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    (Original post by imtelling)
    The easiest way to prove this is that there arn't many male prostitutes compared to female ones. There just isn't the demand for them.
    Two alternative explanations:

    1. Men are less choosy about who they have sex with. While this could be a result of higher sex drive, it isn't necessarily so.

    2. Women are discouraged from acting on their sex drives more than men are.
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    (Original post by The vampire)
    Because we have more self respect :rolleyes:
    Of course you do, you get validation from men all the time because they pay you attention. As your value gets bid up from cheap compliments, you pick the best suitors you can and reject all others. The sexually frustrated men who are always punching below their weight if they ever get to punch at all need an outlet. For the weakest of these, their weakness leads them to transfer their wealth to yet more women merely for being born sexy.

    Everyone is acting rationally here, it's not women's fault that they go for the best they can get.

    The solution for men is to "go their own way", ignoring women and focusing on what they want to do, and thus find validation outside of their sexual prowess.

    And thus your causation is wrong. Ultimately, women have more self-respect because they have a lower sex drive, and therefore the upper hand in the sexual marketplace: negotiation 101: the person who cares less wins.

    (Saying women have a lower sex drive is misleading of course, in my view women have just as high a sex drive as men - with the right partner(s). Men appear to have a higher sex drive because they take a scattergun approach and disseminate(!) it widely.)
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    (Original post by scrotgrot)
    (Saying women have a lower sex drive is misleading of course, in my view women have just as high a sex drive as men - with the right partner(s). Men appear to have a higher sex drive because they take a scattergun approach and disseminate(!) it widely.)
    Women's sex drive is also ruled by their emotions and stability of their life (sentimental, financial, health etc) at a particular time : this is why you hear a lot of women say how their sex drive is so much higher during a relationship with a guy they love and why rich women have the most orgasms. A man's drive is much more constant, physical and largely indifferent to all those circumstances.
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    I hope youre taking the piss
    (Original post by The vampire)
    Because we have more self respect :rolleyes:
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    (Original post by SophiaLDN)
    Wrong. The reason there aren't many male prostitutes to female prostitutes isn't because they have a low sex drive, its that they don't have to resort to using a prostitute to get laid. Hence why there isn't any demand.

    Sexual repression is real. Women can not be as open about their sexuality like men do without being labelled negatively in society. Fear of women's sexuality is noted throughout history and the present day.
    terrible point with prostitute.

    but its clear in general men have the higher sexs drive

    in general..on tinder or in a nightclub theres a lot more lads up for it then girls

    theyve done surveys on this sorta thing..girl are more wiling to try the opposite sex but less in general up for one night stands etc

    you could perhaps say that its expected for them to respect themselves or whatnot but even in marriage in general the stereotype remains.

    if girls are men had the same sex drive people would be having sex a lot more often..tis not the case
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    (Original post by scrotgrot)
    Of course you do, you get validation from men all the time because they pay you attention. As your value gets bid up from cheap compliments, you pick the best suitors you can and reject all others. The sexually frustrated men who are always punching below their weight if they ever get to punch at all need an outlet. For the weakest of these, their weakness leads them to transfer their wealth to yet more women merely for being born sexy.

    Everyone is acting rationally here, it's not women's fault that they go for the best they can get.

    The solution for men is to "go their own way", ignoring women and focusing on what they want to do, and thus find validation outside of their sexual prowess.

    And thus your causation is wrong. Ultimately, women have more self-respect because they have a lower sex drive, and therefore the upper hand in the sexual marketplace: negotiation 101: the person who cares less wins.

    (Saying women have a lower sex drive is misleading of course, in my view women have just as high a sex drive as men - with the right partner(s). Men appear to have a higher sex drive because they take a scattergun approach and disseminate(!) it widely.)
    agree completely men need to focus wayy less on sex and more on their own happiness

    dont fully get last paragraph tho.. you honestly think societies way prevents women getting into casual relationships:?

    I thought in marriage too they dont really care..whereas men are generally always up for it..hence I dont see why this isnt lower sex drive..
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    (Original post by The vampire)
    Because we have more self respect :rolleyes:
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. Oh god. Thanks for that, made my day.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    understatement of the year.

    Maybe 1% of guys would sleep with a prozzie, at most? No normal functioning man would ever do it.
    in many asian prostitute driven countries its well over 50% of the male pop...

    even in Uk i thought it was like 10% of males have at one stage in their lives

    makes sense or how else would it be so popular...
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    terrible point with prostitute.

    but its clear in general men have the higher sexs drive

    in general..on tinder or in a nightclub theres a lot more lads up for it then girls

    theyve done surveys on this sorta thing..girl are more wiling to try the opposite sex but less in general up for one night stands etc

    you could perhaps say that its expected for them to respect themselves or whatnot but even in marriage in general the stereotype remains.

    if girls are men had the same sex drive people would be having sex a lot more often..tis not the case

    How so? I was relating back to the OP who based his opinion on prostitution.

    I didn't disagree once that men have a higher sex drive than women. They do. I made another point clearly stating that women's sexuality is also repressed in society so its not encouraged that we have a higher sex.
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    (Original post by SophiaLDN)
    How so? I was relating back to the OP who based his opinion on prostitution.

