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    (Original post by kseniagru)
    I wouldn't really think that you are leading the guy on. First of all, it's just for coffee, not a fancy restaurant or a cinema date or anything like that. Secondly, it's only the first "meetup" ( idk whether or not to call it a date or whatnot).

    I would just say to not go on 2nd or 3rd "date" without saying that you're aren't looking for a relationship right now. Problem solved


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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    Is it wrong to say yes to a date with someone even if you have no interest in a romantic relationship?
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    (Original post by xOHarriet)
    Guys it's coffee. I haven't said I'll marry the guy. Chill.
    You know it's supposed to be a date, and you asked everyone whether it's wrong to say yes to one with no intention of things going further. It seems a few people think that it is wrong.

    If I were you, I would go along to coffee. If/when he suggests a further date tell him that you came along because you like him, but that you're not ready for a relationship (in general, not just with him) right now.
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    (Original post by kseniagru)
    I wouldn't really think that you are leading the guy on. First of all, it's just for coffee, not a fancy restaurant or a cinema date or anything like that. Secondly, it's only the first "meetup" ( idk whether or not to call it a date or whatnot).

    I would just say to not go on 2nd or 3rd "date" without saying that you aren't looking for a relationship right now. Problem solved


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    FYI, I don't think that most guys consider first dates to differ in seriousness depending on the venue.
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    (Original post by TurboCretin)
    FYI, I don't think that most guys consider first dates to differ in seriousness depending on the venue.
    It just seems more quotidian and casual to me.
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    (Original post by kseniagru)
    It just seems more quotidian and casual to me.
    Unless I'm whisking her away to Paris or some crazy **** like that, I really wouldn't draw a distinction. The aim is for it to be just the two of you with some romantic undertones, that can be achieved as much over coffee as carbonara.
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    Unless I'm whisking her away to Paris or some crazy **** like that, I really wouldn't draw a distinction. The aim is for it to be just the two of you with some romantic undertones, that can be achieved as much over coffee as carbonara.
    Oh, that is actually a good point. Fair enough.


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    (Original post by kseniagru)
    It just seems more quotidian and casual to me.
    It may be that, but I don't think that most guys would think that that reflects a difference in the romantic status of the date. Hope that makes sense.
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    I'd say go into it with an open mind. He might turn out to be a charmer, the chemistry could be good, you don't know. A date is an opportunity for both people to suss each other out and they sometimes provoke unexpected reactions. If you are absolutely steadfast about not getting involved again, don't go.
 
 
 
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