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Easy peasy.
Swap your single bed for a king size, or a double at the very least, the cost wont be prohibitive as you just need the bed, duvet, two sets of linen and some extra pillows. If your room is small its going to feel more cramped but it will be soooo worth it! There are a thousand ideas for underbed storage so you should still have room for everything.
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So I met my girlfriend at university and we've been together for 3 years now. We used to have sex all the time, (around 5-10 times a week). I love her to bits and see her regularly after work for dinner and watching theatre shows et

After graduating, we've been living with our parents and got jobs and it's hard to spend time alone together, in particular nights together.

We can go out for getaway weekends and the like but I'm not keen on spending £100+each time just to have sex. Having said that we went out last weekend and it was amazing; if it was a bit cheaper I would consider regular weekend holidays.

Thinking about this for longer, I thought this would be quite a common problem for couples around 22-25 years old to have but couldn't find much on it.

Im really struggling to go from having sex every day to every 6 weeks or so (And at an expense too!)

Living together wouldn't be financially possible for at least another couple of years.
Is there anything that can be done other than to suck it up for the next few years?
If you are living with parents I don't understand why you are going out every six weeks or so I live with mine and only work in Starbucks yet would be able to take my partner out (if I had one) to a hotel at least every other week and I mean a nice one in a nice location probably every single week if they went halves on the hotel then I'd pay for everything else
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We have a combined income of around £60k right now but I think my dad will also help me out if it means buying a place! He's always stressed the importance of getting on the property ladder...
It's definitely good waiting to get a place together with a low mortgage - I'm moving into my new house in america at the end of next year. The property prices were so good I could get a place without a mortgage at all. Could never have been able to afford something similar in the UK.

I find it interesting how you're both adults yet you have parents who are uncomfortable with you sharing beds. The only time it's been a problem for me is when I was living in the middle east and it presented legal problems (you're not supposed to have relationships, shouldn't be too friendly with someone you're not married to etc etc) that the local police liked to make the occasional examples out of, but even then as long as it was discreet there was never an issue. I know that it was more of a "we don't want you getting in trouble" thing than a "we don't like you having sex in our house" thing.
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It's definitely good waiting to get a place together with a low mortgage - I'm moving into my new house in america at the end of next year. The property prices were so good I could get a place without a mortgage at all. Could never have been able to afford something similar in the UK.

I find it interesting how you're both adults yet you have parents who are uncomfortable with you sharing beds. The only time it's been a problem for me is when I was living in the middle east and it presented legal problems (you're not supposed to have relationships, shouldn't be too friendly with someone you're not married to etc etc) that the local police liked to make the occasional examples out of, but even then as long as it was discreet there was never an issue. I know that it was more of a "we don't want you getting in trouble" thing than a "we don't like you having sex in our house" thing.
My ex and I always spoke about leaving the Uk it really is expensive here especially London which is one of the few places he actually likes in the Uk I'm glad to know he also likes Newcastle so that could be an option but he hates the income tax here in general and I've never really wanted to live in London except the outskirts which he'd be happy with. I've always wanted America or Canada but I'd be happy and many other places too. He might transfer to a university abroad in September and he promised if we are in a relationship by then that he won't end things so I'll probably transfer the next year. It all depends on if I like where he has gone though but I'm sure if he leaves he'll make a good choice and I'll follow even if he doesn't go to a university I like, hopefully he'll go to a country I like and I'll transfer to a uni nearby his.
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My ex and I always spoke about leaving the Uk it really is expensive here especially London which is one of the few places he actually likes in the Uk I'm glad to know he also likes Newcastle so that could be an option but he hates the income tax here in general and I've never really wanted to live in London except the outskirts which he'd be happy with. I've always wanted America or Canada but I'd be happy and many other places too. He might transfer to a university abroad in September and he promised if we are in a relationship by then that he won't end things so I'll probably transfer the next year. It all depends on if I like where he has gone though but I'm sure if he leaves he'll make a good choice and I'll follow even if he doesn't go to a university I like, hopefully he'll go to a country I like and I'll transfer to a uni nearby his.
You sound like you've put a lot of thought into this - that's great. With the UK in the mess its in at the moment, and with things set to possibly dip when we get kicked out of the EU, I think it would be wise to look abroad. Canada, being a commonwealth country and therefore ruled by the Queen, is one of the easiest in terms of visas. However, I got a green card for America as an "investor" (you have to inject half a million dollars into the local economy - sounds a lot, but take into account £250,000 in the company property [incidentally where I live as well!] plus £200,000 in employees salaries within a year (£20,000 each, not breaking the bank - you have to provide 10+ american jobs), plus the additional value of computers, equipment etc I'd be bringing over. So while it sounds like "You have to give us a huge amount of money", it actually turns out perfectly normal, so if you'd be considering the US, then definitely give the investor option a though - that gives you indefinite residency.

