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    To be honest, if you judge a woman on how many sexual partners she's had when you yourself have had more, then you need to get your priorities straight. It shouldn't make any difference so long as you love and trust her. Thinking in terms of her sexual partners reduces her to a thing whose value revolves around sex rather than virtues and vices, and if you can't see why that's wrong then I pity the woman who does end up with you.
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    (Original post by StevieA)
    I certainly wouldn't lol. Adding a poll. And some related stats .



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    (Original post by Eva.Gregoria)
    If women didn't put out as much, there'd be far more elliot Rodger cases.

    Men you should be thankful.

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    If women spent more time and energy building businesses instead of hunting down wealthy men, there would be more equality in this world and women would deserve a higher status.
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    (Original post by Freudian Slip)
    Since [/s]
    (Original post by marm-alade)
    To bh you.
    (Original post by emmabakerxox)
    i've had bile
    (Original post by keturah)
    Hello drake/Jamie TT :rolleyes:
    This guy doesn't want to marry someone with a moderate amount of sexual partners, because they'd be more likely to realise he's crap in bed


    I mean if you're a virgin when you marry, you're more likely accept what you get and come to the conclusion that sex "isn't that great" if you're not compatible with your man!!
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    (Original post by emmabakerxox)
    i'e
    Didn't mean to make you say "i've had bile" in my reply, sorry! lol
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    Why do feminists have to ruin almost every thread
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    I think this thread shows the age of people on here. The average age for women marrying in the UK is about 30 (http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/8415...irst-time.html), so, if she lost her virginity at 16, that's like a new shag every 9 months to have twenty sexual partners, hardly extreme.

    The logic in the studies is flawed, because it assumes divorces=bad marriages. Many conservative women have much greater barriers to divorce, even when very unhappy/abused.
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    I'm not sure, at 20 I'd certainly say she was a slut.
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    Number is irrelevant. Marriage is about the person. So yeah I would
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    If, by the time I wanted to get married, the fact that they'd had less than 20 partners would be the warning sign. Even if they're not prudish/have something wrong with them, then they'd still probably not be in a good position to make a good judgement of who they want to spend the rest of their life with.

    Although, what's that rule? Women divide the number of partners they've had by 3, men multiply?
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    (Original post by Bobbi!)
    This guy doesn't want to marry someone with a moderate amount of sexual partners, because they'd be more likely to realise he's crap in bed


    I mean if you're a virgin when you marry, you're more likely accept what you get and come to the conclusion that sex "isn't that great" if you're not compatible with your man!!
    :lol:
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    Not if she was 20. Im sorry but over 20 guys at the age of 20 no. At an older age say 28-30 thats fine.
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    (Original post by Malevolent)
    Not if she was 20. Im sorry but over 20 guys at the age of 20 no. At an older age say 28-30 thats fine.
    Why would you be marrying someone at the age of 20? (ok, I know some do, but then that's usually a medium-term relationship plus growing up with them - which doesn't combine well with having 20 sexual partners)
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    (Original post by JoeTSR)
    Why would you be marrying someone at the age of 20?
    It's not unheard of

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    (Original post by JoeTSR)
    Why would you be marrying someone at the age of 20?
    People get married at earlier ages FYI.
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    (Original post by ElChapo)
    It's not unheard of

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    (Original post by Malevolent)
    People get married at earlier ages FYI.
    Edited around the same time you both posted. If you were one of the unusual cases of marrying at 20, I can't see how that would easily combine with having double digit sexual partners, unless you take the decision of marriage incredibly lightly.
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    (Original post by Eva.Gregoria)
    If women didn't put out as much, there'd be far more elliot Rodger cases.

    Men you should be thankful.
    ha yeah these "meninists" that complain about women's promiscuous behaviour need to be careful what they wish for. Do they really want a more moralistic society where women are more selective about which men they choose....?

    Especially if you're a short man
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    Whilst I do look favourably upon women who have had a small number of high quality, lasting relationships, I certainly wouldn’t rule it out completely. For example, with a 30 year old woman, whom has had 20 partners over 14 sexually active years e.g. I see nothing particularly wrong, unusual, or concerning about the following scenario re: # sexual partners, aged:

    16: 1 year relationship
    17: 1 rebound fling and 1 relationship
    18: 3 x hook ups/partners at uni (age/stage)
    19: 4 x hook ups/partners at uni (age/stage)
    20: 4 x hook ups/partners at uni (age/stage)
    21: 3 x hook ups/partners at uni (age/stage)
    22: 2 year relationship
    24: 3 year relationship
    27: 4 year relationship
    30: Meets you

    Having said that, I am highly interpersonally/socially astute so I can read people, judge characters, and hence satisfy myself that I can gauge (sustainable) relationship potential, very well indeed. Also I have an addictive and paternal personality, am a baws in relationships, and am a strong advocate of communication and engendering mutual honour and respect. I accept that this is rare among men (particularly these days) and hence that I am not representative

    In general, there is an irrefutable broad societal issue in the West with women’s liberation vs. the imasculation of men and the feminisation of society, and this has been spilling over into relationships and marital/family breakdown increasingly over the past generation, with no-one coming out a winner but with male self harm/suicide and offspring fatherlessness particularly stark/poignant fairly obvious/direct/telling consequences of this thematic



    It’s great, in principle, that women are empowered and feel free to enjoy their bodies and different living arrangements with a host of different partners. One would hope that this would help them to appreciate the right guy when he does come along, and also serve as a lesson in the emotional/logistical/financial upheaval involved in break ups at the cohabiting stage. The data seems to suggest the reverse, however, which is disappointing (if unsurprising to those of us who are familiar with related psychology/sociology) – I suppose society, and women, must accept that ‘progressive’ changes may not always translate into ‘progress’ as most would understand the term to mean

    (Original post by StevieA)
    I certainly wouldn't lol
    So how many would you consider 'safe'?

