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    Don't do it if either of you is interested in more than friendship. It is unlikely he will leave his wife for you and if you get attached, you'll simply come away with a broken heart and potentially damage that 9 year old's childhood
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    (Original post by chocolate hottie)
    What has this got to do with God?
    They met through an atheist blog.
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    (Original post by chocolate hottie)
    Why is talking to him wrong? And if he leaves a loveless marriage for the OP (assuming he does, obviously that may not happen) would THAT be wrong?

    Are we supposed to be unhappy all our lives because we make a mistake and marry the wrong person? Is it better for children to grow up in an environment of anger and bitterness and hatred?

    It is all very well being unpleasantly judgemental, moralistic and holier than thou but the world isn't like that, it is messy. And we none of us know the exact circumstances of this situation.

    I would advise the OP to follow her heart, but to exercise great care. I don't know enough about the situation to regard it in such black and white, right and wrong terms.

    Life isn't black and white it is grey.
    I'm not saying this man should be unhappy forever I'm saying if he's clearly unhappy he needs to end his marriage before he moves on to other options BEcAuSE if he does not do so he will cause a lot more damage, upset and a 'MESSy' world because he won't have only fallen out of love with his wife (which is hard enough to accept) but he will have also betrayed her. I think she should take a step back and let him sort his **** out before she starts the relationship. No life isn't black and white but there's ways of going about things to minimise the hurt caused and she really is in the wrong if she chooses to opt for the selfish route


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    Carry on and you'll only be reserving a nice warm seat right by the fire in hell.
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    (Original post by Mr Flak Jacket)
    Carry on and you'll only be reserving a nice warm seat right by the fire in hell.
    Love it hahahaha


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    Don't see whats wrong with talking to him and just being friends, long as you don't actually be more than that, I don't see where the issue is.
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    (Original post by Rock Fan)
    Don't see whats wrong with talking to him and just being friends, long as you don't actually be more than that, I don't see where the issue is.
    They're not just friends though that's the problem


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    Don't be a homewrecker
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    (Original post by halliethestudent)
    They're not just friends though that's the problem
    In her original post she says they are only friends and they have not yet met.
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    Honest? if it's a loveless marriage, he needs to grow some balls and end it, or talk to his wife.. the mother of his 9 year old son and the innocent person. If you ever take advantage of the fact he tells you he's in a loveless marriage, you should be ashamed. But I think you're reading too much into it.
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    (Original post by Simes)
    In her original post she says they are only friends and they have not yet met.
    But they're clearly not friends or from her perspective anyway she does not perceive him as a friend because she's hoping to break up his marriage


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    (Original post by Alittlelostsheep)
    I am speaking online to a married man. It started off through a comment on his blog(he is an atheist blogger) and I was curious to explore. I now text him and we exchange texts everyday. He is married with a kid and 9 years older than me. I am 22. There is an event going on next month and we have both agreed we might be attending. So far its all innocent but I feel comfort speaking to him. He has a good job, has similar views to me(his wife doesnt) and we share a common ground. My instincts are saying no but what if he divorced as he is currently having issuesin his marriage. I obviously do not want to break them up but if we could talk until she is out of the picture or not? Help?
    See bold and italics for your contradiction.

    People thinking like this is what's wrong in the world.
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    Bonkers. You're 22. Find someone single without a kid.
 
 
 
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