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Is it acceptable for a daughter to ask their father why he had an affair? watch


    (Original post by kka25)
    Wow, I'd wonder what the father would answer : /
    Probably it's complicated

    You can absolutely ask if you wish to.
    The only thing I find weird though is that your parents are still together, so it seems like they have worked out the issue? So, might not appreciate you bringing up the past. How long ago was it?

    I would ask, I had a similar conversation with my dad and while it was tough it really helped me to see him as a human who made mistakes (which he 100% agrees were massive mistakes) and understand emotionally the reasons, how hard this had been for him too and how much he regrets the pain he caused... it really helped our relationship but I had to wait some time before he felt okay enough about what had happened to talk about it

    It is acceptable, however as another poster said, you may find yourself emotionally scarred and seeking detachment from emotional intimacy for many years, compartmentalising your feelings in pseudo-intellectual rumination and hiding the pain, depersonalising it through obsessing over bizarre theories such as hypergamy and AFBB.
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