    I suspect the relations may be somewhat confounded by associated variables e.g. married off young/butt ugly and hence never had a partner before, but the graph is quite telling, even if you ignore the 0 bar given confounders

    (Original post by Freudian Slip)
    I'm sure there are plenty of other studies that contradict that one
    Please feel free to cite them

    (Original post by Eva.Gregoria)
    If women didn't put out as much, there'd be far more elliot Rodger cases. Men you should be thankful
    (Original post by MagicNMedicine)
    Do they really want a more moralistic society where women are more selective about which men they choose....?
    Haha. Fair point in one sense, but Elliot Rodger manias are a partial product of a society in which men are lead to believe young, fun, carefree sex is easily obtainable. Double-edged psycho-sexual sword folks

    Use of pornography has exploded *if you’ll pardon the pun*, the # reported rapes have quadrupled and % of males using prostitutes has doubled in the past 20 years, and (young) male self harm and suicide trends have risen considerably over the period too

    (Original post by Freudian Slip)
    Also, that paper is a decade old
    If owt, one would reasonably expect the relations to be even more telling now as the dichotomous cohorts (‘women of virtue’ vs. ‘****bags’) will be that much more concentrated post ‘girl power’ (by personality type/personal circumstance)

    (Original post by EllieC130)
    Not a guy but just saying, I'd marry a guy who'd done the same so long as he didn't cheat during the relationship therefore I don't see why the attitude shouldn't be the same the other way round
    Men and women are not the same. For example, men in long term relationships tend to cheat at random (according to opportunity), whereas women only when they perceive something to be wrong in the relationship. If their perceptions are conditioned/contextualised according to past experience (and we know from behavioural psychology that they most certainly are), and past experience includes multiple partners (against whom one may judge the quality of present relations), then women are at risk of straying as a positive function of the number of past relationships they have had, particularly long term/cohabiting ones

    (Original post by Freudian Slip)
    ignoring that attack on my appearance
    Since when does commenting on the colour of ones hair necessarily constitute an attack on ones appearance? I too have noticed that a lot of not-strictly-heterosexual/ardent feminists go in for relatively radical changes to their appearance e.g. hair colour/length, piercings, tattoos, attire etc

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    Off topic but if the likes of StevieA are genuinely interested to know about the presumed basis for such trends:

    I sense it correlates in many cases with a desire for attention/a search for identity in a world that is not ordinarily geared to meet related needs etc/a marker for ‘alternative’, which may perhaps help others to understand fairly intuitively that they are not your average straight/subdued female, and perhaps also (hence) to find a (suitable) mate. It may also be a indicative of psychological trauma related to historic abuse that manifests itself in a desire to find some sense of control through self modification/quasi-self harm and/or a desire to ostensibly be someone else (move away from ones former self/identity, and associated demons) :beard:

    (Original post by marm-alade)
    To be honest, if you judge a woman on how many sexual partners she's had when you yourself have had more, then you need to get your priorities straight
    To be honest, again, men and women.. we’re not the same

    Thinking in terms of her sexual partners reduces her to a thing whose value revolves around sex rather than virtues and vices
    I’m with you when it comes to obsessing* over such things; however, any sensible individual will take into account all markers for character, and historic behaviour is of course a rich source. Personally I never bother to enquire explicitly as to a girl’s ‘number’, but if I felt unable to derive an accurate general sense as to her level of promiscuity and trustworthiness via other, more subtle, observational/discursive means then I suspect I too might be tempted. I should also note that no girl I have ever been involved with has ever asked me directly, although I am perfectly honest and open about such things when prompted. In the spirit of your post marm-alade, we would concur that if one communicates value, and inspires trust, then such records can be expected to fade into insignificance

    (Original post by emmabakerxox)
    i've had … over 20 and I'm 19 next week. I'm now in a long term, serious relationship
    With respect, if you manage to pull off one that lasts longer than 12 months (never mind “forever”) I would be both surprised and impressed (not that I am a staunch advocate of settled relations at your age per sae)

    Just because someone has got a sexual past doesn't mean they're going to cheat, have STI's or are "unmarryable."
    In some senses, there ‘is someone for everyone’, but, without wishing to offend/upset you, unfortunately you will find that most young males (particularly ‘decent’ ones) would not consider a girl who had over 20 sexual partners by 20 to be marriage material

    (Original post by Bobbi!)
    This guy doesn't want to marry someone with a moderate amount of sexual partners, because they'd be more likely to realise he's crap in bed
    (Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
    :lol:
    Nice to see y'all inject a little maturity into the discussion, ladies! :top2:

    I mean if you're a virgin when you marry, you're more likely accept what you get and come to the conclusion that sex "isn't that great" if you're not compatible with your man!!
    Fair point this’n ~ ties in with what I said above about women learning about appreciating the ‘right’ guy when he does come along (sexual compatibility is an important part of what is right for a sexual being imo)

    (Original post by Bobbi!)
    Didn't mean to make you say "i've had bile" in my reply, sorry! lol
    She’s had so much D she's punctured her gall bladder!? :woo:

    (Original post by TheBBQ)
    Why do feminists have to ruin almost every thread
    Have I reuined this fred? :eyeball:

    (Original post by JoeTSR)
    less than 20 partners would be the warning sign
    Broken Britain in evidence.. :rolleyes:
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    As a female,I'd take it as a huge warning sign if the guy would be willing to marry someone like that. I'd avoid.
 
 
 
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