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    A 5 with maybe a few one night stands if it's not bad and they don't have a reputation , preferable a 3 though
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    (Original post by MattyR2895)
    So you found someone you like, good looking, funny, etc... What's the most they could have done in their sexual past before you no longer consider being in a relationship with them? Please pick the most you could live with, not what you'd prefer.

    Pick between 1 and 10:

    1. kissless virgin- has done next to nothing with the opposite sex (or same sex if homo).

    2. 1 prior boyfriend/girlfriend- kissed + fondled but nothing more.

    3. 1-2 prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they had normal sex with, but nothing crazy.

    4. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they had normal sex with.

    5. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they did stuff like anal sex, public sex, basically any kind of sexual activity just involving the 2 of them, inc. sex tapes.

    6. same as 5., but also with 1-10 one night stands with whom they had normal sex with.

    7. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends and at least 20 one night stands with whom they did any kind of sexual activity just involving the 2 of them.

    8. multiple person sex ie. gangbangs, bukkakes, swinging, etc... with strangers.

    9. pornstar- can't even remember how many people they've had sex with, or recall all the things they've done.

    10. could put pornstars to shame- real hardcore 2 girls 1 cup type ****. Their number could be in the 1000s for all you know.

    All this considering they are STI/STD free, and they will be loyal to you once you enter the relationship.

    Also please state your age and gender, for example my answer would be:

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    Male, 18.

    p.s my idea of normal sex is simply penis and vagina sex, nothing more.
    p.p.s this is just out of my curiosity.
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    i wouldnt believe they had only 2 past partners.
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    5 I think. It's got me thinking now though...

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    (Original post by ldsbabe)
    This is such a childish thread.
    In the real, adult world, most people you will encounter have pasts. That's just life. Get over it.
    Only in the UK, some people in other countries have class
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    (Original post by MattyR2895)
    So you found someone you like, good looking, funny, etc... What's the most they could have done in their sexual past before you no longer consider being in a relationship with them? Please pick the most you could live with, not what you'd prefer.

    Pick between 1 and 10:

    1. kissless virgin- has done next to nothing with the opposite sex (or same sex if homo).

    2. 1 prior boyfriend/girlfriend- kissed + fondled but nothing more.

    3. 1-2 prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they had normal sex with, but nothing crazy.

    4. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they had normal sex with.

    5. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends with whom they did stuff like anal sex, public sex, basically any kind of sexual activity just involving the 2 of them, inc. sex tapes.

    6. same as 5., but also with 1-10 one night stands with whom they had normal sex with.

    7. any number of prior boyfriends/girlfriends and at least 20 one night stands with whom they did any kind of sexual activity just involving the 2 of them.

    8. multiple person sex ie. gangbangs, bukkakes, swinging, etc... with strangers.

    9. pornstar- can't even remember how many people they've had sex with, or recall all the things they've done.

    10. could put pornstars to shame- real hardcore 2 girls 1 cup type ****. Their number could be in the 1000s for all you know.

    All this considering they are STI/STD free, and they will be loyal to you once you enter the relationship.

    Also please state your age and gender, for example my answer would be:

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    Male, 18.

    p.s my idea of normal sex is simply penis and vagina sex, nothing more.
    p.p.s this is just out of my curiosity.

    So Basically I would accept the guy for whoever he is then and not for something ge was before.. as long he promises to remain true to me and not do any of the above things i would accept him as my partner. Islam tells us to look at how a person is in the present if he is true and loyal.. not judge him for his past
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    If you're older than 18 chances are whoever you will get with will have a sexual past, have an don't ask don't tell policy, thinking about your gfs/bfs past experiences will just mess with your head as long as your partner is faithful to you who cares?
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    If you're older than 18 chances are whoever you will get with will have a sexual past, have an don't ask don't tell policy, thinking about your gfs/bfs past experiences will just mess with your head as long as your partner is faithful to you who cares?
    i don't believe many people are faithful. especially generation x or generation y.

