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    Fallen in love with two best friends at different stages of my life. It is hard. The first I knew flr years and was always there for her and eventually I plucked up the courage to tell her how I felt.

    The second she was my best friend for a few months but I had feelings for her as soon as we spoke on skype!
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    (Original post by Jakeh)
    Fallen in love with two best friends at different stages of my life. It is hard. The first I knew flr years and was always there for her and eventually I plucked up the courage to tell her how I felt.

    The second she was my best friend for a few months but I had feelings for her as soon as we spoke on skype!
    And what happened in these situations may I ask? If you don't mind saying!
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    And what happened in these situations may I ask? If you don't mind saying!
    In the first situation it was tough. I spent 3 years trying to get with her but she said "she doesnt do boyfriends" because of how her dad treated her mum. I accepted this and we remained great friends and always hung out. She got with other guys multiple times but kept saying no to a relationship. As we got closer she stopped with other guys and it was more us, then she said she did want a relationship if I still did and we got together. We had a great few years but due to differences, life issues on my side and general growing up it didnt work. I coped terribly with it and ultimatrly we don't talk anymore except emails on bdays but they stopped on my last.

    The second one was a bit different. It was not planned but it was great. I was studying in Rotterdam and was bored and started posting on here again. I saw 1 specific girl who looked stunning in her pic and in a thread we had a fun convo so I msgd her. We started talking pretty regularly and then got close talking about stuff nearly noone else knows about me. I supported her through some relationship issues she had and I felt so close. I felt so relaxed and it was amazing. I didnt plan on a girlfriend but she was an amazing friend. One night we skype and I hear her voice and I just like crumbled haha it was so nice. And we talked for hours I bought a webcam so she could cam and it was awesome. We would fall asleep on skype and wake up and text. I came home at xmas and said we should meet up and she said no. That sucked but hey we werent togrther and it didnt mean we wasnt great friends. I go back to uni and coneback again at easter and ask. She says yes. So I go and see her and there she is, in her green furry coat, jeans, brown shoes with a little heel, all of the contents of her purse out on the table listening to her iphone. And we hug and have a chat and it was 10x better than skype. We get the bus and its just all cute. We got together then but wasnt official for a few months after I guess.

    We broke up 6 weeks ago, cant really say why, misunderstandings, breakdown of communication, idk.

    It sucks thats for sure. Losing best friends are awful, lost your girlfriend too? Just worse .

    I think I wont invest so much so early anymore. I seem to dive in and just get hurt. But it is nice dating a best friend its the perfrct partner.


    Dont try and break ttheir relationship up try and cope and be happy for your best friend maybe 1 day your time will come!
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    Has a guy just escaped the friendzone?! ITS A MIRACLE! ALERT THE ELDERS!
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    Yes, as painful as it is for you now, it will get easier with the passage of time. I've been there myself and believe me I know what you're going through. The thing you have to do is to make sure that you don't have too much time time to dwell on things. Try to completely fill your days with things to do. Keep occupied and be around people. I used to work until I almost dropped and night after night I used to fall into bed exhausted. This went on for almost 4 months and gradually I began to feel better about myself and started socialising again. As I said it takes time, but I promise you that the pain will subside and you will get through this. Look after yourself sweetheart, I'm on your side.
    Thank you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Thank you
    You strike me as a warm, caring young lady so I don't think you will have any problem finding the happiness you so richly deserve. Keep yourself occupied as much as you possibly can, get involved in tons of different activities and you'll be fine.
 
 
 
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