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    you don't have to be horny 24/7 to have a sexuality

    you're ok op.
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    Depends how often you masturbate too. I would **** pretty much every day/every other day out of boredom and I felt the same way,so I decided to stop for a couple days and I was popping boners frequently throughout the day. Also, make sure that you're eating enough fats. Not eating enough fats can mean you don't produce enough testosterone and so you won't really have much libido. I don't think you're asexual since you enjoy sex when you do have it. Go to your GP and get your testosterone checked too, if yours is below 300 it would explain why you have absolutely no desire to have sex.
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    (Original post by Infraspecies)
    It's not a requirement, no.

    You asked if it was normal. The answer is no, it is not statistically normal.
    I then felt obliged, being in the know, on sharing the information I possess on lack of libido. Do you not want to be aware of all the possible information?

    A lack of libido sometimes has no apparent cause, no underlying physiological or psychological reason. However, that doesn't mean it's always healthy to immediately term oneself "demisexual" or "asexual" and to think nothing more of it, where in fact a lack of libido can, in some cases, be indicative of a more sinister health problem.

    I'm trying to be helpful.
    Since we're talking "statistically", if the OP has no other symptoms, has never had a sex drive (rather then it declining) and is happy with how things are, they are far more likely to be asexual then have any "sinister" condition.

    OP, if you want to visit your GP to put your mind at rest then do so. But if there's nothing wrong - or if you feel happy not to - there is nothing abnormal about you.
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    It's not normal, but it's not bad.
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    (Original post by High Stakes)
    Transsexuals such as yourself are known to suffer from low libido due to hormonal changes.
    I haven't started hrt.
    (Original post by FloatingGhost!)
    That's entirely normal - sexual desire exists on a spectrum, and maybe you're just at the low end?If you're happy with it, cool, no need to do anything.If not, go see a GP, they can help.Also, do you feel attracted to people? If not, check out AVEN
    yes I find people attractive.
    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    you don't have to be horny 24/7 to have a sexualityyou're ok op.
    yeah but I am never aroused enough to want sex. never.
    (Original post by Akamega)
    Depends how often you masturbate too. I would **** pretty much every day/every other day out of boredom and I felt the same way,so I decided to stop for a couple days and I was popping boners frequently throughout the day. Also, make sure that you're eating enough fats. Not eating enough fats can mean you don't produce enough testosterone and so you won't really have much libido. I don't think you're asexual since you enjoy sex when you do have it. Go to your GP and get your testosterone checked too, if yours is below 300 it would explain why you have absolutely no desire to have sex.
    i'm a girl I am sure I can live with low testosterone.
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    (Original post by RowanB)
    Since we're talking "statistically", if the OP has no other symptoms, and is happy with how things are, they are far more likely to be asexual then have any "sinister" condition.
    That's not a sensible approach.

    You're rejecting the potential medical implications in preference for pushing a social agenda.

    Don't get me wrong, I'm in support of people being happy with how they are, so long as they are healthy. I just reject what seems to be en vogue at the moment; waving away it as "asexuality" when there are potential issues.

    Do you disagree that it is better to ensure that you are, foremost, healthy? He describes himself as having no sex drive. Like it or not, that puts him in a decided minority, some of which have medical problems, some of which don't. It's not responsible to assure someone that there's definitely nothing wrong with them, and more, that they should be obstinate towards people suggesting that maybe, before being proud of being "asexual", they make sure they don't have thyroid problems.
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    (Original post by thecatwithnohat)
    you don't have to be horny 24/7 to have a sexuality

    you're ok op.
    This x 100

    Wtf are some of the replies in this thread
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    (Original post by Treeroy)
    I haven't started hrt..
    I have, enjoy, you'll be very tired ;_;
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    (Original post by Little Popcorns)
    Why what happened?
    Don't really know

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    (Original post by Treeroy)
    i'm a girl I am sure I can live with low testosterone.
    Oh my bad.
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    Live life the way you want to, don't worry too much about whether it's normal or not.
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    From what I've heard from friends in the past, being trans* can affect your libido, whatever stage you're at, whether pre-hormones, pre- or post-op.

    Gennder and sexuality are different things. But if you're not comfortable with it all, or there's stuff going on (such as in your case - not currently having the right "gear"), it can affect how you feel about sex.

    Someone I used to talk to online was a non-binary, and I remember them saying there would be times when in a relationship with a partner they wouldn't feel comfortable having sex because of how they were feeling about their genitals at the time. Let's face it, if you've got a penis but you're female, there's likely to be boundaries both on your part and on the other person's part surrounding intimacy.
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    I'm confused. How can someone find people attractive and not have sexual desire? I was under the impression that they're intrinsically linked?
    I'm geniunely curious...
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    (Original post by Handsome_Devil)
    I'm confused. How can someone find people attractive and not have sexual desire? I was under the impression that they're intrinsically linked?
    I'm geniunely curious...
    Ever thought a car was hot? Did you want to make out with it literally?
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    (Original post by Danno190)
    Ever thought a car was hot? Did you want to make out with it literally?
    That's stupid. Why would I be physically attracted to a car? I think a car looks awesome, I then want to ride it. Can anyone else do better pwease?
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    (Original post by Treeroy)
    I have sexual fantasies, I masturbate, I enjoy sex when I have it. But I don't have any particular desire to actually have sex.

    I've never thought of myself as asexual but I really couldn't care less whether I have sex or not. Like I prefer to watch netflix than have sex. I can go months, years without sex, I don't notice, don't care. I have no sex drive whatsoever!

    is this normal?
    No it isn't normal.

    Stop masturbating, it decreases your testosterone level.
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    (Original post by Handsome_Devil)
    I'm confused. How can someone find people attractive and not have sexual desire? I was under the impression that they're intrinsically linked?
    I'm geniunely curious...
    Well I can only say that I can find people aesthetically pleasing, develop "crushes" etc and have no desire whatsoever to have sex with them. Holds hands and cuddle, maybe.
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    eating fish oil helps. And multivitamins. Sometimes you just have a crappy diet.
 
 
 
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