly going to leave me in poverty being nice and a lot of people spend more than that on cigarettes and I don't smoke.

    I don't get this mentality whereby if you're nice to someone or buy them something there must be an ulterior motive or you should expect something return. Its really weird.
    You said you buy random girls drinks, now you are saying you get approached then buy them drinks. No wonder, you are probably known as the guy who gives out free drinks to the girls who go leave with other guys. either way, i am getting numbers whilst you are buying drinks for random probably ugly girls, and going back home to watch porn. People here saying it is sad/creepy are deluded, i do it and have not got a bad experience to date, just women who react positively and give their numbers.

    Btw about the money thing. I make an amount that is considered very good (Inheritance and my future job sector), If you are spending money to get a girls attention that is plain sad, try talking to a girl instead. I would feel ashamed to need to buy something to get a girls attention, it just means she thinks you are a beta white knight who will buy her stuff.
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    Right personally from a girls perspectives, I hate it when guys shout down the street to me. Like I'll be walking home from college and hear guys behind me saying "YO. You."
    That way, I completely ignore because it is down right rude, or when they whistle!
    If you like this girl at the restaurant and you aren't taking pictures of her or acting all creepy, then by all means go for it and ask for her number
    I don't see what's creepy about it. I think you should approach her and have a small conversation with her, then honestly tell her you find her pretty and was wondering if you could have her number?
    If you see her often, then I suggest you don't ask for her number straight away but try make friends with her first


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    (Original post by siamakdie)
    You said you buy random girls drinks, now you are saying you get approached then buy you drinks. No wonder, you are probably known as the guy who gives out free drinks to the girls who go leave with other guys. either way, i am getting numbers whilst you are buying drinks for random probably ugly girls, and going back home to watch porn. People here saying it is sad/creepy are deluded, i do it and have not got a bad experience to date, just women who react positively and their numbers.
    Can you actually discuss things properly? I guess not.

    I am currently seeing someone so its no big issue and the way you talk about things it sounds like you go to nightclubs. I do not. I only go to decent bars and restaurants.

    Btw about the money thing. I make an amount that is considered very good (Inheritance and my future job sector), If you are spending money to get a girls attention that is plain sad, try talking to a girl instead. I would feel ashamed to need to buy something to get a girls attention, it just means you she think you are a beta white knight who will buy her stuff.
    Not really. It means I care more about social interaction and meeting people as opposed to money.

    Its not about getting their attention. Its about being nice and wanting to meet new people.

    I'm done discussing things with you to be honest. I'm quite happy and don't need the last word. I was done being 12 years of age over 10 years ago.
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    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    This man speaks sense. Too many stupid little boys in this thread. I've bought random people drinks (as a woman), rolled cigarettes for them and I have no intention of taking things further with them. The fact that these boys see every interaction as "smash" opportunity put so much pressure and sexual desperation on the situation and boy, it shows! And when we can feel that sexual desperation thats when we'd deem men really creepy. Probably put 5 tonnes of sleaze on us in the first 5 mins and call us a bunch of ****s if we decline. That's just being **** with women.

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    Exactly. Buying drinks for people is a good way to break the ice and meet new people of whatever gender. I'm guessing all the ones complaining its wrong are the introverts with no confidence to do it to be honest.
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    (Original post by siamakdie)
    I stop every attractive girl, compliment her,then i small talk and ask for her number.The way you put it is as if everyone who talks to random girls off the street does it by asking directions and then her number or straight up asking for her number. You are worrying too much about "context", just admit it, you are too much of a pussy to do it. I mean this ain't for everyone, if you look like an awkward guy then you will fail like the guy i was with 2 days ago, 600 approaches 6 numbers. If you look decent or even attractive, girls love giving their number to you as long as you are nice to them and have decent game.

    I am amazed all the women here are against it, when i do it the girls blush and love it with positive replies like "thankyou", or "you are so sweet".
    You're probably going for utter rots

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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    Can you actually discuss things properly? I guess not.

    I am currently seeing someone so its no big issue and the way you talk about things it sounds like you go to nightclubs. I do not. I only go to decent bars and restaurants.


    Not really. It means I care more about social interaction and meeting people as opposed to money.

    Its not about getting their attention. Its about being nice and wanting to meet new people.

    I'm done discussing things with you to be honest. I'm quite happy and don't need the last word. I was done being 12 years of age over 10 years ago.
    I don't go clubs, not my thing. I don't drink/smoke, which is why i expand my social circle by approaching women and being as polite as possible. Anyways, got to get ready i don't want to spend my Saturday indoors debating if i should or should not approach women, i have nothing to lose and it is a good feeling to get a girls number by relying on your game/looks instead of money.
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    I don't like it I usually pretend I'm on my phone or something whenever guys try to holler at me in the street
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    (Original post by siamakdie)
    You said you buy random girls drinks, now you are saying you get approached then buy them drinks. No wonder, you are probably known as the guy who gives out free drinks to the girls who go leave with other guys. either way, i am getting numbers whilst you are buying drinks for random probably ugly girls, and going back home to watch porn. People here saying it is sad/creepy are deluded, i do it and have not got a bad experience to date, just women who react positively and give their numbers.

    Btw about the money thing. I make an amount that is considered very good (Inheritance and my future job sector), If you are spending money to get a girls attention that is plain sad, try talking to a girl instead. I would feel ashamed to need to buy something to get a girls attention, it just means she thinks you are a beta white knight who will buy her stuff.

    If you happen to buy drinks for girls who turn out to be gold digging alcoholics then that's obviously your own fault for not being able to appropriately judge whether or not this girl should be approached. Don't put all females under this category. And buying ONE drink doesn't make you weak, it's chivalry and how normal people initiate conversation. You seem to have a serious problem with your ego and I don't know what kind of naive females would ever give you their number, so please stop acting like you're drowning in pussy because you probably wouldn't be on TSR if you were.
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    (Original post by Sanctimonious)
    In a restaurant it is easy.

    'When they have finished their drinks can you send another two over there please? Thanks' - to the waiter.

    Easy. The waiter if he has a brain and is a wingman and not a cockblock will tell them you sent them over. Easy as that really. You have now gained their attention without looking needy and you have also made it easier to go speak to them. In a lot of situations women often come and talk to you if you do this to say thanks.
    These days this type of behaviour commonly leads to complaints and to the waiter being fired.
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    (Original post by Old_Simon)
    These days this type of behaviour commonly leads to complaints and to the waiter being fired.
    What bull****. The waiter is delivering drinks. Any complaints would be directed to the person who bought them if the woman took an insta-dislike to the guy who bought them.
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    (Original post by Eveiebaby)
    What bull****. The waiter is delivering drinks. Any complaints would be directed to the person who bought them if the woman took an insta-dislike to the guy who bought them.
    Trust me. You might hang out in cheap dives but in any reputable establishment this is treated like sexual harassment that the waiter become complicit in. No doubt in your world; old slappers get drinks delivered by all and sundry but decent women find it intrusive.
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    (Original post by Old_Simon)
    Trust me. You might hang out in cheap dives but in any reputable establishment this is treated like sexual harassment that the waiter become complicit in. No doubt in your world; old slappers get drinks delivered by all and sundry but decent women find it intrusive.
    Thanks for assuming where I hang out and getting it wrong. I love TSR.
 
 
 
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