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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    But I know I'm pretty. May sound arrogant, but it had to be said
    Quite likely that this "arrogance" comes across to guys, and perhaps people in general, who then opt against approaching you. There are few more unattractive traits than a girl that is up herself (whether or not that is the case with you, I couldn't possibly say).

    Out of interest, why aren't you socially active OP?
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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    someones telling porkies
    Classic example of an attention seeker. :mmm:
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    I have the same issue. I never really get approached by girls, or if I do then I'm completely oblivious.
    I get told by my female friends and girls I meet at parties that I am attractive, but mainly just when they're drunk, so im not sure if thats a good thing or if it's a case of pity. I'm not overly sure about my looks but I try to remain positive that I look like an averagely attractive human being haha. A pic of my is linked, because upon reading this thread all I really see is "Where's the pics?" or "Pics or it didnt happen". I'd say constructive comments only but I can take brutal honesty if it's necessary


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why may this be?

    I get lots of stares from the guys at uni, but that's it really.

    Could it be that I'm not massive on the social life?
    A lot of people are, for lack of a better word 'hating' on the fact that you've declared yourself pretty, so seriously don't pay those comments any real attention. It's not arrogant to call yourself good-looking. At times it may be misguided but I can't comment on that as I can't physically see you. I'll take your word for it though.

    In response to your problem I'll say that guys don't generally approach girls as much as tv etc. makes it seem. Granted there's always that one douchey guy 'in da cluuurrrb' who tries it with pretty much every girl, and you'd be surprised at how many shy guys become apparent pick-up kings after their 8th Jäger but in everyday situations it just doesn't happen. Some guys will have a go at talking to women in regular situations like at the bus stop or in a coffee shop etc. but it's rare that they'll just outright come on to you because they don't want to be rejected. I have approached women in these kind of places about three times and, despite a rough 33% success rate I STILL wouldn't do it again because I wouldn't want to be rejected in full view of everyone!

    In short, it's an ego thing. Not constantly surrounding yourself with friends and being 'approachable' may help, but it still won't be a regular occurrence. That's no reflection on how you look or act though, that's just what we're like. If you really want a guy to respond to you then approach him. It's all BS that guys don't like that stuff; we do. It flatters us and lifts us etc. and most guys will respond positively. If they don't then they're genuinely not interested, and you'll see why guys don't do it that often!
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    (Original post by RHyoudon'kno)
    Don't poison me with maths. Goodnight.
    Maths is life .Goonight to you too sir ;D


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    (Original post by livealittle)
    Maths is life .Goonight to you too sir ;D
    Unfortunately, yes.

    Second time I've had a sex change.
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    (Original post by RHyoudon'kno)
    Unfortunately, yes.

    Second time I've had a sex change.



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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    It could well be that you're not massive on the social life. I get approached a lot when I'm out but not so much in everyday life, I guess the alcohol makes everyone more confident and sociable! Haha.

    Could also be a confidence issue. If you're not approachable, you're not going to be approached. It's as simple as that. Make an effort with your appearance, laugh, smile, be someone who's fun to be around and they will come!
    I think its also down to not knowing whether a girl is legal or not,lol. Sometimes you get girls out and about that look older them they really are, especially with make up. Give it a few years you will notice the change.
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    (Original post by livealittle)
    Haha its the constant of integration in maths :|
    PlusC lurveeessss his constant


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    You could say he's pretty constant about it xD
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    I m looking for a date


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    I don't get why people have such an issue with the fact that OP deems herself as attractive? (intimidation perhaps? :rolleyes:). People need to realise the difference between being arrogant and having confidence in oneself; OP is not arrogant if she thinks that she's pretty, she's just confident about her good looks and why the hell shouldn't she be? I don't get why certain people always feel the need to berate people who are confident in themselves.

    OP, I think the reason why guys aren't going up to you is due to the circumstances; I think a lot of people find it a bit awkward going up to an attractive person on the street or in uni. I'm sure that if you go out socialising more, you'll get more male attention in no time.

    Also, let the hater's hate because I think it's awesome that you unapologetically regard yourself as pretty, more people should do the same
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    (Original post by the_human_oreo)
    You could say he's pretty constant about it xD
    hahah I see what you did there ;D


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    OP people may be intimidated , think your out of their league etc

    Maybe people around you like you but you don't notice.

    Cold approaching is quite rare in UK anyway , on a night out guys will approach pretty much anything.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why may this be?

    I get lots of stares from the guys at uni, but that's it really.

    Could it be that I'm not massive on the social life?
    They are probably very shy, whilst many see guys as the ones who start the relationship by flirting with the woman there's nothing stopping you for creating your own circles.
    Make lots of friends and then they'll feel more comfortable around you.

    Men are not as macho and confident as they make out.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why may this be?

    I get lots of stares from the guys at uni, but that's it really.

    Could it be that I'm not massive on the social life?
    fear of rejection innit
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    picture is needed for us to make a comment
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    (Original post by SloaneRanger)
    I think its also down to not knowing whether a girl is legal or not,lol. Sometimes you get girls out and about that look older them they really are, especially with make up. Give it a few years you will notice the change.
    That depends entirely on where you're going out, most good places use a machine to scan IDs on the door
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why may this be?

    I get lots of stares from the guys at uni, but that's it really.

    Could it be that I'm not massive on the social life?
    You may not get approached because your aren't huge on social life... but I would only imagine that would be the case if they knew you to an extent.

    However them not approaching you could be for a few reasons, they simply don't know you. You might not respond in any sort of way which you look interested. So like you might not smile to them or show any signs of being interested back? If you like the look of a guy looking at you, smile!

    There could be other reasons but that's all I got for you! I'm sure you'll get approached at some point, especially if you are a pretty girl
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Why may this be?

    I get lots of stares from the guys at uni, but that's it really.

    Could it be that I'm not massive on the social life?
    stuff that puts me off from talking to pretty women follows
    if she looks like shes gonna be difficult to talk to
    will she be hostile?
    will she be intimidated and awkward and react in such a way that it embarrasses you.
    they look like their too busy to talk
    they look like they dont wanna talk to anyone e.g. headphones on the phone.
    they're around people and socialising and its weird to interrupt their social gathering.
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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    That depends entirely on where you're going out, most good places use a machine to scan IDs on the door
    Really? I've never seen these machines!

    OP why don't you ask the guys out yourself?
 
 
 
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