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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you have ginger hair and are you called Jamie? :lol:

    Yeah. I mean, I can be pretty logical etc. too (rich parents.. weird upbringing ) and am definitely not conformist, but he doesn't just seem non conformist but actually rude or at least emotionally unavailable too. But he's an introvert and I'm an extrovert so maybe that's not helping.

    How "available" would you be to someone you were in a relationship with? I want a lot of affection but he seems to express liking people by doing a ton of stuff for people (like tidying my room for me when I didn't ask him to). TBH I can do that myself
    Well I have dark brown hair.. but my name's James. Is he planning to/is currently doing mathematics at uni? XD.

    You see, a good sign that I, and maybe also him, have a problem is I'm not too sure what we mean by being emotionally "available". My problems previously were just not being very empathetic. In fact, fairly often they'd talk to me about various problems and issues, and I just didn't understand at all - to me, the problems were trivial; they either didn't matter or were easily solved. Why complain/talk to me about things like that? Which clearly led to feeling unsupported, etc. I understand that much.

    I'm quite a tactile person. I like showing affection with touch and hugs and kisses. "Emotional closeness", I may be less good at. It's not easy to get into my world - I'm very introverted and don't have much to say unless asked something. Probably makes bonding over feelings difficult!
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    (Original post by Tom Jickleson)
    Nah I don't think it will. Is it possible he has assburgers or something?
    I don't think so - I do have friends with MH problems and they don't seem like that, although obviously the signs vary. He seems a bit self centred/"weird" upbringing like my own I think.
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    (Original post by Tom Jickleson)
    Nah I don't think it will. Is it possible he has assburgers or something?
    It's aspergers , also having aspergers or any other conditions does not give you a pass on being rude.
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    In general, it doesn't sound like you're attracted to the guy. That's ok you don't have to convince or justify yourself either way.

    Also, never ever get involved with someone if you genuinely believe they have less emotional intelligence than you. I can confidently tell you from experience that it won't be a good relationship and the break up will be reflective of them having that coldness to them. Seriously. Avoid.
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    (Original post by Mancini)
    It's aspergers , also having aspergers or any other conditions does not give you a pass on being rude.
    Is self deprecation a bad thing?
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    Well I have dark brown hair.. but my name's James. Is he planning to/is currently doing mathematics at uni? XD.

    You see, a good sign that I, and maybe also him, have a problem is I'm not too sure what we mean by being emotionally "available". My problems previously were just not being very empathetic. In fact, fairly often they'd talk to me about various problems and issues, and I just didn't understand at all - to me, the problems were trivial; they either didn't matter or were easily solved. Why complain/talk to me about things like that? Which clearly led to feeling unsupported, etc. I understand that much.

    I'm quite a tactile person. I like showing affection with touch and hugs and kisses. "Emotional closeness", I may be less good at. It's not easy to get into my world - I'm very introverted and don't have much to say unless asked something. Probably makes bonding over feelings difficult!
    No, he's thinking of Classics or Medicine. Phew :rofl:

    I don't think you necessarily sound like you have a problem, not being the most "feeling" girl I sometimes aren't sure what to say myself when someone unloads their problems. I try to empathise now but before I had difficulty with that in the past. However (though he is stressed due to being a Type A introvert who's always busy with hobbies or studying) he seems to not just not respond but sometimes moan about it all the time on Facebook etc. though. A bit two faced I think, esp. as he does actually help people sometimes so encourages them.

    I'm not even sure if he's tactile or not That would be good though. I'm not great with sweet talk either so wouldn't expect too much of that from him.
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    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    In general, it doesn't sound like you're attracted to the guy. That's ok you don't have to convince or justify yourself either way.

    Also, never ever get involved with someone if you genuinely believe they have less emotional intelligence than you. I can confidently tell you from experience that it won't be a good relationship and the break up will be reflective of them having that coldness to them. Seriously. Avoid.
    Great post thank you

    I don't know.. I used to be really bad at socialising TBH, then broke away in school and now I have pretty decent emotional intelligence and am quite empathetic, so I feel like that would be holding guys to a pretty high standard.

    But if that's who I am I can't change myself either :yep:
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    (Original post by gr8wizard10)
    tell him ur not interested. is a long ting, dont waste mans time. dem ones der
    Didn't you claim to have a graduate role lined up before you even completed your first year of university?

    #lol
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    sexy avatar :perv: u got instagram? xoxo
    Not right now. But I could have it if you like?
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    Didn't you claim to have a graduate role lined up before you even completed your first year of university?

    #lol
    #IB crew banter
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Great post thank you

    I don't know.. I used to be really bad at socialising TBH, then broke away in school and now I have pretty decent emotional intelligence and am quite empathetic, so I feel like that would be holding guys to a pretty high standard.

    But if that's who I am I can't change myself either :yep:
    being single is so so so much better than the tedium of being with someone with less emotional intelligence than you. Time spent trying to get through to a closed person is time better spent doing something for you. Seriously
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    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    being single is so so so much better than the tedium of being with someone with less emotional intelligence than you. Time spent trying to get through to a closed person is time better spent doing something for you. Seriously
    True that

    I have been thinking about it all afternoon and decided I'll turn him down if he does ask (going in that direction), wouldn't work for me
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    #IB crew banter
    #Truth
 
 
 
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