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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is me except I have auditory processing I do sort of have/had irl friends but yeah really no friends and i'm better online ;D
    Oooh hey, I meant to ask, what sort of gaming are you a fan of? as I am happy to swap 3ds codes if you have one
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    Hello there,

    I think that at one point of our lives or currently at this point, we all can relate. My sister always told me that you'll find someone special that will be there by your side, a friend. When? It all depends on you and that friend. Once you finally find that friend, you'll also meet their friends or you'll be able to make your own group of friends. I never really had a true friend that understands me and is there for me until now, so don't give up. It's never too late. The key is to keep communicating and don't let your social anxiety ruin it for you. Don't expect to find a person immediately or by the first conversation. It takes time. Baby steps. There probably has been some people you see and want to be friends with them but you just don't know how to talk or approach them. Get involved and ask what their interests are. Both of you might have some similarities and BAM there's something to talk about!
    Good luck
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys,

    I'm not really sure how to start this, I'm just sort of wondering if anyone else is in a similar position to me.

    I'm 21 (female) and have no friends (I know how pathetic that sounds). I'm in my second year at uni and it's so miserable having to attend lectures and seminars alone, it feels like it must be really obvious to other people how alone I am and it's embarrassing. I have tried hard to connect with others but I have terrible social anxiety, making it pretty difficult, and the people I have spoken with/met online always seem to get bored with me very quickly. I'm not sure what to do.

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc
    I'm exactly the same, only thing is I'm male and in first year. I'll be your friend

    I don't think it's pathetic at all to be honest.

    There's lots of people who hang out with others just so they won't be alone or look like they have no mates. That is what I would call pathetic, not your situation.

    It's funny people say join societies..like that is the answer to everything. Quite honestly I've done that and I've got acquaintances but nobody I'd call a friend.

    I'd rather be alone than hang out with people I didn't click with. Or even worse people who are toxic/using me/not on the same level etc.
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    I'll be your friend
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    Ill be your friend too. p.s im in the same boat as you.
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    (Original post by alphaomegajc)
    Hello there,

    I think that at one point of our lives or currently at this point, we all can relate. My sister always told me that you'll find someone special that will be there by your side, a friend. When? It all depends on you and that friend. Once you finally find that friend, you'll also meet their friends or you'll be able to make your own group of friends. I never really had a true friend that understands me and is there for me until now, so don't give up. It's never too late. The key is to keep communicating and don't let your social anxiety ruin it for you. Don't expect to find a person immediately or by the first conversation. It takes time. Baby steps. There probably has been some people you see and want to be friends with them but you just don't know how to talk or approach them. Get involved and ask what their interests are. Both of you might have some similarities and BAM there's something to talk about!
    Good luck
    The problem of me and my friends is there is a girl who wants to be our friend and I have realised that for the past 3 months since she started sitting with us and trying to talk with us, we have no really acknowledged her existence and now we feel terrible for not having included her as much as we should have.
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    Since you like gaming, you've got a friend over here.
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    hey i also have social anxiety but i've never let any blunders put me down and keep trying to socialise. The more you take yourself out of your comfort zone, the better it gets. I've few friends, and have joined a few societies and clubs plus volunteer regularly as well. You should try out some clubs you like the sound off and don't be put off. Most social anxiety is from a lack of confidence and practise.
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    try meetup.com? gl op
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    I don't really have any friends either. I'm currently doing A levels, but mainly just have acquaintances more than anything. I'm hoping this will change when I go to uni. It can get very lonely.
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    (Original post by HarryDn)
    try meetup.com? gl op
    Lol most of people that use that site are 50+

    On topic: My friend has exactly the same interests that you posted, I could probs set you guys up .
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys,

    I'm not really sure how to start this, I'm just sort of wondering if anyone else is in a similar position to me.

    I'm 21 (female) and have no friends (I know how pathetic that sounds). I'm in my second year at uni and it's so miserable having to attend lectures and seminars alone, it feels like it must be really obvious to other people how alone I am and it's embarrassing. I have tried hard to connect with others but I have terrible social anxiety, making it pretty difficult, and the people I have spoken with/met online always seem to get bored with me very quickly. I'm not sure what to do.

