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    (Original post by Robbo-92)
    Don't worry, you are not the only person who doesn't have many friends and struggles to forge new friendships from the sounds of it as I am in the exact same position. In my job I have to nearly constantly talk to customers and colleagues. The customers I was fine with from day one but the colleagues? I barely said a word to any of them for about 6 months, maybe even longer as I've been there nearly 4 years now and now I talk to them like any normal person, sad thing is I wouldn't class anymore than 2 of them as actual friends and I kind of doubt they would actually class me as a friend, that's kind of depressing

    Going to university will help to a degree as you will see the same people most days and you are bound to become friends with a few of them, am hour commute is nothing really as if I went uni my commute would have been 1hr 40 at minimum. I didn't go to university and sometimes I feel like I missed out massively on the social and academic aspects. If you want to make your life more exciting now just get out of the house, do anything that changes your life from your current routine. Go to the cinema, local tourist attractions if you have any.

    Also, remember you have your whole life ahead of you
    Thanks so much
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    (Original post by De Mortimer)
    Something tells me you searched your name...
    Didn't actually, just stumbled across it.
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    (Original post by Maid Marian)
    Didn't actually, just stumbled across it.
    Apologies if I offended you by the way, the OP just seemed so similar to what you used to post.
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    I believe in Allah not jesus but thanks for your help
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    Dear BOB2014

    --- First of all you have to know , that you are not (I repeat : you are not) the only person to have felt this way. The ages of this emotion ranges from teenage years to senior citizens to people in their 40's (midlife crisis). I think the key here is to take one day at a time . And every day do something that you can be proud of . Open your heart to the world - there is so much to be done, and I know it sounds cheesy, but you have a purpose in YOUR life . Think of a talent you have , something you really enjoy doing . Think of something that makes you smile and understand that the CREATOR of the universe created you for a reason . Now you may not have the opportunity to be a Rosa Parks or Winston Churchill right now - but just take a walk and smile at someone. Make their day. Look for opportunities to serve your community and find true happiness in making other people happy. Write a list of all you have to be grateful to God for, and understand how truly amazing you are as an individual.
    It doesnt matter what anybody may say , but YOU ARE SPECIAL . I know you've probably heard all these lines before, but they are true. No one can be you .
    Remeber , happiness is a state of mind. You can be in a slum and be happy or in a mansion and be bitter with the world . Only you can make yourself happy. You do that by:
    -trusting in God and His plan for your life
    -Understanding and owning your individuality
    -Making others happy
    -Taking the time to appreciate all that you have (comparing it to the people to have a right to be sad from their circumstances)

    Jeremiah 29v11 :
    For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    -- This verse really helped me to have hope for the future. And a positive outlook on God's plan for my life. I hope you will be encouraged and find a faith in God that surpasses all expectations people may have for you. YOU WILL SUCCEED .
    And through Jesus , you can live life to the full. And be at peace with your life and where its going.
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    I agree with Harvey Dent. It's much better to live in halls, even if it's just for the first year. You'll meet other people who are all in the same boat as you as they won't know anyone either so will be eager to get to know one another. There'll be so many groups and societies to join, even if you aren't sure some of them are for you, go along and try them out. You have to go out and meet the world, it won't come to you if you sit in by yourself. You said you are bubbly once you get to know people so I'm sure you will have a great time if you put yourself out there. Good luck
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    (Original post by De Mortimer)
    Apologies if I offended you by the way, the OP just seemed so similar to what you used to post.
    I'm nowhere near as insecure as mm is.
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    (Original post by BOB2014)
    I'm nowhere near as insecure as mm is.
    Ouch.
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    (Original post by Aliwong)
    I agree with Harvey Dent. It's much better to live in halls, even if it's just for the first year. You'll meet other people who are all in the same boat as you as they won't know anyone either so will be eager to get to know one another. There'll be so many groups and societies to join, even if you aren't sure some of them are for you, go along and try them out. You have to go out and meet the world, it won't come to you if you sit in by yourself. You said you are bubbly once you get to know people so I'm sure you will have a great time if you put yourself out there. Good luck
    I can't live in halls for various personal reasons
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    (Original post by De Mortimer)
    Apologies if I offended you by the way, the OP just seemed so similar to what you used to post.
    Nah s'ok. My old posts were pretty depressing. :moon:
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    If you can't stay in halls then make sure you spend as much time as you can in and around the university, whether this be going to lunch with fellow students or spending time in the library. The more time you spend with fellow students the more you will get to know each other and then possibly become friends. I know it's very easy for someone else on a computer screen to say get out there and try and socialise more but it really is the only way things will take a definite step in the right direction. I know I can't talk from experience as I am, like yourself a very quiet person who would feel the exact same in your situation and I suppose I do even in my life to a degree. Chin up, things can only get better

