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    (Original post by Matthew12)
    To answer you're first question they should when they are start thinning consult a dermatologist/hair specialist to identify whether it is Male Pattern Baldness or alopecia. if it is MPB then he should try minoxidil or propecia and even look into getting an hair transplant if possible,

    i am a man and know how sacred hair is to men
    Minoxidil is not very effective though and needs to be used for life or your hair falls out. Propecia also needs to be used for life and is more effective but can have dangerous and even permanent sexual side effects. The trouble is that the hormone responsible for baldness (DHT), which propecia blocks, is the probably the most powerful male sex hormone in the body. Baldness is a normal, masculine trait, but sadly we live in a world where it is not seen that way, especially by most women.
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    (Original post by jawsontheflooor)
    wow he is gross why did the women take those insults from him
    In what way is he gross? Because he's bald? He wasn't particularly insulting to them...it was all ligh hearted.
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    You have to remember most girls dislike a guy who has physical appearance is better than their own as it makes them feel worse about themselves

    Obviously not all girls feel this way (I would give the link to an article about the research undertaken but I am lazy)
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    Sexiness isn't measured in hair. Some bald men are seriously hot.
    Like when Patrick Stewart was named one of the hundred sexiest men ever? :lol:

    In my own case, the frustrating part is that it won't just get on with it and go. I've been stuck at this infuriating in-between stage of balding-ness.
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    definitely shave it off. a combover is not attractive at all
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    (Original post by Kieran1996)
    You have to remember most girls dislike a guy who has physical appearance is better than their own as it makes them feel worse about themselves

    Obviously not all girls feel this way (I would give the link to an article about the research undertaken but I am lazy)
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    Look at the comments. Tbh i'd rather not be with any woman who thought she was better than me anyway..wouldn't bode too well for a good s*x life.
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    (Original post by Jd_uk)
    Look at the comments. Tbh i'd rather not be with any woman who thought she was better than me anyway..wouldn't bode too well for a good s*x life.
    True true, completely agree

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    Im 19 and bald. Honestly it does affect your chances in the dating world. But it does show you who is worth your time. There is a great community of balding men on reddit. Check it out
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    (Original post by Marty128)
    Im 19 and bald. Honestly it does affect your chances in the dating world. But it does show you who is worth your time. There is a great community of balding men on reddit. Check it out
    Link?

    What have your experiences been? For what it's worth i personally don't think that any man should feel any shame for a normal, genetic and masculine trait. The shame lies in the fact that we live in a very shallow and narrow minded society where baldness is seen as a bad thing and most women have a sheep mentality (what they are told is handsome/ugly is what they will find handsome/ugly)
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    (Original post by Jd_uk)
    Link?

    What have your experiences been? For what it's worth i personally don't think that any man should feel any shame for a normal, genetic and masculine trait. The shame lies in the fact that we live in a very shallow and narrow minded society where baldness is seen as a bad thing and most women have a sheep mentality (what they are told is handsome/ugly is what they will find handsome/ugly)
    Not really, but people will give in to social pressure, a few girls told me how they used to be into guys that their friends considered 'ugly' or 'weird' looking but never acted on it due to pressure. Everyone has different preferences, some of these preferences are just more universal than others.
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    I know several men with receding hairlines who manage to hide it completely by growing their hair out. It will show when there's a gust of wind but I doubt anyone cares. They would look fine with shorter hair anyway. Face is way more important than hair thickness when it comes to physical attractiveness.
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    (Original post by Maestosa)
    I know several men with receding hairlines who manage to hide it completely by growing their hair out. It will show when there's a gust of wind but I doubt anyone cares. They would look fine with shorter hair anyway. Face is way more important than hair thickness when it comes to physical attractiveness.
    Growing it out = very messy hair in the mornings. I wouldn't feel confident next to a girl in the morning with my hairline all messed up so I shave it short. May not look as good day to day but I look just the same in the morning as when I went to bed.
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    I think shaving it off would be best. The way I see it...I'm looking for someone to grow old with, if losing hair is a part of the process then so be it. Whether it's at a young age or when he's in his 60's.
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    Here's my twopence.

    There is a practical, financially viable solution for young guys facing hair loss which hardly anyone knows about. I was shocked when I discovered that my cousin has been balding since the age of 16 without my knowledge. In my eyes (and many others e.g. family/ friends) he still has a full, thick head of brown hair.

    It turns out that my cousin opted for a solution known as 'men's non-surgical hair replacement'. It is basically a very modern, undetectable and realistic toupee which is bonded to the head with glue or tape. Many women with alopecia or female pattern hairloss (who face less stigma re wigs) use this.