I chose chose Indiana for a few reasons:

a) Indianapolis is a very industrious, successful city
b) Property prices are fantastic, especially when you get 20 minutes or so out of the city.
c) There's lots of farmland at INCREDIBLY low prices, especially when you grab a foreclosure (illegal in the UK I believe) where someone declares bankrupcy and their house gets put on the market by the bank at an unbelievably low price. And open space was perfect for me having a recording studio as part of the property, so I could avoid the traffic noise and no hooting horns on city traffic.

For your reference, I bought my house without a mortgage with pretty much all my savings, but it was worth it because I know I don't ever owe anyone money other than property tax (which actually, is a lot higher in America than it is in the UK! This property is $11,000 a year. What one can do however is object to a tax valuation and argue for a lower price with "city hall"! [compared to tax policy in the UK, it's like christmas for boring people]!) Bit still, the kind of property I paid for in Indiana would be perhaps £1.5-2m in the UK, even in suburbs or out of the way a bit. I supposed if it was completely in the middle of nowhere, you could find it for £1m, but my case still stands. As I say, I paid £250,000 for the house itself, and it's on the fibre optic line from the city which is good for my work (music and media).

The UK property market is overrated and it's time for a serious lack of demand to bring the prices down to what's right.
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We can go out for getaway weekends and the like but I'm not keen on spending £100+each time just to have sex. Having said that we went out last weekend and it was amazing; if it was a bit cheaper I would consider regular weekend holidays.

Have you tried camping?
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Bang her in her parents bed and let them know their bed is now your bed.
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Have you tried camping?
You should try camping! It's fun . . . When it doesn't rain.

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You sound like you've put a lot of thought into this - that's great. With the UK in the mess its in at the moment, and with things set to possibly dip when we get kicked out of the EU, I think it would be wise to look abroad. Canada, being a commonwealth country and therefore ruled by the Queen, is one of the easiest in terms of visas. However, I got a green card for America as an "investor" (you have to inject half a million dollars into the local economy - sounds a lot, but take into account £250,000 in the company property [incidentally where I live as well!] plus £200,000 in employees salaries within a year (£20,000 each, not breaking the bank - you have to provide 10+ american jobs), plus the additional value of computers, equipment etc I'd be bringing over. So while it sounds like "You have to give us a huge amount of money", it actually turns out perfectly normal, so if you'd be considering the US, then definitely give the investor option a though - that gives you indefinite residency.

I chose chose Indiana for a few reasons:

a) Indianapolis is a very industrious, successful city
b) Property prices are fantastic, especially when you get 20 minutes or so out of the city.
c) There's lots of farmland at INCREDIBLY low prices, especially when you grab a foreclosure (illegal in the UK I believe) where someone declares bankrupcy and their house gets put on the market by the bank at an unbelievably low price. And open space was perfect for me having a recording studio as part of the property, so I could avoid the traffic noise and no hooting horns on city traffic.

For your reference, I bought my house without a mortgage with pretty much all my savings, but it was worth it because I know I don't ever owe anyone money other than property tax (which actually, is a lot higher in America than it is in the UK! This property is $11,000 a year. What one can do however is object to a tax valuation and argue for a lower price with "city hall"! [compared to tax policy in the UK, it's like christmas for boring people]!) Bit still, the kind of property I paid for in Indiana would be perhaps £1.5-2m in the UK, even in suburbs or out of the way a bit. I supposed if it was completely in the middle of nowhere, you could find it for £1m, but my case still stands. As I say, I paid £250,000 for the house itself, and it's on the fibre optic line from the city which is good for my work (music and media).

The UK property market is overrated and it's time for a serious lack of demand to bring the prices down to what's right.
Well I'm actually have American never got dual citizenship but I have family there so getting a green card would be incredibly easy, my ex is Portuguese so might be rather hard to get citizenship in the Us for him but if he gets dual citizenship from the Uk then Canada is the easier option and I've always loved Toronto and Vancouver we both like cities doesn't have to be a huge one but a nicr city feel and tbh every city in the Us feels big anyway haha I don't think we'd have to do the investor route due to me having family in America already.

