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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Would it be considered inappropriate, if, on a first date, I asked a girl to hold hands?
    If in doubt whip out your... cinema tickets
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    (Original post by nitbag)
    If in doubt whip out your... cinema tickets
    Not a bad day for cinema.

    Orange Wednesdays
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    But.. I can't lift :sad:

    But, I like hand-holdy :sad:

    Confident and direct, yet not holding hands? :confused:

    Holding hands it's very romantic, I'd say more so than a hug/kiss. A bit too heavy for a first date and personally it would either make me question whether he was genuine or think he was too over-eager. Some girls may like it, you have to gauge what kind of girl she is - it's just risky for the above reasons that's all.
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    (Original post by Hate_skl)
    i'm so bored

    if you need advice, tell your story
    Do girls get put off by height of other boys? I like some girls but I fear they may reject me due to height. Also does skin colour play a part in getting girls? I'm only asking this because I'm a Bangali.
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    (Original post by Shadoo)
    I've always found holding feet much more romantic, give it a try on your next date. Simply say to the girl 'Want to hold feet?'
    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    My ex had a problem with her feet being touched so before we were ever together, when her and I were just at the hanging out stage, I challenged myself to make her feet the first thing I properly touched on her body. We had this sort of ritualistic trust exercise moment, she relented/submitted, it was hawt.. :evilbanana:
    True story

    (Original post by nitbag)
    If in doubt whip out your... cinema tickets
    I still remember my first ever date, which was a cinema date, with this pretty girl I met online (weirdly, this was 2000), both aged 15/16. Was awkward, and I made the mistake of taking her to The Beach (a gripping film), followed by one or two other such gripping movies, like Gladiator

    The girl asked if we could make the later a double date and her friend and her boyfriend spent half the movie snogging - think they were trying to give me a hint but I was so into the film/**** scared of making her feel uncomfortable or being rejected that I never made a move

    Last I heard she was dating a 19 year old, who took her virginity, and probably lifts :sad:

    (Original post by Blaq_widow)
    A bit too heavy for a first date and personally it would either make me question whether he was genuine or think he was too over-eager
    I'm not too eager, or I surely I would lift :sad:
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    (Original post by Shafy97)
    Do girls get put off by height of other boys? I like some girls but I fear they may reject me due to height. Also does skin colour play a part in getting girls? I'm only asking this because I'm a Bangali.
    How tall are you? It's likely to be off-putting to girls 5'7 and above because they're tall themselves and don't want to tower above a guy in heels. Plenty of petite women about though.

    Literal skin colour? No. But again, some girls don't find SE Asians attractive, not so much a colour issue but a cultural association some women may find off-putting. But again, for plenty of women it's not an issue. The right woman won't care .
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    I'm not too eager, or I surely I would lift :sad:
    Only an impression, unfortunately they can be far removed from the truth sometimes.

    Anyway you appear to be successful with girls most of the time
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    (Original post by Blaq_widow)
    How tall are you? It's likely to be off-putting to girls 5'7 and above because they're tall themselves and don't want to tower above a guy in heels. Plenty of petite women about though.

    Literal skin colour? No. But again, some girls don't find SE Asians attractive, not so much a colour issue but a cultural association some women may find off-putting. But again, for plenty of women it's not an issue. The right woman won't care .
    Lol, you see since I'm Bangali, I kinda eat a lot but I'm not fat. I think the main obstruction is religion I'm Muslim, I can talk to girls but not literally go out with them. But the problem I have is the approach. I've got plenty of banter up my sleeve but I don't know how to do it.
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    (Original post by Shafy97)
    Lol, you see since I'm Bangali, I kinda eat a lot but I'm not fat. I think the main obstruction is religion I'm Muslim, I can talk to girls but not literally go out with them. But the problem I have is the approach. I've got plenty of banter up my sleeve but I don't know how to do it.
    Religion makes it tricky...I take it you're a devout Muslim? In which case compatibility is a must. You need someone who's beliefs and principles are in line with your own, not necessarily Muslim but someone who also applies a lot of discipline in their lives. Someone who respects the fact you don't want to drink/have sex before marriage/etc. Not easy in a liberal society ha...

    When chatting up girls, de-pressure the situation. Don't put so much importance on the outcome. It's like that job that you desperately want - you want it so much that you over-prepare, stutter and come off a lot less cool than you usually are. Girls can smell the nerves
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    (Original post by Blaq_widow)
    Only an impression, unfortunately they can be far removed from the truth sometimes
    I am the truth

    Anyway you appear to be successful with girls most of the time
    True. I would like to think that it's because not holding hands straight away must be the way to go. Last I heard it's because I lift, tho :sad:
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    I thnk you should give her sometime let her know you and she'll let you know where and when to start trust me being a girl i know what we feel
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    (Original post by Shafy97)
    Do girls get put off by height of other boys? I like some girls but I fear they may reject me due to height. Also does skin colour play a part in getting girls? I'm only asking this because I'm a Bangali.
    this is the truth - yes girls like attractive guys so you know tall guys have an advantage, girls can't help that however, if you are confident in your self and you are genuine, you will have a higher chance then being an insecure boy. No girl that's actually serious about like a relationship thinks wow he's brown, i can't go there, in 2015 anyway. i know a Bangali guy who is in uni and pulls a lot of girls because he's just himself, he's confident and that is defo what girls are into the most.
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    (Original post by Hate_skl)
    this is the truth - yes girls like attractive guys so you know tall guys have an advantage, girls can't help that however, if you are confident in your self and you are genuine, you will have a higher chance then being an insecure boy. No girl that's actually serious about like a relationship thinks wow he's brown, i can't go there, in 2015 anyway. i know a Bangali guy who is in uni and pulls a lot of girls because he's just himself, he's confident and that is defo what girls are into the most.
    Cheers, the names Shaf btw, I'm into dancing, beatboxing and Karaoke, would those skills work?
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    (Original post by Shafy97)
    Cheers, the names Shaf btw, I'm into dancing, beatboxing and Karaoke, would those skills work?
    as long as you believe they work --> confidence
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    I am the truth

    True. I would like to think that it's because not holding hands straight away must be the way to go. Last I heard it's because I lift, tho :sad:
    If you lift, no problem though right?
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    (Original post by Hate_skl)
    i'm so bored

    if you need advice, tell your story
    #promotingmystory
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3087093
    thoughts?? or is the problem..unclear tbh
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    (Original post by Blaq_widow)
    If you lift, no problem though right?
    According to my research, yes :ahee:
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    (Original post by JackBlack)
    Dont ask just do it. Be a man. If she in anyway seems uncomfortable or pulls away, apologise and dont try again until you've known each other a while .
    Very good advice :yep:

    I hate it when guys try and hold my hand
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    #promotingmystory
    http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=3087093
    thoughts?? or is the problem..unclear tbh
    your reading too much into it. it's not really a big deal, he may have not seen it or not in the mood. i think you should become just friends with him through class first so you can get to know him more and decide if you really do want to do something. And if you do then it'll be much more easier to initiate a relationship. but slow down and focus on your studies
 
 
 
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