    Most toupees (or 'hair systems' as they are called in order to negate the stigma of the wig) use real human hair. My cousin told me it does take some getting used to. But when clued up on how to maintain it yourself and which products to use, it can last for up to a year and only cost some £300 pounds per 'system'.

    Many Hollywood celebrities wear a hair system, such as John Travolta and Elton John. However, the less wealthy also give it a good shot.

    My cousin is generally seen as a good looking guy, so a drastic change in appearance such as going bald would affect his confidence and essentially 'rob him of his youth'. But he went down the hair replacement route he never looked back. When he revealed to me that he was bald I was in genuine shock. He showed me photos of his head without the piece and he went from 19 to 40 I $h1t you not. A solid Norwood 5!

    It stays stuck to the head and you couldn't take it off if you tried. He takes it off once a week to shave the remaining hair underneath which pushes up if left for too long, but otherwise it is no hassle and he often forgets it's even there!

    He is able to exercise in it, and even swim in it, although he wears a waterproof cap to stop the chlorine from wearing it out thus making it last longer. He is planning on wearing the system throughout the remainder of his university studies up until he is in his late twenties, at which point, he will embrace the bald look either with or without scalp micropigmentation.

    He accepts the fact that when push comes to shove he is still bald and will be for the rest of his life. But he sees it as a mere cosmetic enhancement which has saved him so much hassle.

    Think about it, women wear hair extensions, make-up etc., and nobody even bats an eyelid. But heaven forbid a man uses a cosmetic enhancement! Society is weird in that respect. In a society where so much emphasis is placed on how you look, men have a raw deal when it comes to male pattern baldness.

    Google 'Men's hair replacement UK'. He uses The London Hair Clinic, although Mens Hair 2 Go is apparently also quite good.

    If you're going bald at a young age, hair replacement aka a modern and undetectable wig/toupee may be the solution for you!
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    (Original post by Jd_uk)
    Growing it out = very messy hair in the mornings. I wouldn't feel confident next to a girl in the morning with my hairline all messed up so I shave it short. May not look as good day to day but I look just the same in the morning as when I went to bed.
    People generally look way more adorable in the mornings than they think. :P Honestly wouldn't give a toss if it were me. (Although I do see where you're coming from given that it's difficult to wake up with full unsmudged makeup on.)
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    (Original post by Maestosa)
    I know several men with receding hairlines who manage to hide it completely by growing their hair out. It will show when there's a gust of wind but I doubt anyone cares. They would look fine with shorter hair anyway. Face is way more important than hair thickness when it comes to physical attractiveness.
    Yeah it's called the forward comb-over.... after a point it does look extremely silly. Especially in certain lighting and on windy days.
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    Confidence is attractive. Not feeling entitled to women is attractive. Peer pressure affects both sexes less as they mature and realise they want to live their own life not one through other people's approval.

    But people are allowed to not be attracted to you. In the same way we are allowed to be attracted to and in a relationship with a partner that other people feel is "too attractive" for us.
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    (Original post by ~Tara~)
    Confidence is attractive. Not feeling entitled to women is attractive. Peer pressure affects both sexes less as they mature and realise they want to live their own life not one through other people's approval.

    But people are allowed to not be attracted to you. In the same way we are allowed to be attracted to and in a relationship with a partner that other people feel is "too attractive" for us.
    ?? No offence but that isn't a response to the questions in this thread.

    But anyway, although you say generic things like 'not feeling entitled to women is attractive' and 'people are allowed not to be attracted to you', imagine being a youngish guy and you're going through the perfectly normal genetic process of losing your hair. Fine on its own until you realize that the majority of women your age (or even older) will reject you outright based on that fact alone. It's pretty sh*t when women will look at you in a 'I can do better' type of way for something beyond your control. Like, Imagine being a girl with a certain hair type, but 95% of guys your age won't give you a chance because of they think your hair type is defective so instead you struggle to get a date. I wouldn't tell that girl to not feel entitled... I'd probably just be apologetic that people were so shallow.
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    I think we go through that process anyway. You can assign baldness to it and another person could assign hair colour, height, weight, or some other physical feature.

    It is shallow. But it's an initial filter system. I don't pick my partners based on that filter system. It might decide a one night stand but not a boyfriend. I'm not hung up on hair. However very few men shorter than me would attract me.

    My point is that whilst it sucks, you shouldn't let it stop you.
 
 
 
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