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    (Original post by suirrel)
    "Grow up"?

    You're the one who's assuming that just because someone is being friendly and nice to you, that they want to get jiggy or go out with you. It's pretty immature to not be able to handle a girl being friendly without thinking she wants to go out with you.
    Lol, clear case of a strawman here...
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    Least he was straight to the point.
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    (Original post by suirrel)
    This sounds pretty serious. I think you should tell your boyfriend and maybe even your parents. It's better to be safe and trust your gut instinct that he's not safe, than to put yourself in a bad situation because you don't want to hurt his feelings or make a fuss or something.

    I'm sure he wouldn't do such an awful thing but then again I like to think that people have other peoples' best interests at heart. If you are afraid, you should stick to going around in groups etc around town/school. If you get some more proof of him threatening you then you could even contact the police and tell them you are scared (although it might be best to find a female police officer to make sure they take you seriously).

    Try not to work yourself up about it, take necessary precautions but don't get too upset - keep going to college, work, the library, etc, even without him.
    Thanks for the advice. I don't think he'd do anything. But I will keep my distance.
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    If someone started randomly massaging me (even if they were a friend) I would say: 'you want some?', although perhaps not if they swang that way
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    (Original post by MissLalaxx)
    I'm scared now. I noticed that he has a mean streak to him as well. My best way to deal with the situation is to ignore him and if that doesn't work I'll take further action. My main problem is who is we. Is there a group of them planning to corner me somehow and rape me? I'm not going to ask him as it's weird. Why do they have to wait til I'm 18 anyway? What difference does it make? If there is a group of them, I know who they are. I actually deleted all his messages and have no proof. ffs :mad:

    I think your instincts are right to have set off alarms. What he said was not only offensive but also very aggressive and indirectly threatening. It's all the more concerning because he is 26. I think you should cut all contact with him immediately, no matter what it takes, ie even if it means you have to be rude by ignoring him completely. As far as I'm concerned, what he said is so extreme that it is incompatible with any friendly contact with him and anyone very close to him. Report him right away if he makes any other unwarranted move towards you. If you still feel worried however, (and I can understand that this "we" would worry you), listen to your instinct and voice your concern through whatever means available in your university. You should not have to live in fear... Good luck with it all.
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    Sounds like a guy who you ought to avoid at all costs.
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    Cease contact, avoid his circle of jerkwads and stay safe. Consider it a lesson learnt in terms of judging character/spotting a keeno
 
 
 
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