    I didn't disagree once that men have a higher sex drive than women. They do. I made another point clearly stating that women's sexuality is also repressed in society so its not encouraged that we have a higher sex.
    grand

    meh its less repressed now..i reckon its mainly a mentality these days..

    besides youre not gonna want something so much thats out there so easily..

    its like knowing you have an endless supply of kitkats if you want them

    doesnt mean youll eat them everyday...
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    It's funny, I once thought this were true


    back when I was fat and ugly
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    But do women actually have a lower sex drive than men? Has that been proven?
    I don't think that bioligically they do. As said, I think it's more due to cultural reasons and expectations of society which make women MORE LIKELY to repress their urges.
    If a guy says that he slept with 10 women the past week, what's the response? 'Oh good on you mate!' 'Get in there!'
    If it's a girl, 'OMG you are such a s***'
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    grand

    meh its less repressed now..i reckon its mainly a mentality these days..

    besides youre not gonna want something so much thats out there so easily..

    its like knowing you have an endless supply of kitkats if you want them

    doesnt mean youll eat them everyday...

    True.

    Still repressed though as there's repercussions when you too many kitkats if you feel peckish.
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    (Original post by SophiaLDN)
    True.

    Still repressed though as there's repercussions when you too many kitkats if you feel peckish.
    not really...

    personally any man whos picky on his womans sexual past is a bit iffy with me.

    its the men who should be cutting down on the sex intentions

    will only make them unhappy unless theyre mr tatum
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    agree completely men need to focus wayy less on sex and more on their own happiness

    dont fully get last paragraph tho.. you honestly think societies way prevents women getting into casual relationships:?

    I thought in marriage too they dont really care..whereas men are generally always up for it..hence I dont see why this isnt lower sex drive..
    No, but women are extremely selective about the casual relationships they will get into and if they think they can they will try to keep it going by taming the guy.

    But most women marry/settle with beta males because it's basically impossible to tame an alpha male indefinitely. The primary function of beta males is providing resources for the children which as far as evolution is concerned the woman has around her skirts. The beta husband settles for occasional sex as a trade-off and the woman thinks of England.

    The wife fantasises about unattainable celebrities or characters in romance novels, while the husband fantasises about women in his social group for whom he is alpha by virtue of constructs like his relationship (e.g. a single friend of his wife) or his job (the hot young secretary). Ideally they would both be cheating, and if they're daring/bored/lucky enough, they may have an affair to the best of their ability.

    For the man the cheating would be worth it because he has more of a chance to spread his seed, and if it doesn't work out he has a long-term sexual option still back at home. For the woman the cheating would be worth it because she can get impregnated with some quality sperm and she has a long-term option back at home to provide for it.

    In the absence of an affair, or other outlet such as pornography, we get the situation you describe: the husband pressuring his wife for sex (because that's the only strategy open to him for having kids), and the wife grudgingly acquiescing after as much denial as she feels she can get away with.

    I would argue that since men are taught their sexual urges, whether adulterous or towards their wife, are wrong, but women are still taught it's their right to expect a Disney fairytale marriage. This means it's a better deal for a woman to give up taming an alpha and settle with a beta than it is for a beta to give up chasing women and settle for assured sex. Better for him to give up chasing women and do something to make himself great.
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    (Original post by scrotgrot)
    No, but women are extremely selective about the casual relationships they will get into and if they think they can they will try to keep it going by taming the guy.

    But most women marry/settle with beta males because it's basically impossible to tame an alpha male indefinitely. The primary function of beta males is providing resources for the children which as far as evolution is concerned the woman has around her skirts. The beta husband settles for occasional sex as a trade-off and the woman thinks of England.

    The wife fantasises about unattainable celebrities or characters in romance novels, while the husband fantasises about women in his social group for whom he is alpha by virtue of constructs like his relationship (e.g. a single friend of his wife) or his job (the hot young secretary). Ideally they would both be cheating, and if they're daring/bored/lucky enough, they may have an affair to the best of their ability.

    For the man the cheating would be worth it because he has more of a chance to spread his seed, and if it doesn't work out he has a long-term sexual option still back at home. For the woman the cheating would be worth it because she can get impregnated with some quality sperm and she has a long-term option back at home to provide for it.

    In the absence of an affair, or other outlet such as pornography, we get the situation you describe: the husband pressuring his wife for sex (because that's the only strategy open to him for having kids), and the wife grudgingly acquiescing after as much denial as she feels she can get away with.

    I would argue that since men are taught their sexual urges, whether adulterous or towards their wife, are wrong, but women are still taught it's their right to expect a Disney fairytale marriage. This means it's a better deal for a woman to give up taming an alpha and settle with a beta than it is for a beta to give up chasing women and settle for assured sex. Better for him to give up chasing women and do something to make himself great.
    nothing wrong with getting married for a male..although I agree getting overly excited with sex is not good for most lads

    gurls can get as much sex as they like
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    not really...

    personally any man whos picky on his womans sexual past is a bit iffy with me.

    its the men who should be cutting down on the sex intentions

    will only make them unhappy unless theyre mr tatum

    Unlike you, many do though. Slut shaming is everywhere.
    Meh, I dont really have an opinion on that unless you're talking about guys who purely think about pulling 24/7 then yes. They need to chill.
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    nothing wrong with getting married for a male..although I agree getting overly excited with sex is not good for most lads

    gurls can get as much sex as they like
    Yep it's probably fine in real life but not with just anyone. The main problem is there's no backing out for a man even if the relationship turns emotionally abusive etc but women can initiate a divorce whenever they like for no reason. That's the divorce laws.

    I'd get married in all but name, it's the legal bits which worry me.
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    Not all women have lower sex drives than men though...
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    (Original post by trustmeimlying1)
    in many asian prostitute driven countries its well over 50% of the male pop...

    even in Uk i thought it was like 10% of males have at one stage in their lives

    makes sense or how else would it be so popular...

    No chance. 1% at absolute most in this country. Its just not a normal thing to do.

    The weird ****ers of TSR are not a good proxy for the male populace of the country. 90% of men don't have a problem finding willing sexual partners, the others just have to get by on porn.

    I certainly don't know anyone ****ed in the head enough to visit a prostitute.
 
 
 
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