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    It's pathetic, making fun of your friends because that is the only form of entertainment you have, people who do it deserve a cracked jaw
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is he insulting you or just being sarcastic? There's a difference. Give me an example.
    He's done both. IE:

    Friend one: (to me) Isn't it you who lives in Plymouth?
    Me: Yes
    Him: Someone has to

    Him: We all sit around the campfire and play. Even if they're just as rubbish as you
    Me: um, thanks

    With the latter, he had to explain that a) he meant "you" in general terms and he thought he knew well enough that he could get away with something like that.

    With the former, he was just being sarcastic.
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    Teasing and joking is an integral part of how humans interact and show affection towards one another. The willingness to tease and make fun shows a level of comfort with each other that separates friends from acquaintances.
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    Big difference between friendly banter and just being a d*ck to them.
    Should really know how they will take it first though, or at least have it expected to an extent... and to be a bit like a mutual agreement.
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    I know what you mean. Ik someone who called his mum a ******** and was like its just banter:hugs::hugs:

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    (Original post by zKlown)
    What do you think you should do OP?
    I could either dish out but with vengeance or bring them up on it.

    I think I will dish it out and get them to try and fight me so they understand what it feels like. This means I have to be vindictive in my approach. Everything my friends do is open to ridicule lol. If they get fired, I'm on it straight away. Spill drink on their shirt, on ittttttt.

    It means you need to ignore everything they say and concentrate on the obliteration of their life. Make them feel so upset that they want to fight you. That's my aim.
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    right, nobody joke with OP. I think it might send him over the edge!

    why don't you just give as much as you get OP.

    the way you're going, nobody will want to speak with you or even be with you. Seriously!

    It sounds like you're the one with the insecurities here!
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    Teasing and joking is an integral part of how humans interact and show affection towards one another. The willingness to tease and make fun shows a level of comfort with each other that separates friends from acquaintances.
    Yeah ok but say it once or twice. Not at every occasion. Imagine this. Everytime your with your friends the same topic is brought up. That's annoy as faq.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I could either dish out but with vengeance or bring them up on it.

    I think I will dish it out and get them to try and fight me so they understand what it feels like. This means I have to be vindictive in my approach. Everything my friends do is open to ridicule lol. If they get fired, I'm on it straight away. Spill drink on their shirt, on ittttttt.

    It means you need to ignore everything they say and concentrate on the obliteration of their life. Make them feel so upset that they want to fight you. That's my aim.
    I think you seriously lack social skills
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    (Original post by pbw)
    right, nobody joke with OP. I think it might send him over the edge!

    why don't you just give as much as you get OP.

    the way you're going, nobody will want to speak with you or even be with you. Seriously!

    It sounds like you're the one with the insecurities here!
    Na mate. I'm secure. I don't like it when someone is trying to offend me. The act of trying to offend me is the main problem. By trying to offend me, it shows that you don't respect me and you think it's okay to try to hurt my feelings.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah ok but say it once or twice. Not at every occasion. Imagine this. Everytime your with your friends the same topic is brought up. That's annoy as faq.
    That's why its funny. Its called a "running joke". The sheer repetition is what makes it funny.

    Are you really this under-socialised?
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    (Original post by maggie43)
    I know what you mean. Ik someone who called his mum a ******** and was like its just banter:hugs::hugs:

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    lol, got to wonder who the ******** is really
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    (Original post by pbw)
    I think you seriously lack social skills
    I lack insulting skills. I care too much about my friends. That's the problem. I don't see their plights as potential laughing points. What a ****** I am...
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Na mate. I'm secure. I don't like it when someone is trying to offend me. The act of trying to offend me is the main problem. By trying to offend me, it shows that you don't respect me and you think it's okay to try to hurt my feelings.
    do your "friends" even realise they are upsetting you? I think first thing you need to do is tell them that piss take out of you is not on! take it from there
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    That's why its funny. Its called a "running joke". The sheer repetition is what makes it funny.

    Are you really this under-socialised?
    It's like a never ending cycle of insults. The only way it ends is if I punch you because clearly you don't respect me. You see me as nothing but a joke.

    Naaaa mate. It's annoying. Simple as. Everytime you see your friends you have to be insulted lol. That's really fun.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I lack insulting skills. I care too much about my friends. That's the problem. I don't see their plights as potential laughing points. What a ****** I am...
    it's all about tit for tat. a taste of their own medicine if you will. either that or tell them it bothers you.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    It's like a never ending cycle of insults. The only way it ends is if I punch you because clearly you don't respect me. You see me as nothing but a joke.

    Naaaa mate. It's annoying. Simple as. Everytime you see your friends you have to be insulted lol. That's really fun.
    would you say you're being bullied by your friends?
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    (Original post by pbw)
    do your "friends" even realise they are upsetting you? I think first thing you need to do is tell them that piss take out of you is not on! take it from there
    Doesn't work. I think they are stupid or they don't respect me.

    I think I know what to do. I have to go overboard with it. I have to be the king of insulting. Once I'm there I can put pressure on them not to be offended and see what happens. Then once they acknowledge what they do, I'll stop.
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    (Original post by cole-slaw)
    That's why its funny. Its called a "running joke". The sheer repetition is what makes it funny.

    Are you really this under-socialised?
    the running-joke here is that OP can't handle banter.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Doesn't work. I think they are stupid or they don't respect me.

    I think I know what to do. I have to go overboard with it. I have to be the king of insulting. Once I'm there I can put pressure on them not to be offended and see what happens. Then once they acknowledge what they do, I'll stop.
    that's right, be that king of insults and don't stop until you see them posting a thread on here that their friend keeps taking the piss out of them.
 
 
 
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