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    (Original post by Armin.)
    We are imperfect so there is no such thing as unwarranted criticism. We could all improve and indeed we do improve all the time just look back to 5 years ago and think about how much you've become better at dealing with sticky situations. It's my opinion that all criticism even terrible one comes from a real place so it's in your best interest to take it on board even if you didn't like the method of delivery or the messenger.
    The OP specified what it did.

    For example, if somebody started criticising how I did my hair, I'd just think inside "I don't give a ****" I'd probably say it to them to be fair, because that is my personal choice and I like it, I do it for me and nobody else.

    If somebody for example criticised that I was being too loud, too possessive, too controlling whatever, then I'd look over what I did and how to improve. You feel?

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    (Original post by Strom)
    I mean criticism that you feel is harsh or inaccurate. Does it put you down? Do you just forget about it?
    depends on what type of criticism it is. If it like a message saying I failed in this and that an failed in life. Im gonna ignore these.

    however If it is a letter that is written out fully. It would hurt a bit.
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    (Original post by Armin.)
    1. We are imperfect so there is no such thing as unwarranted criticism.
    2.We could all improve and indeed we do improve all the time just look back to 5 years ago and think about how much you've become better at dealing with sticky situations.
    3. It's my opinion that all criticism even terrible one comes from a real place
    1. Well if a person is being spiteful or is jealous of someone and starts criticising them because of that... that isn't fair at all?
    2. Read my first post
    3. Read my first post...

    I said criticism is important and you should take it but you react in different ways.
    Please don't quote me again and if you reply to people reply to them individually.
    (Original post by mynameisntbobk)
    Did you actually read any of my posts before you quoted me?
    I know right... :rolleyes:

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    I think the people that are getting hot under the collar are demonstrating how immature they're being.
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    I don't take it well most of the time, even if it wasn't harsh and meant in a constructive way.

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    (Original post by Armin.)
    I think the people that are getting hot under the collar are demonstrating how immature they're being.
    You're not criticising us constructively... I'm annoyed yes but not "hot under the collar".

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    I've never really been fussed with criticism. I find people that take time from their life to criticise me, either have nothing better to do, or have some serious issues with attention.

    I can only ever take criticism seriously when it's constructive.
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      Not well, I'm very sensitive.
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      One has to distinguish between criticism, scrutiny, compliments and flattery. So this question really is broad but in general once I figure out the person's intentions I react as appropriately as possible...and honestly I feel people want to put you down. So I ignore their words :closedeyes: unless they have a valid point, then I secretly revise myself in that area, maybe. I shyly take compliments, never let anyone gas me. Take compliments AND criticism ONLY from those who you KNOW CARE about you for REAL.
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      (Original post by Armin.)
      *Backs away slowly.* Immature person alert.
      Lol ok then


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      I know right... :rolleyes:

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      I think some people look for trouble. Will not be giving him the satisfaction of replying
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      It's worse if I think it is accurate.

      If I think it is undeserved then I treat it with a big **** you.
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      (Original post by mynameisntbobk)
      I think some people look for trouble. Will not be giving him the satisfaction of replying
      Good

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      It's worse if I think it is accurate.

      If I think it is undeserved then I treat it with a big **** you.
      Isn't it better to be told than not know?

      &

      :five:

      (Without *insert rude word here*)
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      (Original post by karmacrunch)
      Good



      Isn't it better to be told than not know?

      &

      :five:

      (Without *insert rude word here*)
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      Depends. I feel bad enough about myself without it being validated

      I also find those situation awkward. Like I do have a thick skin but if I feel people think I am some kind of fragile plant pot (not sure where I am going with this) which makes me feel awkward. Like them thinking the criticism hurts me makes me feel embarrassed if that makes any sense :/

      You should swear more. Tis a great thing.
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      (Original post by Strom)
      I mean criticism that you feel is harsh or inaccurate. Does it put you down? Do you just forget about it?
      I tend to just be able to brush it off and not comment on it. It used to make me angry though.

      I work in a care home for people with dementia and tend to get a lot of unjustified criticism, shouting and cursing at me! They are only like that because they're confused, so I've learned to let it just go over my head.
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      (Original post by ChaoticButterfly)
      Depends. I feel bad enough about myself without it being validated

      You should swear more. Tis a great thing.
      I'm sure your fine! You can use the criticism (depending on whether it is good or not) to better yourself I guess. :console:

      Nope, I'm good thanks

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      I'm quite sensitive so usually the criticism hurts me but in front of the person I'd just graciously accept it and think about it afterwards. But I get over it pretty quickly and try to use it constructively.
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      Last time I received harsh criticism, I ripped up a chapter of a novel that I'd been working on much to the horror of my relatives. I got a b*llocking from my older cousin for that. Another time I can recall having a meltdown which was much worse because I completely lost it.

      I'm very immature when it comes to harsh criticism.
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      I generally ignore criticism, and try to take constructive criticism into account if it is civil.
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      I would just brush off inaccurate criticism, but if the criticism was harsh and somewhat true I would be negatively affected by it.
     
     
     
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