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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know I have been bombarding you with questions, but do you know if there are any ways to overcome social anxiety, and nervousness/anxiousness in general?

    It's OK. Anything to at least try and help.

    Err, I think just put yourself in situations where you have to socialise. Even for a little bit. Gradually as you get used to it, you can increase the levels of socialization.
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    I'm starting uni in September, and I'm going to be moving away from home, and living in the halls for the first time. In the past from primary school to sixth form, I've always been kind of a loner, sticking to only a few close friends if I have to.
    One of my mutual friends is going to the same uni as me(he lives near me and we do not know each other well), and he found people near my area that are going to the same uni. We met up once as a group, but after that meeting, I missed the next gathering, and I'm afraid they've become closer as a group without me. I feel pretty awkward around them and have nothing much to say, so the only way I grab the group's attention is by making irrelevant remarks, which upon reflection, comes off as a little bit annoying/weird. They are going to have 2 more gatherings, of which one I have told them I won't be going.

    I know I am acting anti-social in a sense, but I feel a lot of (social) anxiety when I meet in groups, fearing that I'll say something stupid, and I use that as an excuse to avoid the group like the plague.

    So, I know my first impression isn't good, but how do I not come across as weird to them?

    I'm also afraid I might do the same for fresher's week.

    There are lots of kind souls on this forum, could one of you advice me on what to do?
    hmm I wasnt great...still amnt socially wise

    its all about practice

    you have the rest of summer! put yourself out there and push yourself only way!

    practice chatting to people..try look them in the face a good bit to get used to it

    yeh so volunteer somewhere..join youth club

    uni will be awkward..but aslong as you get there eventually its grand

    but its best to deal with an issue like this head on

    any questions pm me away
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    (Original post by RHyoudon'kno)
    It's OK. Anything to at least try and help.

    Err, I think just put yourself in situations where you have to socialise. Even for a little bit. Gradually as you get used to it, you can increase the levels of socialization.
    Ok. Thank you so much. I guess this means I should try and meet up(with this group), and stop avoiding them.
    I guess its really all in my head.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok. Thank you so much. I guess this means I should try and meet up(with this group), and stop avoiding them.
    I guess its really all in my head.
    Yes.

    Good luck! You'll be fine.
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    How did the time on the original post manage to be from 1970? That is fantastic.


    Anyway OP, don't worry about being weird! I came across as a certified nutter in my first week of uni, two years on and I'm still friends with half of my old flatmates and living with two of them.
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    (Original post by aspirinpharmacist)
    How did the time on the original post manage to be from 1970? That is fantastic.


    Anyway OP, don't worry about being weird! I came across as a certified nutter in my first week of uni, two years on and I'm still friends with half of my old flatmates and living with two of them.
    Haha. Ultimate necrothread. Actually, I created it yesterday, so TSR is glitching big time. What do you mean by certified nutter? Like as in weird/inappropriate?
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    (Original post by aspirinpharmacist)
    How did the time on the original post manage to be from 1970? That is fantastic.
    It shows that date on every thread created by a person posting as Anonymous ;-)
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Ok. Thank you so much. I guess this means I should try and meet up(with this group), and stop avoiding them.
    I guess its really all in my head.
    and if it does get to be too much, take a few deep breaths and think of something nice (fields full of flowers, the beach- cheesy I know but what ever makes you think happy). and if someone was to find out, it can only be for the better as they would be able to help in person and understanding the problem would add some support, so don't be anxious! on that, if you become comfortable enough with one of the members then confide in them your problems with anxiety so that they can help. in this day and age most people understand. until then though focus on gradually making friends step by step good luck
 
 
 
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