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    It's something I have to deal with myself. But you can make new ones. Don't feel too bad about it.
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    I'm 19 and the only friend I have in real life is my mother lol

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    Maybe it's time to make some new friends! As people get older it's inevitable that most of them will lose touch but you don't need to feel lonely. You could try making friends at work, through sports/other hobbies, or maybe even join a religious group at a church or something?

    If it's really bothering you that you don't see that much of your old friends then maybe you should make a big effort to get back in touch! If they're back at home from uni then you could pop round their house to see them, or reach out to them and arrange something. They'll probably appreciate it because it shows that you care about them!

    Hope you can manage to get back in touch with your friends or make some new ones!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm currently on a gap year and I feel so lonely. My problem isn't the making friends bit, its the staying in touch. I had a tight group of friends in secondary school but we all went our separate ways during sixth form. The same for my sixth form mates (excluding one of them) we all just went our separate ways. Even at work, we're all 'mates' who have evenings out together but when I left my job we all drifted away from each other yet again. And before anyone says I should reach out: I have and usually the conversation becomes dry very quickly and I regret popping up or I'll get the whole 'we'll deffo meet for a coffee when I get back from uni' and then I see they're back home on snapchat but have made no effort to meet up.. welp

    This for me is quite normal I had only one friend when I was 19. For some reason as soon as all my school friends hit 19 they disappeared into uni or work or wherever. Don't worry at lest you've got one friend. I was in exactly the same position and became really close to him (no homo).Try and get It up with one or two old friends and I'm sure you will too. The main thing is to prepare yourself for university and to making new friends there. 19-21 the uni years can be difficult as you're still maturing into a fully grown adult. Don't worry and enjoy yourself.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm currently on a gap year and I feel so lonely. My problem isn't the making friends bit, its the staying in touch. I had a tight group of friends in secondary school but we all went our separate ways during sixth form. The same for my sixth form mates (excluding one of them) we all just went our separate ways. Even at work, we're all 'mates' who have evenings out together but when I left my job we all drifted away from each other yet again. And before anyone says I should reach out: I have and usually the conversation becomes dry very quickly and I regret popping up or I'll get the whole 'we'll deffo meet for a coffee when I get back from uni' and then I see they're back home on snapchat but have made no effort to meet up.. welp
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    maate, I get this feeling so much, I wanna see what advice people give as well
    It's just how life happens. Everyone is your friend in kindergarten, you have a 'clique' in high school and when you leave, you only tend to have a couple good friends (if lucky). As you get older, your interests and priorities and theirs too changes.

    I was in the same situation as you in my gap year except it was induced. I cut off contact with many of my friends from school except a couple whom I still talk to now. You just start to realise that the friends you've had forever don't see the world the same way you do, that they don't grow you as a person or have ambitions in life like you do. You're maturing and growing yourself at this stage in life and so are they and sometimes you just have to drift apart. Do keep the memories though, it's nice to think about them when you get older and try to keep in touch somehow, maybe by 'liking' their pictures or just having them on Facebook as a friend etc. You could even try a 'hey hope you're okay' here and there even if they don't reply. I turned to TSR and the internet to keep me sane for a bit and I met some really nice people here. I even did an extra A-Level for the absolute lols.

    Just wait until you get to university though. When you're on a course you like, you'll see many like-minded people around you and you will be able to join societies where you can meet more new people. Gap year can be lonely, I'm afraid. You could try doing something like ICS or something abroad to pass time. But I'd say university is where you make friends for life really (cliche but true).
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    (Original post by Hodor_van_Groot)
    I'm 19 and the only friend I have in real life is my mother lol

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    Shoutout to the parents who always have your back xo
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    I am 17 going to 18 in School and do not have any friends although i speak and socialise with EVERYBODY. I choose not to have friends or go out with them because of the nature of creating friends in the age we live. In a world that revolves solely on conceptualisation, why would you waste time being unconstructive. That said, having friends doesn't make you a bad person, just sharing my comments & criticism.
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    (Original post by jenigma)
    Shoutout to the parents who always have your back xo
    Ayyy ain't nobody need nobody if you got an awesome and understanding parent!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm currently on a gap year and I feel so lonely. My problem isn't the making friends bit, its the staying in touch. I had a tight group of friends in secondary school but we all went our separate ways during sixth form. The same for my sixth form mates (excluding one of them) we all just went our separate ways. Even at work, we're all 'mates' who have evenings out together but when I left my job we all drifted away from each other yet again. And before anyone says I should reach out: I have and usually the conversation becomes dry very quickly and I regret popping up or I'll get the whole 'we'll deffo meet for a coffee when I get back from uni' and then I see they're back home on snapchat but have made no effort to meet up.. welp
    Im loney too. I have no friends currently because everyone keels turning against me. I was also in a group of friends at school but weve all drifted apart now.
    I dont hang out with anyone now and that makes me feel unwanted by everyone, it reallg sucks.
    The conversation issue is the same as me. People dont try to keep the conversation going. My advice there would be to say that theyre boring people. They have nothing to talk about and generally dont really do anything (lots of people i know are really boring people so having a conversation with them is impossible).
    About meeting people, its hurtful whenthey dont want to meet you. Its bad of them ok agree to it if theyre not going to make the effort. I feel bad for you. It really sucks when youre put in a situation like this. I hope things improve for you, i know how it feels.
    Im 18 btw and open to chat.
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    Not tryna brag but I had a lot of friends during school and college but the older and wiser you get, you realize that you you just need someone who will be there for you at the bad times, who understands you, makes you laugh. It could be 1, 4 doesn't matter, as long as they are truly ur friend that's all you need
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    Definitely not.
 
 
 
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