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc
    I can relate to you so much it's crazy, I've try to be friendly with basically everyone and I feel like I'm always the one that's making an enough and even online as well. I guess people like us are just destine to be loners (which I hate so much).
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    Well if your all in the same boat them perhaps look to see if you live close by too each other. Forget the whole OMG I CANT MEET PEOPLE OF THE INTERNET *******s. It's just seems obvious.
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    (Original post by Rich00)
    Well if your all in the same boat them perhaps look to see if you live close by too each other. Forget the whole OMG I CANT MEET PEOPLE OF THE INTERNET *******s. It's just seems obvious.
    I was thinking the exact same thing, obviously we would meet at a public place. I'll start us off am from Sheffield, female, 19 and a Maths and technology lover, anyone wants to be friends


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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys,

    I'm not really sure how to start this, I'm just sort of wondering if anyone else is in a similar position to me.

    I'm 21 (female) and have no friends (I know how pathetic that sounds). I'm in my second year at uni and it's so miserable having to attend lectures and seminars alone, it feels like it must be really obvious to other people how alone I am and it's embarrassing. I have tried hard to connect with others but I have terrible social anxiety, making it pretty difficult, and the people I have spoken with/met online always seem to get bored with me very quickly. I'm not sure what to do.

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc
    I spent much of my first year at Uni alone. I would try and chat to people in class (most generally are friendly) and join a society related to your interests, i.e gaming or film.
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    How did we get to this place? Where did it all go wrong? Did we all just collectively forget how to go out, have a few drinks and make friends?


    The life of the youth of Britain in 2015. No fun, no friends, no future.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys,

    I'm not really sure how to start this, I'm just sort of wondering if anyone else is in a similar position to me.

    I'm 21 (female) and have no friends (I know how pathetic that sounds). I'm in my second year at uni and it's so miserable having to attend lectures and seminars alone, it feels like it must be really obvious to other people how alone I am and it's embarrassing. I have tried hard to connect with others but I have terrible social anxiety, making it pretty difficult, and the people I have spoken with/met online always seem to get bored with me very quickly. I'm not sure what to do.

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc


    I used to be in the same situation, was terrible after college Sort of got over it now I've met some great people but still really struggle to speak to girls :/, I have 2 of the same interests Gaming and Movies. I've met loads of great people through online games. You'll get there just keep positive
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    Sometimes the best thing to do in life when it comes to friendship is not have any at all!! People can be so *****y and two faced and bring you really far down in life.

    Don't worry about it. Concentrate on your studies
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    (Original post by Anonymous)

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc
    Hi, I don't mean to make judgements but usually after those lists of interests people usually add "doc martins, short haircuts, other girls" to the list.

    Deny that you wear Doc Martins!

    Anyway, none of your interests really lend themselves to making friends. I mean you could join a political party, or a film society or a filmmaking group or a scriptwriting group or something to share your interests? Or maybe just go down Soho?

    I only have about 2 good friends. I made a new friend recently from staying in a Youth Hostel. That's actually a good place to make friends. (And no it wasn't the YMCA).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hey guys,

    I'm not really sure how to start this, I'm just sort of wondering if anyone else is in a similar position to me.

    I'm 21 (female) and have no friends (I know how pathetic that sounds). I'm in my second year at uni and it's so miserable having to attend lectures and seminars alone, it feels like it must be really obvious to other people how alone I am and it's embarrassing. I have tried hard to connect with others but I have terrible social anxiety, making it pretty difficult, and the people I have spoken with/met online always seem to get bored with me very quickly. I'm not sure what to do.

    Interests: Gaming, social justice, feminism, movies etc
    Gah I can sort of relate. My situation wasn't quite as bad but part of the reason I left Uni was due to hardly knowing anyone :erm: Obviously social anxiety can be very crippling but you can improve, trust me! Talking to other people who are on the own is a good step as it will be more comfortable for you & they may well be craving someone to give them a bit of attention.

    Also joining clubs/societies related to your interests will help. I meen feel free to PM me if you want, & indeed any other lonely people. I'm always happy to lend my time & have a bit of a chat!
 
 
 
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