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    It depends who you are.
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    Yes, although at the same time it's good to be the best person you can be, so if you think there's something that needs improving then work on that!
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    It is excellent advice as long as you're genuinely happy to be yourself, even if that means you may not appeal to people or experience romantic success as much as others do. You have to be able to derive your happiness from staying true to yourself.
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Always be yourself, within sensible parameters and whilst adhering to a few basic rules of thumb, as well as ideally aiming to be your best self*

    There is no greater feeling in the world - except perhaps scoring a crisp goal that counts for something - than scoring in spite of being unashamedly yourself
    That is some very good advice, i like your do's and don't xD. i just need to practice these now
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    Being yourself will never get you anywhere
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    It's good to be yourself however, I've learnt that sometime there are times when you need to cut off certain parts of yourself.
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    (Original post by Lionheart96)
    That is some very good advice, i like your do's and don't xD. i just need to practice these now
    Distilled over many years for your consuming pleasure :hat2: The good news is, they tend to come somewhat naturally, with experience

    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Being yourself will never get you anywhere
    That's an unhealthy attitude, particularly coming from someone with your qualities. The most attractive women are those who shine in subtle et. sophisticated celebration of self :girl:

    (Original post by davidmb19)
    It's good to be yourself however, I've learnt that sometime there are times when you need to cut off certain parts of yourself.
    Self-mutilation is never the answer :erm:
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    Obviously you present the best side of yourself, but being at ease and confident is the most attractive thing in my opinion, and that can only come across if you're being true to yourself. If the other person doesn't get you, it's fine, unless you have a naturally horrid personality there are people out there who'll you'll click with and find it easy to be yourself around
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Distilled over many years for your consuming pleasure :hat2: The good news is, they tend to come somewhat naturally, with experience

    That's an unhealthy attitude, particularly coming from someone with your qualities. The most attractive women are those who shine in subtle et. sophisticated celebration of self :girl:

    Self-mutilation is never the answer :erm:
    Why should I settle for being myself when there's always going to be better women out there competing for the same guy. being myself in the past has truly held me back from my 'true potential'. Most men just find me too nice of probably boring and cute.
    I'm tired of being that so it's always best to go along with a different personality
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    Distilled over many years for your consuming pleasure :hat2: The good news is, they tend to come somewhat naturally, with experience

    That's an unhealthy attitude, particularly coming from someone with your qualities. The most attractive women are those who shine in subtle et. sophisticated celebration of self :girl:

    Self-mutilation is never the answer :erm:
    Sometime it is, sometime it isn't.
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Why should I settle for being myself when there's always going to be better women out there competing for the same guy
    With an attitude like that you are almost guaranteed to fail :rolleyes:

    being myself in the past has truly held me back from my 'true potential'. Most men just find me too nice of probably boring and cute
    Most boys* will respond thusly, real men know better, and will know how lucky they are to have you

    We don't want a girl who is a hard *****, we want a woman who is not a doormat,* an important distinction :holmes:
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    With an attitude like that you are almost guaranteed to fail :rolleyes:

    Most boys* will respond thusly, real men know better, and will know how lucky they are to have you

    We don't want a girl who is a hard *****, we want a woman who is not a doormat,* an important distinction :holmes:
    I have failed in the past by being myself so this can only be an improvement.
    Most men like girl who has slept around, are crazy feminists or mouthy or in general just 'out there' every night or wears very revealing stuff.
    They would never settle for a shy christian girl who barely goes out.
    also im still young so I can't impress like many older girls can I guess.
    I don't think I truly believe I have or will ever be enough for anyone,there's always been other people who get in the way and my situation with my ex's are prime examples.people just tell you what you want to hear,not what you need to.
    So moral of the story for me would just be to behave like someone you're not just to appear like you're not a simple girl but a hot diva who's been there and done that
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    (Original post by Lionheart96)
    Whether it's trying to make friends or going on a first date, is being yourself good advice?
    Does anyone have stories when being themselves worked or didn't or pretending to be someone else worked out better for them?

    probably not, no.

    Be the best version of yourself you can be is probably better advice.
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    I have failed in the past by being myself so this can only be an improvement.
    Most men like girl who has slept around, are crazy feminists or mouthy or in general just 'out there' every night or wears very revealingb stuff.
    They would never settle for a shy christian girl who barely goes out.
    I don't think I truly believe I have or will ever be enough for anyone,there's always been other people who get in the way and my situation with my ex's are prime examples.
    So moral of the story for me would just be to behave like someone you're not just to appear like you're not a simple girl but a hot diva who's been there and done that
    Really we don't care about those things.
    As long as you're relatively attractive
    Have a nice personality
    and are generally a nice human being.
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    (Original post by Lionheart96)
    Really we don't care about those things.
    As long as you're relatively attractive
    Have a nice personality
    and are generally a nice human being.
    Trust me most guys do and young girls like myself are usually at a loss because we don't compare with older women who've been there and done that. Experience is key.
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    Unless you're a right ******, then yeah.
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    (Original post by queen-bee)
    Trust me most guys do and young girls like myself are usually at a loss because we don't compare with older women who've been there and done that. Experience is key.
    Sounds like you're chasing after the wrong guys
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    (Original post by Foo.mp3)
    :holmes:
    Do you have any advice on how to be more confident/secure?
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    Everyone has different "selves" - are you the same person to your friends as you are to your grandma?

    Be what feels natural. If the other person doesn't like it then you could either adjust yourself to them (e.g. stop swearing in front of grandma), or let them adjust to you (e.g. someone becoming friends with you).

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    Nah. Fake it til you make it.
 
 
 
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