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    (Original post by Major Ocelot)
    I think your post misses the point. Topic creator (and I) aren't concerned about academic potential, just the social. Getting a first is nice, making lots of money too. It's still a miserable time though if you are lonely, with very few friends and no romances.
    Damn you just gotta focus, kid. How was it before Uni? Was it not the same, socially speaking? University isn't Neverland. You are still the same person when you go. Your expectations should be realistic. If you struggled to fit in before Uni because of something you cannt help, you...most likely will struggle at Uni as well. There are non-autists who struggle with the same reality.
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    (Original post by Pariah)
    what on earth made you think that?

    to me the moral of the story is more like 'don't have unrealistic expectations and make sure that you take advantage of all the support available to you'
    Omfg yes! I just said this ^^

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    (Original post by Major Ocelot)
    What do you mean by intelligence, is that a single defining characterisitic? Autism might mean someone is socially unintelligent, even if they are good at other things.
    Point I am making people seem to think Autistic people have no intelligence when that is not the case at all.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yes i am. It seems im allergic to people. I thought my flatmates where my friends but nah, it was fake. THEY ****ING AVOID ME IN THE KITCHEN FOR CHRIST SAKE.

    No one talks to me in my course. I've had it :cry:
    You haven't had it just because a few stupid people don't talk to you.
    They sound the autistic ones.

    Is there an autistic or similar group you could join? Meet some people having the same problems as you?
    Cos there are bound to be people out there feeling exactly the same.
    Get together with them and have a moan - always makes me feel better.
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    do you know for a fact you have autism and not just really bad social anxiety
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    As someone that has only recently been diagnosed with autism I don't agree with it being a negative. I spent my whole life not knowing why i feel so out of place, and always lonely. When I'm with people I feel even lonelier, yet I want to spend time with people as I'm lonely. The issue is most of what I dealt with in the past was not clear to me.

    I failed school, performed badly on GCSE's. Spent the past 10 years working in retail. Eventually I just hit the wall by trying to be like everyone else, endless research on why people do what they do. I quit my job and pretty much destroyed my life losing everything.

    Then with help I was diagnosed with high functioning autism, and I feel at peace with myself. I resat my GCSE maths and got an A, and last year I sat my AS levels for the first time aged 29. Managed to get A's in both maths and physics. Accepting who i am has given me such power, and I have no problem saying to people i meet that I am autistic.

    If people don't accept you for who you are what does it matter? The reality is no one in the world actually matters but yourself. The way i see it, people don't understand me, and i don't understand them either so Im not so fussed hehe.
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    As someone with autism myself, I feel its been an amazing experience. As for you saying its an awful disorder, I think its what makes us brilliant in our own different ways.

    Dont let people get to you though, as much as uni is about the social experience, you are there to learn and achieve on your own level.
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    (Original post by samina_ay)
    Sorry to hear about your situation, you should ideally let your tutors know about your autism. Just because you have this disorder, you shouldn't feel isolated, or any different from other people. You are capable of anything if you put your mind to it . Please tell someone about it - you will get a lot of support and help!!
    No, i will never ever tell people i'm autistic. Not after the way people use autism as an insult.
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    (Original post by Greg Jackson)
    do you know for a fact you have autism and not just really bad social anxiety
    Yes i know i have autism. Social anxiety is also part of an autistic spectrum but more severe than normal social anxiety.
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    (Original post by King Mal)
    Damn you just gotta focus, kid. How was it before Uni? Was it not the same, socially speaking? University isn't Neverland. You are still the same person when you go. Your expectations should be realistic. If you struggled to fit in before Uni because of something you cannt help, you...most likely will struggle at Uni as well. There are non-autists who struggle with the same reality.
    It was worse. I had nobody before i went to uni. When i started uni two months, i thought i was making progress. I did freshers week, went to clubs with people and got drunk.

    Now nobody talks to me, my flatmates seem to avoid me in the kitchen. No one talks to me in my course despite i know i tried. It's pointless. It's a shame that i'm looking for a studio flat next year just like what many autistic people do.
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    (Original post by Tony_LeaS)
    As someone with autism myself, I feel its been an amazing experience. As for you saying its an awful disorder, I think its what makes us brilliant in our own different ways.

    Dont let people get to you though, as much as uni is about the social experience, you are there to learn and achieve on your own level.
    Some people accept their autism, some people can't. The way this disorder has ruined me and my family is what made me leave my family to go to a far away uni.
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    Work will be even worse.
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    (Original post by llys)
    Work will be even worse.
    Work WAS worse for me. I did jobs such as sales and street fundraising. One Manager shouted at me and sacked me on the street.

    I even worked as a camp leader, the manager said i had an 'inward leadership'

    I just want to live as a recluse now.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Work WAS worse for me. I did jobs such as sales and street fundraising. One Manager shouted at me and sacked me on the street.

    I even worked as a camp leader, the manager said i had an 'inward leadership'

    I just want to live as a recluse now.
    University is the best way to do that. It's the one place where you can easily get away with not talking to anyone for days or weeks. You should stay at university as long as possible.
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    (Original post by llys)
    University is the best way to do that. It's the one place where you can easily get away with not talking to anyone for days or weeks. You should stay at university as long as possible.
    Then this means it's time for me to leave my halls and look for flat for a living in January.

    Hard part is convincing my parents that my leavings isn't do to me 'not socialising'
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Then this means it's time for me to leave my halls and look for flat for a living in January.

    Hard part is convincing my parents that my leavings isn't do to me 'not socialising'
    Yes, this will be best for you. Tell your parents that your flatmates party all night and do drugs and that this prevents you from studying.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Some people accept their autism, some people can't. The way this disorder has ruined me and my family is what made me leave my family to go to a far away uni.
    Is that you saying that you cant cope or you just not trying to change?
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    (Original post by Tony_LeaS)
    Is that you saying that you cant cope or you just not trying to change?
    I can not cope with the disorder.

    I'm lucky that people don't think autistic or believe that i'm autistic (if i tell someone) but people know i'm a shy, introverted and possibly a loner
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    (Original post by Major Ocelot)
    I am an aspie/autist too. Surely University is worth it for the learning, but I am finding the social aspect a little difficult and depressing. Fortunately I commute on the train so I don't have flatmates who I may/may not connect with. It often feels lonelier to be surrounded by people I fail to connect with, than to be alone.

    I do TRY to be friendly and interact with people, but they often seem unfriendly and uninterested. I have perhaps two reasonable friends who I talk to when I see them. It is however hard to see them in a lecture of 200+ people, so I often sit alone or with unfriendly strangers. I don't tell people about my autism either, I feel they won't understand.

    I do hate the autism, it feels like a curse impeding my chances at social success. However, your family should not blame you for having it. They are in the wrong there.
    :cry2::cry2::cry2:

    I'm just in tears reading this. I don't know why this disorder exist. I would rather have ADHD, Dyslexia or even schizophrenia than have this horrific disorder
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    (Original post by dancing sloth)
    You haven't had it just because a few stupid people don't talk to you.
    They sound the autistic ones.

    Is there an autistic or similar group you could join? Meet some people having the same problems as you?
    Cos there are bound to be people out there feeling exactly the same.
    Get together with them and have a moan - always makes me feel better.
    Yes there is and no i will not join them. I don't want people to know im autistic.

    There's nothing i can do. Let me not have a panic attack dwelling on this matter.
 
 
 
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