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    (Original post by Retired_Messiah)
    I wouldn't be fussed 'cause idgaf about valentines. However it appears you two are one of those couples that actually think it matters (???) sooo... hm.

    It's only your first one and blokes are notoriously a bit crap at this stuff...he tried. Give him some credit
    he didnt though. he just grabbed it for me when he told me he was working all day today to try and make me feel better baring in mind he didnt tell me he was working until yesterday.
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    hmm, christmas i got no card (again) and a bakery book which was cute i guess because i like to bake, but my birthday i got no card (which actually upset me this time because i keep cards for years) and a massive minnie mouse teddy which has nothing to do with anything but he called it cute...for a 19 year old its a little lame..

    i feel like i put in miles more effort than him when it comes to gives and treating each other..
    waitwaitwait this post ninja'd me. That's multiple gift balls-ups, you need to drop hints next time sheesh...
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    (Original post by Retired_Messiah)
    waitwaitwait this post ninja'd me. That's multiple gift balls-ups, you need to drop hints next time sheesh...
    drop hints to him? i ****ing send him links to things and write lists in front of him!
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    drop hints to him? i ****ing send him links to things and write lists in front of him!
    lmao **** throw him out a window and make it look like an accident I'm out
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    (Original post by Retired_Messiah)
    lmao **** throw him out a window and make it look like an accident I'm out
    hahaha!!!
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    Well if you are not happy with this then end it?
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    There could be a whole manner of reasons why he didn't get you a card a 'more' presents. For example, I am a person who hates cards (Valentines, birthday, Christmas), so I wouldn't get my girlfriend one (or want one in return). As for the presents, it can be very difficult for a guy to get a 'good' present for his girlfriend (especially for Valentines), and IMO what he got you does seem like he put some thought into it.
    If I were you, I'd be happy with it, or in any case not unhappy about it.
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    He didn't put a lot of effort in.

    Probably not the worst thing in the world though.
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    Sometimes, it's not about the gift, but maybe you are feeling that the gift is signifying that he didn't put a lot of thought into things, and he should 'know' you like cards..Maybe just let him know your feelings.
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    (Original post by l1lvink)
    There could be a whole manner of reasons why he didn't get you a card a 'more' presents. For example, I am a person who hates cards (Valentines, birthday, Christmas), so I wouldn't get my girlfriend one (or want one in return). As for the presents, it can be very difficult for a guy to get a 'good' present for his girlfriend (especially for Valentines), and IMO what he got you does seem like he put some thought into it.
    If I were you, I'd be happy with it, or in any case not unhappy about it.
    the thing is, i only wanted a card. i love cards and i collect them and hes missed our first christmas, my birthday and now v day cards. I would rather have just a v day related card than a present and ive told him this several times so the fact hes done the complete opposite has annoyed me.
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    (Original post by *Deidre*)
    Sometimes, it's not about the gift, but maybe you are feeling that the gift is signifying that he didn't put a lot of thought into things, and he should 'know' you like cards..Maybe just let him know your feelings.
    i told him i only wanted a card and he did the opposite!
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    (Original post by PAStudent1996)
    He didn't put a lot of effort in.

    Probably not the worst thing in the world though.
    its just a bit diheartening that hes ballsed up christmas, my bday and vday now.
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    i told him i only wanted a card and he did the opposite!
    lol Oh...well, hmmm...maybe he thought you were just saying that, and so he tried to over think it. That happens sometimes.
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    thats not my problem?
    LOL. Calm down. The user was right in that you got a gift. No need to for the other comment lol.
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    (Original post by SubZero~)
    LOL. Calm down. The user was right in that you got a gift. No need to for the other comment lol.
    no, i literally mean the fact theyre single has nothing to do with me so its not my problem?
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    no, i literally mean the fact theyre single has nothing to do with me so its not my problem?
    Lol okay.
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    I wouldn't be bothered. I would be more upset if he didn't get me something on a day that is actually special to us, such as an anniversary. Valentine's day is generic. The main thing is he did get you something, he just forgot a card. I would be looking forward to a soppy card too but as long as he's loving to you every day of the year, cut him some slack and just forget about the card and lack of Valentine themed gifts.

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    Mine got me a chocolate orange. He then ate 3/4 of my chocolate orange. 😂
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    hmm, christmas i got no card (again) and a bakery book which was cute i guess because i like to bake, but my birthday i got no card (which actually upset me this time because i keep cards for years) and a massive minnie mouse teddy which has nothing to do with anything but he called it cute...for a 19 year old its a little lame..

    i feel like i put in miles more effort than him when it comes to gives and treating each other..
    Hmm maybe he just doesn't put much emphasis on material things. But it seems like you're on a different level then he is though. If you want more effort let it be known. Because honestly when someone puts effort into things especially so early in the relationship I think it's a reflection on how they feel about the relationship. You like a girl, you go out of your way to make her feel special, not half ass.
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    (Original post by Justmoll28)
    Ive been with my boyfriend a year and this is our first valentines, I got my boyfriend a moonpig card and a book that i personalised all about him from https://thebookofeveryone.com/uk and i got him some lindt chocolates

    he got me a little notebook set: http://www.whsmith.co.uk/products/mi.../9781849942911 which i do appeciate as i study something art based and i love the colouring books by the same brand.

    however i didnt get a card and i didnt get anything valentines related. I know you dont give to receive but i cant help but feel a little sad that he only grabbed me a last minute gift for the sake of having something to give to me.

    am i being selfish? how would you feel if you was in my position?
    I had this a few years ago. Boyfriend got me a 'thank you' card and pretended it was on purpose and it was an appropriate card. It had a ****ing bunny rabbit on the front and loads of flowers like something you would give your grandma.

    He also didn't get me anything.

    I am not materialistic and I don't want a diamond ring or anything but it's just you want a gesture and a bit of effort. Valentine's for the most part is commercialised bullsh*t but it's still a day where couples celebrate the fact they are a couple which is kind of special.

    As for me, i had spent the weeks between xmas and V day buying him loads of cute trinkets and was generally excited. I just felt really deflated when he couldn't even bother to get me a proper card let alone a present. I also travelled 3 hours after work and back to see him that night (it was a midweek V day and we were both working full time) and he made me pay for dinner by reminding me that he'd paid for our last meal out. It was just a bit of a :facepalm:

    Some people can be a bit clueless With this kind of thing and it also depends what type of person you are. If it bothers you then you deserve to be upset as it is your own personal feelings. And you should tell him because honesty is vital in the integrity of any relationship.
 
 
 
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