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starting uni a non-drinker, a virgin and a former hermit with no friends.... watch


    (Original post by Infraspecies)
    I'm not surprised you think you'll be alone and friendless; you seem intent on it.

    If you want not to socialise, or drink and get involved, then yes. You will be a hermit. Please don't try to fob the responsibility for that onto anyone else, though. It's down to you, you could choose to be friendlier.
    I tend to agree with this. If you won't leave your comfort zone, that's nobody elses responsibility to make you. In order for you to experience new things and make new friends, you are going to have to jump in at the deep end, or you will simply be left behind.

    If you lack confidence, start faking your confidence, and eventually it will come naturally.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have:

    Never been on a proper night out ( not for 3 years anyway, when I was 15. I'm now 18)

    Never properly kissed a guy ( only once when I was 15 and it wasn't at all meaningful )

    Never had a boyfriend ( goes without saying from the last statement I've never had sex)

    Very rarely been drunk, and haven't drunk at all for the last 2 years.

    I also have had very few friends for the last few years.

    Needless to say, I already feel as though I'm going to be different from the majority of the students at uni.

    Since I was 13 I've had bad anxiety problems and this has hindered my ability to socialise.

    I don't like the idea of nightclubs, but I'm willing to try it for the sake of freshers week. Although, I've decided I won't be drinking.

    I'm scared as all the people I've encountered on freshers pages (flatmates/ course mates etc) look as though they've already lived fulfilling and active lives. They've all already experienced tons of night outs, drinking, relationships, lots of friends and I've had none of that!

    Due to this reason, I feel we'll be on different wavelengths from the start, I'll make no friends and I'll be a social recluse forever....
    When I started Uni I was in the same situation. It's nothing to be ashamed of. There weren't loads of people who were like me, but I was open and honest and it wasn't a big deal. If anything people were excited for me to try new things. I think it made first year of uni more memorable too, - It was a year of firsts in many ways haha. So don't present it as your weakness. You'll be having the most fun!
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