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Think I saw/found a porn video with my partner on it...serious thread..advice needed. watch

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    (Original post by littlenorthernlass)
    The profile might not be your partner herself but it could be a former boyfriend or FWB of hers so chances are they made more than one video together.
    Get investigating, Sherlock!
    Might be the case yes, its possible.

    She's had a few ONS and flings throughout Uni. She slept with a fair few- which of course is her business, but if she's putting it online then it kind of makes me feel this relationship is less valuable. Why would someone such as her do this?

    I feel kind of disappointed to be quite frank. We're engaged, and have been going out for nearly two years/very close, and to see a vid of some other guy having his filthy way is very sickening. Regardless, of if it was before 'us'.

    Yes I understand, the uploader could more likely be the guy/fwb. I doubt it is her, and if indeed it was, I'd be shocked!

    Do you think the video was unknowingly put up? I can't imagine anyone been ****** in that position and being unaware of the filming happening.


    I mean, why would you make a video with someone showing such intimacy knowing full well that it could come to light in the future.

    Come to think of it , I do recall a time where she asked me once: "Have you ever thought about making a video/would you ever?"

    So who knows...
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    (Original post by Wilfred Little)
    Is it amateur or professional stuff? If it's the latter search the company and look for more stuff.
    Amateur...likely filmed on a high spec mobile or camera.
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    (Original post by Josb)
    You should peruse her cupboards next time you see her.
    Hilarious sir.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Amateur...likely filmed on a high spec mobile or camera.
    Leave a comment on the video/message uploader.

    Something similar has happened to me btw, I wasn't with her at the time though.
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    (Original post by Wilfred Little)
    Leave a comment on the video/message uploader.

    Something similar has happened to me btw, I wasn't with her at the time though.
    Was the girl in question your girlfriend/partner?

    If so, how did you eventually find out?

    I may leave a message yes. What would the immediate goal be?
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    Ask if it was her and dump her if so. No way would I want to be with someone who has featured in porn.
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    I'll respond to this by somehow assuming that the thread is serious.

    Assuming that it is her (sounds likely as you describe it), it is extremely likely that she was willingly recorded but it is extremely unlikely that she allowed her ex to upload the video to the internet.

    If you have been together for 2 years (I take as granted that you are not ashamed of watching porn and neither is your fiancee the porn star ) - just address the issue in a calm way like you were concerned not about her being a ***** but about a video of her that is seemingly online against her will. Then you'll probably either get a confirmation that it's her but that she is extremely ashamed and angry the fact that the video that hasn't been deleted or she'll laugh about how you thought it was her . Either way - you should find out the truth from her reaction.
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    Fitting.
    https://i.imgur.com/5ChWA.jpg
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    (Original post by i<3milkshake)
    Ask if it was her and dump her if so. No way would I want to be with someone who has featured in porn.
    I feel similarly. I think if it was her, it would change my outlook on her. You can't really burn that image from your retinas or mind (serious). Once I'd seen the video of that guy dominating and 'owning' her, I kinda just felt a deep sadness in my heart.

    Also, the guy ejaculated inside of her, and as much as I probably know I'm not her first to do so- it hurt to actually see it happening on screen.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Was the girl in question your girlfriend/partner?

    If so, how did you eventually find out?

    I may leave a message yes. What would the immediate goal be?
    I had been with her but it was over by then and these were filmed after. She has done loads of videos for this company. Believe it or not I wasn't arsed

    Dunno, just ask for her name on the comments or something.
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    (Original post by doomy)
    I'll respond to this by somehow assuming that the thread is serious.

    Assuming that it is her (sounds likely as you describe it), it is extremely likely that she was willingly recorded but it is extremely unlikely that she allowed her ex to upload the video to the internet.

    If you have been together for 2 years (I take as granted that you are not ashamed of watching porn and neither is your fiancee the porn star ) - just address the issue in a calm way like you were concerned not about her being a ***** but about a video of her that is seemingly online against her will. Then you'll probably either get a confirmation that it's her but that she is extremely ashamed and angry the fact that the video that hasn't been deleted or she'll laugh about how you thought it was her . Either way - you should find out the truth from her reaction.
    Thanks for your response, this actually made me feel a hell of a lot better!

    I feel kind of sick and have a deep sense of sadness. As I've said to other posters, seeing that bloke dominate and have his filthy self serving way with her, and her letting him ejaculate inside of her 'willingly' and seemingly care free has changed my view (if indeed it was her).

