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    (Original post by morgan8002)
    Approach from downwind and stay in the foliage as long as possible.
    what does that even mean lol
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    (Original post by dean01234)
    Don't say that you 'need' to talk to her, very bad phrasing.

    You could do something similar, but think more along the lines of: "Hey, I've seen you around and think you're really [beautiful, attractive, aesthetically pleasing, any other complement] so I wanted to meet you. *extend hand* I'm anonymous #1 "
    yeah that sounds good, but i don't want to do that if shes with her friends sitting down on the bench lol but fk it, i will just go for it !
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    (Original post by L'Evil Wolf)
    XD

    Nope I am the wolf
    Were you the fish before your reincarnation?
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    (Original post by morgan8002)
    Were you the fish before your reincarnation?
    Currently am undead?

    No I am a wolf technically, not a fish?

    Are you asking whether the fish was the muse for this name? XD
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    (Original post by L'Evil Wolf)
    Are you asking whether the fish was the muse for this name? XD
    Yeah.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah that sounds good, but i don't want to do that if shes with her friends sitting down on the bench lol but fk it, i will just go for it !
    Its really tricky to approach a girl who is with her friends, they are going to be wary of you and might not even let her go off to talk to you. Plus it just adds to the stress of the situation, if you can try and speak to her when she's on her own.
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    Its really tricky to approach a girl who is with her friends, they are going to be wary of you and might not even let her go off to talk to you. Plus it just adds to the stress of the situation, if you can try and speak to her when she's on her own.
    lol the problem is that i have never seen her alone :/ she comes to college with her friends and leaves college with her friends but i think its best to approach her when shes leaving college? then going up to her when shes sitting somewhere
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have a crush on this girl, that is not in any of my lessons and she is not friends with any of my friends, so she does not know me at all, so i was thinking of just going up to her and saying, something like i need to talk to you, but i think that maybe creepy and because its college and if she spreads rumors then my respect and
    reputation is all gone lol
    As a girl, I can tell you that if she's shy, anything too straightforward like "I need to talk to you" or "I think you are beautiful/ecc..." is a bad idea. Why don't you just approach her and ask for information, like "Sorry, do you know where the *insert name of building/anything* is?" This way, next time you see each other you can greet her and thank her. This will give you the excuse to talk to her and to see if she might be interested in you. Good luck!
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    (Original post by Nastasja)
    As a girl, I can tell you that if she's shy, anything too straightforward like "I need to talk to you" or "I think you are beautiful/ecc..." is a bad idea. Why don't you just approach her and ask for information, like "Sorry, do you know where the *insert name of building/anything* is?" This way, next time you see each other you can greet her and thank her. This will give you the excuse to talk to her and to see if she might be interested in you. Good luck!
    Lol he can't do that as he's i college so they know the buildings so it would just be obvious he's trying to find a reason to talk to her

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    lol the problem is that i have never seen her alone :/ she comes to college with her friends and leaves college with her friends but i think its best to approach her when shes leaving college? then going up to her when shes sitting somewhere
    Do you know what her name is? You might be able to get away with something like 'jessica could I steal you away from your friends for a couple of minutes' or ' ___ can I borrow you for a moment'. I don't think it will matter too much when, but in between class might be slightly better because you know that she won't have to go anywhere until next period but might have to rush home after school. Good luck
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    (Original post by am99)
    Lol he can't do that as he's i collehe so they know the buildings etc

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    Well, whatever question is fine, really. Even "what time is it"? would be ok. It doesn't have to be a smart question, it just has to be a question.
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    (Original post by Nastasja)
    As a girl, I can tell you that if she's shy, anything too straightforward like "I need to talk to you" or "I think you are beautiful/ecc..." is a bad idea. Why don't you just approach her and ask for information, like "Sorry, do you know where the *insert name of building/anything* is?" This way, next time you see each other you can greet her and thank her. This will give you the excuse to talk to her and to see if she might be interested in you. Good luck!
    Maybe the 12 stage plan leading up to asking for her facebook details is the best way to not scare off really shy girls. But beating around the bush can hurt your chances with any girl who isn't a delicate wallflower.
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    Well, whatever question is fine, really. Even "what time is it"? would be ok. It doesn't have to be a smart question, it just has to be a question.
    I understand where you are coming from, but i have to make my intentions clear at one point so if she is shy, it won't make a difference if i do it the first time or second,third time.
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    Do you know what her name is? You might be able to get away with something like 'jessica could I steal you away from your friends for a couple of minutes' or ' ___ can I borrow you for a moment'. I don't think it will matter too much when, but in between class might be slightly better because you know that she won't have to go anywhere until next period but might have to rush home after school. Good luck
    okay thank you, i only see her on a certain day, so next time, i will go and say something like that :P
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I understand where you are coming from, but i have to make my intentions clear at one point so if she is shy, it won't make a difference if i do it the first time or second,third time.
    Honestly I think it changes. I mean, you don't know her personally and it can even happen that when you talk to her, you don't find her as interesting as you thought she was. This would be a win-win situation.
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    What you suggest is way too intense and highly risky. Best bet is to find some way to meet her socially and to flirt a bit to judge interest.
 
 
 
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