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    You should do it whether or not a girl in question thinks its sexist, she would (and I bet that aforementioned feminist would) be happy to have you walking her home when you save/prevent her from being raped in the back alley.

    What's wrong with a few harmless and chivalrous gender roles here and there?
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    No, I wouldn't say it's sexist. Sexism is prejudice or unjust discrimination, neither of which are present in walking a girl home.
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    Might be kinda weird if she then doesn't offer for you to *** in for "coffee" :sexface:
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    This is where this new wave of feminism is becoming completely hysterical and irrational. Making sure someone gets home safe is a polite and also rational thing to do. There are many unpleasant types out there and if something go wrong its good to have it reported as soon as possible. I don't think it has to be gender exclusive either!
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    (Original post by miser)
    No, I wouldn't say it's sexist. Sexism is prejudice or unjust discrimination, neither of which are present in walking a girl home.
    Most feminists also hate ''benevolent sexism''. Actually I just thought of something : if this is sexist, it's sexist against the guy. Why does he have to be the one risking injury and death to protect the woman? Is his life less valuable? Because ''patriarchy'' shames him into doing so? Ok that's enough, trying to think like a feminist hurts my brain.

    Remember that Batman cinema shooting a few years ago? The media praised the guys who were wounded or died trying to protect their women while shaming the ones who legged it like little *****es. Actually there was one guy who left his partner and her kids there (tbf the kids weren't his) and didn't even bother to go back after it was over, I think he called her from the car. I guess he didn't believe in gender roles lol.
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    If I walk a girl home it will be because she also walked me home at one point.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    Remember that Batman cinema shooting a few years ago? The media praised the guys who were wounded or died trying to protect their women while shaming the ones who legged it like little *****es. Actually there was one guy who left his partner and her kids there (tbf the kids weren't his) and didn't even bother to go back after it was over, I think he called her from the car. I guess he didn't believe in gender roles lol.
    Lol, that's just embarrassing whether you're a man OR a woman.
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    (Original post by Viva Emptiness)
    Lol, that's just embarrassing whether you're a man OR a woman.
    There should be a mass shooting/ dating protocol. Smth like :


    Rule 143 , Section C : After the 10th date the guy has to take the bullet, but only if sex has already occurred.
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    Females ARE weaker in comparison. If that makes me sexist, then that makes you an idiot.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    There should be a mass shooting/ dating protocol. Smth like :


    Rule 143 , Section C : After the 10th date the guy has to take the bullet, but only if sex has already occurred.
    If sex hasn't occurred after the 10th date I'd encourage him to run, shooting or no.
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    My boyfriend will always walk me home after a night out, then I sit in my house and worry about him getting home safely! Only if he's drunk though...
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    Well, it depends. If it was for the sole purpose of protecting me, then maybe not. I've had about 10 years experience of beating up my brother, so I know exactly where to jab so it hurts (for those of you that are thinking it doesn't count, my brother is about 6'2" and weighs 85kg). That being said, I do hate walking alone at nighttime. I once phoned up a male friend whilst walking down a pitch black street, just so that if I was attacked, he'd be able to hear me scream.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I'm talking about when it's late and the guy wants to make sure she gets home safe. This is what a feminist once told me. She hated it because it assumes women are weak and inferior and need a man to protect them . There can't be too many girls thinking that, right?
    I don't think that's sexist at all but instead shows that the guy is capable of acting as gentleman by ensuring that the girl gets home safely.
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    (Original post by thechemistress)
    Well, it depends. If it was for the sole purpose of protecting me, then maybe not. I've had about 10 years experience of beating up my brother, so I know exactly where to jab so it hurts (for those of you that are thinking it doesn't count, my brother is about 6'2" and weighs 85kg). That being said, I do hate walking alone at nighttime. I once phoned up a male friend whilst walking down a pitch black street, just so that if I was attacked, he'd be able to hear me scream.
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    Wouldn't a feminist say that having someone escort them home contributes to 'victim blaming' and 'rape culture'?
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    its not sexist its just being caring
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    If I've been out with some of my girl buddies, I check to see if they got home okay or ask them to text me once they're home. That's not me thinking they can't protect themselves, but it's just out of care and there are proper weirdos out on the streets late at night!

    With my gf, I prefer to walk/drive her home. If I can't, I would definitely text/call to see if she got home safely. My ex-gf's and my girl buddies have all been fine with it
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I'm talking about when it's late and the guy wants to make sure she gets home safe.[B]tI read on the internet that feminists all think this/B] . There can't be too many girls thinking that, right?
    There, fixed it. Let's be honest you never talked to a feminist.


    Also I'd be suspicious of they wanted to walk me home and I didn't know them beyond that date. Would feel safer making my own way home definiteley.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I'm talking about when it's late and the guy wants to make sure she gets home safe. This is what a feminist once told me. She hated it because it assumes women are weak and inferior and need a man to protect them . There can't be too many girls thinking that, right?
    Not even a little bit sexist. It's really annoying when feminism gets taken so far in the wrong direction that it starts defying facts and sense.
    I like feeling protected when it's night time and I'm alone, I'm not muscular or strong and I get worried if I'm on my own - there's nothing bad about that - I'd even go as far to say that that's often a natural girl instinct.
    Guys are generally stronger than girls, pretty sure that's fact, why pretend otherwise. We can still be equal, but we can never be the same.
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    (Original post by Emememily733)
    Not even a little bit sexist. It's really annoying when feminism gets taken so far in the wrong direction that it starts defying facts and sense.
    I like feeling protected when it's night time and I'm alone, I'm not muscular or strong and I get worried if I'm on my own - there's nothing bad about that - I'd even go as far to say that that's often a natural girl instinct.
    Guys are generally stronger than girls, pretty sure that's fact, why pretend otherwise. We can still be equal, but we can never be the same.
    You seem like a girl who knows a supreme gentleman when she sees one
 
 
 
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