    I know i'm supposed to be an adult, and part of that is accepting that this happens. But as a man, I can't help but feel inferior of vulnerable because he basically blew his **** in my partner (potentially) and this is only something I felt/feel should/was reserved for me. Or ought to be.

    You understand my reasoning
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel similarly. I think if it was her, it would change my outlook on her. You can't really burn that image from your retinas or mind (serious). Once I'd seen the video of that guy dominating and 'owning' her, I kinda just felt a deep sadness in my heart.

    Also, the guy ejaculated inside of her, and as much as I probably know I'm not her first to do so- it hurt to actually see it happening on screen.
    Do you really want to be with a girl like that? I certainly would not. Nothing wrong with dumping her. This is something you won't forget, so you have two choices;
    Accept it and move on (which is difficult and in my view silly-you can find so much better) OR
    be sensible, realise it will always be an issue and dump her.

    This is not your fault, don't feel bad. She is the one who likes to engage in despicable, sordid behaviour. So what if it was before you or not? You can do so much better. All those people saying that are hypocrites-I bet they wouldn't want to be with someone who had done the same.

    If you don't dump her and later you feel bad, you have only yourself to blame. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me idea really.
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    (Original post by Wilfred Little)
    I had been with her but it was over by then and these were filmed after. She has done loads of videos for this company. Believe it or not I wasn't arsed

    Dunno, just ask for her name on the comments or something.
    Perhaps given the dynamics of your relationship and she did it afterwards, its sorto f one for the '**** bank' so to speak?

    Would you likely feel the same way if it was filming prior to your relationship?

    I may try the name thing...
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    (Original post by Ahmed766)
    1)If you're in a relationship then why were you watching porn?
    2)If you really want to know then invite her over, play the video with her and see her reaction.
    Errm, people in relationships still watch porn..
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    Talk to her and sort it out
    just ask her if that is her and if it isn't then no biggie but if it is
    just talk to her and see y she did it and sort everything out
    the most important thing in a relationship is trust and honesty
    i'm sure she will tell u what happened if that person ur saying was her
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I know i'm supposed to be an adult, and part of that is accepting that this happens. But as a man, I can't help but feel inferior of vulnerable because he basically blew his **** in my partner (potentially) and this is only something I felt/feel should/was reserved for me. Or ought to be.

    You understand my reasoning
    Bull. You don't have to accept this. No potential future mother of my children will be doing the stuff you have described.
    In my own view, feel free to agree or disagree, man up and dump her. Don't be such a doormat and stay with her. She has probably done more videos like this-you are going to feel bad once you see them to. I hope she isn't famous and other people have seen them (friends, family etc).

    If you dump her you move on, find another girl, no problem at all. Staying with her-so much could go wrong. Just my view but you are doing yourself no favours by staying with her.
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    (Original post by i<3milkshake)
    Do you really want to be with a girl like that? I certainly would not. Nothing wrong with dumping her. This is something you won't forget, so you have two choices;
    Accept it and move on (which is difficult and in my view silly-you can find so much better) OR
    be sensible, realise it will always be an issue and dump her.

    This is not your fault, don't feel bad. She is the one who likes to engage in despicable, sordid behaviour. So what if it was before you or not? You can do so much better. All those people saying that are hypocrites-I bet they wouldn't want to be with someone who had done the same.

    If you don't dump her and later you feel bad, you have only yourself to blame. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me idea really.
    I;m agreeing with all that you've said. However, I still have that 'niggle' that it isn't her still? Maybe because I still need definitive proof.
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    (Original post by Plantagenet Crown)
    Errm, people in relationships still watch porn..
    Yee apparently everyone watches it now.
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    (Original post by i<3milkshake)
    Bull. You don't have to accept this. No potential future mother of my children will be doing the stuff you have described.
    In my own view, feel free to agree or disagree, man up and dump her. Don't be such a doormat and stay with her. She has probably done more videos like this-you are going to feel bad once you see them to. I hope she isn't famous and other people have seen them (friends, family etc).

    If you dump her you move on, find another girl, no problem at all. Staying with her-so much could go wrong. Just my view but you are doing yourself no favours by staying with her.
    I'm going to have a more thorough search tonight to see if it was her, and if she's made more videos.

    Ultimately, if it was her, I think I'd have to consider the relationship. I hope she isn't famous either, because that'd just make me a laughing stock. Not only have I seen her most sacred parts, but all and sundry have too!
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    Suggest that you watch porn together, as playful couple thing and just happen to find that one. See how she reacts.
 
 
 
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