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    (Original post by cuddle_me_in)
    Yes, in Asian culture, that is enough to make me seem like a whore.
    Aw man, this is causing me so much grief.
    That a single kiss is causing so much grief shows how harmful even moderate Islamic culture can be I guess :dontknow:

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    Yes you did do something wrong, but you are human after all and everyone makes mistakes. You live and you learn. So who the heck cares about what people think? Let them think anything, it's not like they're perfect, everyone is ashamed of something they've secretly done. Allah will forgive anyone, no matter what anyone does. If I were you, honestly I'd just tell my mother and own up to your mistake, it's better her finding out from you than from someone else. This dumb "honour" in families is ridiculous, people value their honour over the deen lol. Just do what's best for you and your family tbh
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    (Original post by KINGYusuf)
    So who the heck cares about what people think? Let them think anything, it's not like they're perfect, everyone is ashamed of something they've secretly done. Allah will forgive anyone, no matter what anyone does. If I were you, honestly I'd just tell my mother and own up to your mistake, it's better her finding out from you than from someone else. This dumb "honour" in families is ridiculous, people value their honour over the deen lol. Just do what's best for you and your family tbh
    her family might hit her
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    (Original post by RobML)
    That a single kiss is causing so much grief shows how harmful even moderate Islamic culture can be I guess :dontknow:

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    woww thats rather ignorant, easy with the sweeping accusations buddy.
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    (Original post by whysoseriousx)
    woww thats rather ignorant, easy with the sweeping accusations buddy.
    What's ignorant about it?

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    (Original post by RobML)
    What's ignorant about it?

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    ignorance is indicative of a lack of knowledge/awareness pertaining to said subject in this case, read that, then read what you wrote and come back to me
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    (Original post by whysoseriousx)
    ignorance is indicative of a lack of knowledge/awareness pertaining to said subject in this case, read that, then read what you wrote and come back to me
    Still don't get what you're trying to say sorry

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    (Original post by RobML)
    Still don't get what you're trying to say sorry

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    ok, not trying to argue here btw, and for the record i'm not Muslim but have a particular disdain towards ignorance.

    In short, you are misconstruing cultural traditions/politics with that of Islam.
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    (Original post by whysoseriousx)
    ok, not trying to argue here btw, and for the record i'm not Muslim put have a particular disdain towards ignorance.

    In short, you are misconstruing cultural traditions/politics with that of Islam.
    The reason what she did is looked upon as sinful is because of Islam. It's pretty straightforward. Though I admit the whole family honour thing is a much wider issue that stretches way beyond Islamic culture.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    If you're a Muslim then surely at 23 you must know lying, drinking and adultery is haram.
    Orite, orite, haram police. The OP is literally saying how she feels bad clearly she knows that's haram. No need to make her even more guilty. Ffs.
    (Original post by RobML)
    That a single kiss is causing so much grief shows how harmful even moderate Islamic culture can be I guess :dontknow:

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    Islamic values topped with South Asian culture=disaster

    You sure you into Asian girls? go for Indian Hindu/Sikh girls. Muslim girls, especially Pakistanis and done. All this happens for a kiss.
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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Orite, orite, haram police. The OP is literally saying how she feels bad clearly she knows that's haram. No need to make her even more guilty. Ffs.


    Islamic values topped with South Asian culture=disaster

    You sure you into Asian girls? go for Indian Hindu/Sikh girls. Muslim girls, especially Pakistanis and done. All this happens for a kiss.
    I've already learnt to tread carefully; don't worry about me x

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    (Original post by RobML)
    I've already learnt to tread carefully; don't worry about me x

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    Haha tis was just a reminder
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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Haha tis was just a reminder
    I've been in a really low mood today and feel like I've been posting nothing but nonsense. Happens all the time, gah

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    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Orite, orite, haram police. The OP is literally saying how she feels bad clearly she knows that's haram. No need to make her even more guilty. Ffs.


    Islamic values topped with South Asian culture=disaster

    You sure you into Asian girls? go for Indian Hindu/Sikh girls. Muslim girls, especially Pakistanis and done. All this happens for a kiss.
    interesting, and you are??
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    (Original post by RobML)
    That a single kiss is causing so much grief shows how harmful even moderate Islamic culture can be I guess :dontknow:

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    It's not just islamic culture, it's just really ingrained into South Asians. As time passes people are starting to care less and less, but I say that and then I go to a relatives house or something and normally a conversation pops up about girls and their bad reputations and how disgraceful it is, and how it's all their mothers fault etc etc etc

    Also I live in a town with a large Sikh community, and have a lot of family in the area so from a young age I was always told to look and be respectful when going out, dress modestly and act properly, never stay out late or don't let anyone see you coming home late with friends etc. But it's not true for all south Asians obviously, only the ones that grow up in more traditional families.
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    (Original post by RobML)
    I've been in a really low mood today and feel like I've been posting nothing but nonsense. Happens all the time, gah

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    Oh I'm sorry Cheer up
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    interesting, and you are??
    As in like my ethnicity? I'm Pakistani.
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    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    It's not just islamic culture, it's just really ingrained into South Asians. As time passes people are starting to care less and less, but I say that and then I go to a relatives house or something and normally a conversation pops up about girls and their bad reputations and how disgraceful it is, and how it's all their mothers fault etc etc etc

    Also I live in a town with a large Sikh community, and have a lot of family in the area so from a young age I was always told to look and be respectful when going out, dress modestly and act properly, never stay out late or don't let anyone see you coming home late with friends etc. But it's not true for all south Asians obviously, only the ones that grow up in more traditional families.
    Absolutely agreed. Its just generally desi mentality but it becomes even a bigger deal when you're a Muslim.
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    good point.
    (Original post by TheonlyMrsHolmes)
    It's not just islamic culture, it's just really ingrained into South Asians. As time passes people are starting to care less and less, but I say that and then I go to a relatives house or something and normally a conversation pops up about girls and their bad reputations and how disgraceful it is, and how it's all their mothers fault etc etc etc

    Also I live in a town with a large Sikh community, and have a lot of family in the area so from a young age I was always told to look and be respectful when going out, dress modestly and act properly, never stay out late or don't let anyone see you coming home late with friends etc. But it's not true for all south Asians obviously, only the ones that grow up in more traditional families.
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    Muslim/Non Muslim I need to know the motive gurl!!!
    (Original post by BrokenLife)
    Oh I'm sorry Cheer up


    As in like my ethnicity? I'm Pakistani.
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    (Original post by whysoseriousx)
    Muslim/Non Muslim I need to know the motive gurl!!!
    You could say I'm a Muslim but not very strict or religious.
 
 
 
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