    I always want to know about the history of the person I'm with. including their sexual history.

    everyone tells their partner they will be faithful so you can't really rely on that.

    but you can gauge them on things. like their honesty. if they've been unfaithful before not even cheating, but just having unfaithful intent. like taking a guy/girls number whilst they were in a relationship. obviously cheating is a big red alert.

    fact is if your planing on having a future with someone lifes gonna be tuff along the way. your gonna have kids and a shared home possibly. and your gonna have times where you hate each other and wanna separate but dont because of the kids and the house and the trouble it would cause.
    and its at those hard times when cheating will be highest on the menu.
    so if your dating someone who's cheated or engaged in unfaithful behaviour in the past over young puppy love stuff? how the hell are they gonna stay faithful for big adult time?

    put it this way people wanna know about the history of a car before they buy it and someone who your gonna spend the rest of your life with is a bit more important than a car.
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    (Original post by Shaolin Punk)
    i don't believe many people are faithful. especially generation x or generation y.

    I always want to know about the history of the person I'm with. including their sexual history.

    everyone tells their partner they will be faithful so you can't really rely on that.

    but you can gauge them on things. like their honesty. if they've been unfaithful before not even cheating, but just having unfaithful intent. like taking a guy/girls number whilst they were in a relationship. obviously cheating is a big red alert.

    fact is if your planing on having a future with someone lifes gonna be tuff along the way. your gonna have kids and a shared home possibly. and your gonna have times where you hate each other and wanna separate but dont because of the kids and the house and the trouble it would cause.
    and its at those hard times when cheating will be highest on the menu.
    so if your dating someone who's cheated or engaged in unfaithful behaviour in the past over young puppy love stuff? how the hell are they gonna stay faithful for big adult time?

    put it this way people wanna know about the history of a car before they buy it and someone who your gonna spend the rest of your life with is a bit more important than a car.
    I'm engaged and we have a 1 year old, and trust me it doesnt do any good questioning your partners sexual past,, 1, they could always lie and 2, you should have enough trust and good judgment before you marry, another thing just because someone was a virgin before you met doesn't mean they will always be faithful to you, they might become resentful of the fact you have had more sexual partners and just because someone was more promiscuous doesn't mean they are guaranteed to cheat it's all swings and roundabouts, life is a roller coaster.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    I'm engaged with a 1 year old,
    That can't be legal


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    You're making the flawed assumption that the number of past sexual partners is somehow correlated with how 'extreme' their sexual tastes have been.

    This should really be two questions:

    A) How many partners would you be okay with your partner having had?
    B) What level of kinkiness would you want them to have experienced?

    Totally different questions. In my experience, the people with the highest number of sexual partners actually seem to be relatively tame kink-wise - because having a lot of one-night stands is not really conducive to pushing the boundaries and experimenting. Generally the kinkiest things happen in long term relationships, because the couple is honest enough to be open about their desires, and they want to keep trying new things.
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    as a virgin I feel left out:P

    but I got offered some by a ginger :cool:

    plus an old woman...
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    (Original post by LightBlueSoldier)
    That can't be legal


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    I'm 21 so it's legal.
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    (Original post by vickidc18)
    I'm 21 so it's legal.
    Is the age of consent now 16 months instead of 16 years?


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    And I'm 18, almost 19.
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    (Original post by antipathy)
    You're making the flawed assumption that the number of past sexual partners is somehow correlated with how 'extreme' their sexual tastes have been.

    This should really be two questions:

    A) How many partners would you be okay with your partner having had?
    B) What level of kinkiness would you want them to have experienced?

    Totally different questions. In my experience, the people with the highest number of sexual partners actually seem to be relatively tame kink-wise - because having a lot of one-night stands is not really conducive to pushing the boundaries and experimenting. Generally the kinkiest things happen in long term relationships, because the couple is honest enough to be open about their desires, and they want to keep trying new things.
    So glad you pointed that out! I'm not even that "wild" but I'd imagine someone who wants you to be a virgin, or have had 1-2 partners before, wouldn't be that hot on my tastes anyway!
    Promiscuity, if I can use that word without intending any negative connotations, simply having had numerous partners, is very different to one's actual sexual tastes. I know many people who have had mutliple partners, would be regarded by idiots as "sluts" and yet have done little more than bad blowjobs and the missionary position! And then I know people in one long-term relationship who have done everything under the sun!
    On this list, the latter would come out minimum a 5, but are probably a lot more desirable generally than a 1 or 2, since you get the "loyalty", a good amount of "exclusivity" but also adventurousness!

    Personally, I have no idea what history I'd be happy with because my only partner was a virgin when we got together, and I find it hard to consider what I'd be like if we broke up for any reason.
 
 
 
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