The thing is I neither if us kniw where he shall head if he gets a transfer but even then he may want to live in a different place to the university so we shall see what happens it's always been an idea but at the same time something we've always wanted to do if I studied thw right course and did my A-levels not now an Access course (loving yhe course) then I'd be heading yo the Us for unifor sure but anyway I'm happy to study in the Uk and happy to leave if he transfers
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Just buy a double bed, you're an adult for God's sake. Or have sex at hers?
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You can still have sex





with your hand
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(Original post by Louis Litt)
We have a combined income of around £60k right now but I think my dad will also help me out if it means buying a place! He's always stressed the importance of getting on the property ladder...
I'm sure you could think about buying a place together pretty soon if you've got that kind of combined income. I got my own place in London as soon as I graduated, at which time my income was only £38k (without a girlfriend to contribute towards half of it).

I suppose it all depends on how much deposit you can get together, and how quickly. If your parents are willing to help you out it sounds quite feasible to buy a place quickly.
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After graduating, we've been living with our parents and got jobs and it's hard to spend time alone together, in particular nights together.

When I first met my ex I use to rattle her headboard pretty much nightly. I admit, breakfast with the family was quiet.
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Well I'm actually have American never got dual citizenship but I have family there so getting a green card would be incredibly easy, my ex is Portuguese so might be rather hard to get citizenship in the Us for him but if he gets dual citizenship from the Uk then Canada is the easier option and I've always loved Toronto and Vancouver we both like cities doesn't have to be a huge one but a nicr city feel and tbh every city in the Us feels big anyway haha I don't think we'd have to do the investor route due to me having family in America already.

The thing is I neither if us kniw where he shall head if he gets a transfer but even then he may want to live in a different place to the university so we shall see what happens it's always been an idea but at the same time something we've always wanted to do if I studied thw right course and did my A-levels not now an Access course (loving yhe course) then I'd be heading yo the Us for unifor sure but anyway I'm happy to study in the Uk and happy to leave if he transfers
Ah easy for you then! Pssh, some people :P

I nearly moved to Vancouver a few years ago when my dad was offered a job there, but it looked very.. "Mixed" in terms of society and population (and not in a good way). Toronto is supposed to be lovely, I've never been there before though and don't know what property prices are like. Another place you could consider in terms of your courses is having one with easily-transferable credits on several short modules. I was lucky in my university that it's specialised in my field, and has campuses all over the world so my transfer from Dubai to London was a piece of cake.

How much notice do you think he would have if his company transferred him?
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So I met my girlfriend at university and we've been together for 3 years now. We used to have sex all the time, (around 5-10 times a week). I love her to bits and see her regularly after work for dinner and watching theatre shows et

After graduating, we've been living with our parents and got jobs and it's hard to spend time alone together, in particular nights together.

We can go out for getaway weekends and the like but I'm not keen on spending £100+each time just to have sex. Having said that we went out last weekend and it was amazing; if it was a bit cheaper I would consider regular weekend holidays.

Thinking about this for longer, I thought this would be quite a common problem for couples around 22-25 years old to have but couldn't find much on it.

Im really struggling to go from having sex every day to every 6 weeks or so (And at an expense too!)

Living together wouldn't be financially possible for at least another couple of years.
Is there anything that can be done other than to suck it up for the next few years?
10 times a week dammm
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Rent somewhere together. From your income you can EASILY afford to be able to.
And you can EASILY share and have sex in a single bed.
Stop making excuses.
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Ah easy for you then! Pssh, some people :P

I nearly moved to Vancouver a few years ago when my dad was offered a job there, but it looked very.. "Mixed" in terms of society and population (and not in a good way). Toronto is supposed to be lovely, I've never been there before though and don't know what property prices are like. Another place you could consider in terms of your courses is having one with easily-transferable credits on several short modules. I was lucky in my university that it's specialised in my field, and has campuses all over the world so my transfer from Dubai to London was a piece of cake.

How much notice do you think he would have if his company transferred him?

You mean university and we'll he said if he does well in his first term then he'll know but he might have meant year in which case he wouldn't know until September I'm sure he'll know before then though if he is to transfer. It might be a little hard for him to get a green card unless he had a Uk passport it would make things easier if he was going anywhere within the Commonwealth as well however if he just wants Europe then jusy having a Portuguese EU card should be fine nevertheless it's good to have options with things like that.

Oh I love Vancouver I don't know what you mean by mixed society in a bad way. It's right next to Seattle and Toronto is right next to New York so equally good places so live I'd like to become a lawyer in Ny or Chicago. But I really would go wherever he went I'm sure we'd both come out with good careers and be happy
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Bang her in her parents bed and let them know their bed is now your bed.
:lol: Lad.
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