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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    An escort is basically a legal prostitute, I don't have many friends either, and I don't really get the chance to hang around them.
    Ah right, i wouldnt reccomend that!
    Maybe join a club of some description? You will meet people there and will have a common interest with her.
    But just be yourself and girls will come to you!
    As i said before, being confident is crucial!
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    (Original post by SalazarSlytherin)
    escort is someone you pay to fk
    Ill pass on that!
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    (Original post by RachaelBee)
    Fat, 5'9 and 10st 8? I'm a 5'7 female weighing 10st 9, a size 10 and not overweight, so I highly doubt you are. I think (and I know this is cheesy AF) you need to learn to start loving yourself before bringing anyone else into the equation; if you're confident then chatting to people becomes easier and you're more fun because you're not hung up on silly things.
    Can't, not if no one wants me.
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Ah right, i wouldnt reccomend that!
    Maybe join a club of some description? You will meet people there and will have a common interest with her.
    But just be yourself and girls will come to you!
    As i said before, being confident is crucial!
    Not gonna lie I don't have **** all money and I live in the countryside, I don't have the time or money for hobbies tbh
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've tried for over a year now, to get a gf, I'm 18 in 2 months. My friend said it's because I can't talk to them(I can talk to them in person) but I can't over text and I can't flirt and am probably quite awkward doing that. Maybe it's because I'm ugly or fat I dunno. I'm 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone 8, have a bit of muscle. Maybe it's because I am too nice to girls I like, or perhaps my body shape or looks. If you want I'll pm you what I look like(girls).

    I think I dress nice,tbh I don't have any female friends, I lost the two I had when I told one I thought she was beautiful drunk and long story short they both treated me like a mug...because I suppose I am. I do go the gym but I don't seem to gain much muscle. I'm on tinder and hot or not, and a few dating sites(pretending I'm 18) but I do get matches/interests but I never get a message back :/ or if I'm talking to one I'll think it's going fine and then I'll get unfriended or removed of sc and I dunno. I used an escort the other day(I enjoyed that) but I want a relationship so if I could get any pointers off girls about my looks or style or something that would be good.

    Honestly, you have so much to look for in life than a girlfriend. 5 foot 9 and 10 stone 8 is perfectly normal for your height and age. Focus on better things like college grades, family and spending more time into the gym (if you're unhappy with your weight). You're too young to be settling down. Live life.
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    Maybe your standards are too high.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm 18 and I've basically never talked to a girl and certainly don't talk to any at all right now. I'm not bothered. If I find one I find one; I don't like any of the girls I've seen so far.
    That's the view I take. That i'm not that bothered right now. I'd rather concentrate on my revision and getting into university. If a guy comes along then great. If not then it's not the worst thing in the world. It's just when I see all my friends getting into relationships and being so happy that I get a bit sad and lonely haha. I've never had a male friend either, so there's never been a chance.
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    (Original post by llys)
    Maybe your standards are too high.
    I only ever go for average girls/unpopular girls, the others won't message me back once
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Not gonna lie I don't have **** all money and I live in the countryside, I don't have the time or money for hobbies tbh
    Ok it was just a suggestion! I didnt realize, i was just trying to help.
    But thats gonna make it more difficult!
    Is there anywhere else you can meet new people or are you too busy?
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    I swear a thead like this should just be stickied
    Everyday there is a new one

    OP be yourself
    It will come when the time is right
    Someone will love you for being yourself
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    (Original post by FireFreezer77)
    Ok it was just a suggestion! I didnt realize, i was just trying to help.
    But thats gonna make it more difficult!
    Is there anywhere else you can meet new people or are you too busy?
    I don't know how to just meat new people haha, I was really down over a girl I loved for like 3-4 months, so I wasn't revising and stuff, I've started revising again as my A2's are coming up and I go to work. But that's about it other than socializing with a few of my friends, who funnily enough have gf's or have had sex with loads of girls, though the one that has had sex with loads of girls is a proper gym lad, ripped and everything so it's easy for him, he gets girls messages him haha.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Can't, not if no one wants me.
    That attitude is your problem. After making some monumentally bad decisions when it comes to relationships I've being single for the last 20 months, for a while I felt lonely, now I'm learning to become selfish, focus my attention on me and I'm incredibly different for it. I was quite taken aback when people kept telling me how fun I was to be around, pointing out I'm popular, and a social butterfly.
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    You don't want one.

    One of those things that sounds good before you get it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I don't know how to just meat new people haha, I was really down over a girl I loved for like 3-4 months, so I wasn't revising and stuff, I've started revising again as my A2's are coming up and I go to work. But that's about it other than socializing with a few of my friends, who funnily enough have gf's or have had sex with loads of girls, though the one that has had sex with loads of girls is a proper gym lad, ripped and everything so it's easy for him, he gets girls messages him haha.
    Well i went up to a girl i liked and introduced myself! She was suprised but ok with it. Maybe try that? Also i have no confidence so theres no excuse!
    You need to get that revision done! Thats more important!
    Everyone i know has a gf! Just ignore that fact and work on yourself!
    Having sex with loads of girls is just wrong anyway! I believe you should only do it with someone you truely love and that you are in a relationship with.
    Those girls are shallow if theyre going for him because of that. You dont want a girl like that!
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    Understandable. The majority of us want to experience love in our lives. I certainly want to experience it again.

    Yet, sometimes, some of us can't find it. For some of us, there is no answer. Many people will fall into relationship after relationship, others will only spend their lives with one or two people.

    You'll find someone. Eventually. You just can't force it.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've tried for over a year now, to get a gf, I'm 18 in 2 months. My friend said it's because I can't talk to them(I can talk to them in person) but I can't over text and I can't flirt and am probably quite awkward doing that. Maybe it's because I'm ugly or fat I dunno. I'm 5ft 9 and weigh 10 stone 8, have a bit of muscle. Maybe it's because I am too nice to girls I like, or perhaps my body shape or looks. If you want I'll pm you what I look like(girls).

    I think I dress nice,tbh I don't have any female friends, I lost the two I had when I told one I thought she was beautiful drunk and long story short they both treated me like a mug...because I suppose I am. I do go the gym but I don't seem to gain much muscle. I'm on tinder and hot or not, and a few dating sites(pretending I'm 18) but I do get matches/interests but I never get a message back :/ or if I'm talking to one I'll think it's going fine and then I'll get unfriended or removed of sc and I dunno. I used an escort the other day(I enjoyed that) but I want a relationship so if I could get any pointers off girls about my looks or style or something that would be good.
    Send me pics x
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I only ever go for average girls/unpopular girls, the others won't message me back once
    In that case, perhaps you just need to increase the numbers a lot?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ...who funnily enough have gf's or have had sex with loads of girls, though the one that has had sex with loads of girls is a proper gym lad, ripped and everything so it's easy for him, he gets girls messages him haha.
    1. What are we classing as "loads"?
    2. How do you know they're telling the truth? I'm friends with a guy who claims to have slept with over 80 women, and claims to have lost his virginity at the same age as I did ("How old were you? Yeah, same!"), but I found his blog where he talks about how he lost his virginity and the exact age he was. Funnily enough in the blog version he's 3 years older.
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    (Original post by llys)
    In that case, perhaps you just need to increase the numbers a lot?
    The question is where do I get them from?, I can't talk to girls via text, I can't interpret their mood n stuff and I can't flirt, I struggle to make conversation over text anyway(making it interesting)
 
 
 
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