    (well I keep telling myself that but it's not working at the minute!)
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    You're most definitely not alone, I'm going through similar circumstances. Like others have probably suggested, you need to put yourself out there, although it's difficult. You'll have the opportunity to join clubs and societies at uni and find people that you click with. Channel your energy into something positive! Even if it's just one small thing a day. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Try something different, take up a new hobby or get involved in your local community maybe?
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    I think whatever you do in life, just try and make sure you're really enjoying it. Like, do what you want to do no matter what others think, and try not to worry to much about consequences, especially when worrying won't change anything. Live your life and do things and get out there. Any bad things will pass so you might as well enjoy the moment and be happy! Take opportunities and remember that your life can go in any direction, there's so much out there still
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    Amazing advice i will modt definitely get out of my comfort zone once i'm at uni and do many diff things

    (Original post by Robbo-92)
    If you can't stay in halls then make sure you spend as much time as you can in and around the university, whether this be going to lunch with fellow students or spending time in the library. The more time you spend with fellow students the more you will get to know each other and then possibly become friends. I know it's very easy for someone else on a computer screen to say get out there and try and socialise more but it really is the only way things will take a definite step in the right direction. I know I can't talk from experience as I am, like yourself a very quiet person who would feel the exact same in your situation and I suppose I do even in my life to a degree. Chin up, things can only get better

    (well I keep telling myself that but it's not working at the minute!)

    (Original post by soph1293)
    You're most definitely not alone, I'm going through similar circumstances. Like others have probably suggested, you need to put yourself out there, although it's difficult. You'll have the opportunity to join clubs and societies at uni and find people that you click with. Channel your energy into something positive! Even if it's just one small thing a day. What do you enjoy doing in your free time? Try something different, take up a new hobby or get involved in your local community maybe?

    (Original post by DH26)
    I think whatever you do in life, just try and make sure you're really enjoying it. Like, do what you want to do no matter what others think, and try not to worry to much about consequences, especially when worrying won't change anything. Live your life and do things and get out there. Any bad things will pass so you might as well enjoy the moment and be happy! Take opportunities and remember that your life can go in any direction, there's so much out there still
    @Dh26 this is really good advice. I feel like i spend so much time worrying about what others think when i shouldn't be!
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    (Original post by BOB2014)
    I'm a girl (ignore the silly username) who doesn't have many friends and currently on a gap year. All I do is stay indoors and i'm an introvert so I don't like socialising much. Once people get to know me, i'm quite bubbly and have a really fun, outgoing personality. I just feel like my life hasn't really been exciting for the past 19 years and I haven't made much worthwhile memories. People say "you've got your whole life ahead of you" which is a little comforting but at the same time, nobody knows when they will die. I'm going university soon (this autumn) but commuting as my uni is less than an hour away. Will my life become more exciting from then on?
    My university is 30-40 minutes away in a car and I lived in halls in first year and living in private halls come September in second year, you sure you don't want to move in for a much better overall university experience, independence, having your own place and getting away from parents? If not, you're (more likely) to live the same life of staying inside all the time because you'll have less time to communicate and you'll have to commute all the time for nights out and stuff.
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    (Original post by china252)
    Dear BOB2014

    --- First of all you have to know , that you are not (I repeat : you are not) the only person to have felt this way. The ages of this emotion ranges from teenage years to senior citizens to people in their 40's (midlife crisis). I think the key here is to take one day at a time . And every day do something that you can be proud of . Open your heart to the world - there is so much to be done, and I know it sounds cheesy, but you have a purpose in YOUR life . Think of a talent you have , something you really enjoy doing . Think of something that makes you smile and understand that the CREATOR of the universe created you for a reason . Now you may not have the opportunity to be a Rosa Parks or Winston Churchill right now - but just take a walk and smile at someone. Make their day. Look for opportunities to serve your community and find true happiness in making other people happy. Write a list of all you have to be grateful to God for, and understand how truly amazing you are as an individual.
    It doesn't matter what anybody may say , but YOU ARE SPECIAL . I know you've probably heard all these lines before, but they are true. No one can be you .
    Remember , happiness is a state of mind. You can be in a slum and be happy or in a mansion and be bitter with the world . Only you can make yourself happy. You do that by:
    -trusting in God and His plan for your life
    -Understanding and owning your individuality
    -Making others happy
    -Taking the time to appreciate all that you have (comparing it to the people to have a right to be sad from their circumstances)
    Jeremiah 29v11 : For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

    -- This verse really helped me to have hope for the future. And a positive outlook on God's plan for my life. I hope you will be encouraged and find a faith in God that surpasses all expectations people may have for you. YOU WILL SUCCEED .
    And through Jesus , you can live life to the full. And be at peace with your life and where it is going.

    I know this was not directed at me but i just want to say that this is encauraging. I use to feel like op but when i started doing stuff i did not feel bad anymore. Thanks
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    (Original post by German123)
    I know this was not directed at me but i just want to say that this is encauraging. I use to feel like op but when i started doing stuff i did not feel bad anymore. Thanks
    Stuff like what?
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    (Original post by BOB2014)
    Stuff like what?

    As people already suggested going out to the park. You should enjoy ur life while u still can i.e go places u have never been too like maybe a theme park, festivals,cinemas etc. U can also make friends by doing so..or if u have a friend u could go with her/him
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    (Original post by Maid Marian)
    Nah s'ok. My old posts were pretty depressing. :moon:
    How have you changed your life around?
 
 
 
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