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    (Original post by Lilyghz)
    Don't meddle with the situation from this moment onwards. Let it play out naturally. If he chooses to ignore you, fine. Don't read too much into it. If it turns out that he was just taking his time to reply, then go about your merry way and have a chat with him. If you grow more thoughtful about him not replying and decide to send him another message that will also probably get ignored, you'll feel like an even bigger fool.

    I understand that you're finding it hard to move on from him because he meant a lot to you, but sometimes good things fall apart to make way for better things. If it doesn't work out now, just do your best to forget about him and move on but keep in mind that these things take time. The last thing you want is to be the person who remains fixated on an issue for too long a time
    I was going to send another message saying something like: "I hate the way this has turned out between us" but maybe I should just forget it
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    I feel like a complete fool. Maybe he is just ignoring me to annoy me and hurt me even more.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I was going to send another message saying something like: "I hate the way this has turned out between us" but maybe I should just forget it
    I think that's just you acting on impulse because you're caught up in the moment of really missing him. Try not to send him another message until you hear back, if you hear back from him. OP, take a few deep breaths and calm yourself down. Sleep on all of this tonight and you'll feel loads better in the morning.
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    He may (and I do this) not quite know what to say; so will leave it for now and reply later.
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    [QUOTE=OU Student;52021307]He may (and I do this) not quite know what


    I only asked how he was, surely he could of replied.
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    Pleaseeeee help.
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    People are giving you advice already, it is probably best just to wait and see if he replies, if he doesn't then you know the answer. Course it is horrible that you broke up but have you thought that he may be just as hurt as you and seeing a message from you may have brought back painful memories for him. I mean I don't know also depends who broke up with who.
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    You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. If he does not reply your message, please do not contact him again and try to move on.

    All you have done so far is reached out to him. If you write him again without him having responded to your last message, you will come across as desperate.

    Desperation is the most unattractive thing ever and means from that point on, he controls the shots!

    He may mean the world to you right now, but there is someone much better for you out there...................
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    Okay, listen. Don't send another message tonight.
    If he still hasn't replied by tomorrow evening (say around 7pm), you can send another message and tell him you just hated the way things ended and give him the option of eithersorting it out with you (make it clear that you're okay with being just friends) or asking him if he wants nothing to do with you any more. Tell him you can deal with the truth. This way, he'll hopefully tell you the truth and at least you'll know where you stand, regardless of what his response is.

    Just make sure that this is the last message you send him. If he doesn't reply to this one, where you've practically given him a multiple choice question, and he still doesn't reply, forget it. He clearly isn't mature enough to sort it out with you so think of it as a good thing that he's not in your life any more.

    This is a win-win situation for you. Don't dwell on it too much. My advice to you in general is to set yourself goals to give yourself something else to focus on that will benefit you in the long run. It's better to have distractions and be productive than to waste your time thinking about a boy who will mean barely anything to you a few years down the line. I hope you feel better.
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    Thank you. I go on my year abroad year after next so maybe it is for the best.
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    (Original post by IcEmAn911)
    Maybe he's too busy to reply back? Sometimes it takes me up to a week or two to reply back.
    Is this meant to be a joke. All it takes is a couples of seconds to reply back to a message. I don't buy the argument that someone can be so busy that they can't spare a couple of seconds.
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    I am proud of you. Stay strong. Any man that doesn't appreciate you, does not deserve you.

    When he realises your worth, he will be back, but if he ain't worthy of you, may something stop him from coming back to you so that the next man out there (the real man who is worthy of you) will not come to you, only to find you "distracted"!
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    I am proud of you. Stay strong. Any man that doesn't appreciate you, does not deserve you.

    When he realises your worth, he will be back, but if he ain't worthy of you, may something stop him from coming back to you so that the next man out there (the real man who is worthy of you) will not come to you, only to find you "distracted"!
    Thank you, I feel a little embarrassed and foolish to have been ignored.
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    You have nothing to be embarrassed about. It takes a bigger person to offer a sign of peace.
    I do not want to reveal my age, but I have dated and loved many guys over several years. Several of those break ups hurt like hell, but the amazing thing is the next guy was always better than the last.

    You will be surprised at the amount of nonsense you tolerate from the partner you are with, but once you come out of that relationship, you will be wiser and will not make the same mistake to tolerate the same foolishness with the next one. Hence, the next partner is usually better than the last. Of course the new one will in due course reveal a whole new batch of madness, but you will learn to quickly spot foolishness approaching, and then you leave the new sucker and it's on to the next one!

    I can now look back and laugh at those experiences that made me cry at different stages in my life. Every guy I ever dated made me a better person. Yes. Even the foolish exes, I am extremely grateful for! Every single one of them made me a smarter girl. I now know how I deserved to be treated. I know my worth in Gold!
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    i did the same to my ex

    he doesnt give a **** about you no more

    time to move on
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    i did the same to my ex

    he doesnt give a **** about you no more

    time to move on
    Well, it hurts since we were together so long. I still care about him.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Well, it hurts since we were together so long. I still care about him.
    lol she said the same thing to me haha

    but really though he doesnt care and i can tell. mooovee onnnnn.
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    And may you live to be a hundred!

    There will come a time when 2 years don't seem like such a long time.


    He lucky he got to spend those 2 years with you.

    You will give a better man more years than that.


    Repeat after me............

    "I am all that, and then some!"
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    (Original post by BullViagra)
    lol she said the same thing to me haha

    but really though he doesnt care and i can tell. mooovee onnnnn.

    BullViagra wonderfully demonstrates what I stated earlier, that when a man sees that a girl is desperate for him, he treats her like S**t immediately after.

    This is why I asked and am begging you not to send a second message if the first one remains unanswered!
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    And may you live to be a hundred!

    There will come a time when 2 years don't seem like such a long time.


    He lucky he got to spend those 2 years with you.

    You will give a better man more years than that.


    Repeat after me............

    "I am all that, and then some!"
    Thank you. I am only 18 and it seems like a long time. I think I am just going to move on with my life.
 
 
 
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