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    I think it's important to look after yourself and in so far as that's selfish then yes it's okay to be selfish sometimes. What isn't okay though is being mean and spiteful with it. Also if you can do things for other people and you're not overextending yourself then there's no reason to hold back on being kind to other people.

    I have noticed a trend towards people becoming more and more selfish though, and not in any good sense of the word a lot of the time.
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    (Original post by beautifulbigmacs)
    Depends if it is in the name of vital self preservation or being an a.hole.
    well said!
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    Yes. You absolutely should look out for number 1 first... I find that most people worry about being selfish and deliberate about who should get the most attention in their lives so much that it proves them to be good people anyway and the 'selfishness' is justified.
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    You need to be selfish sometimes because if you don't put yourself first then who will. But at the same time you can't always be selfish, its not how you should treat your friends and especially not your partner.
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    I think it's good to be selfish to an extent, be kind to yourself and to others.
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    Selfishness is a good characteristic to compete with each other. People who are selfish begin to compare themselves with another people in their surroundings in different aspects to get better and more successful. Yeah, selfishness forms your personality in a way to have an incentive to improve yourself and to achieve your goals. On the other hand, selffishness may focused on yourself too much to get responsibility for people in your surrounding, to be altruistic. Yeah, it may even lead to loneliness, if people are thinking about themselves to forget making friendships, to spend time with people what makes the life liveable. From this point of view, selffishness has a good side of a coin which may turn to a bad one.
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    I'd avoid conflating selfishness and/or greed with self-interest. We look out for our self-interest every moment of the day as rational human beings - the issue arises when people take their selfishness to the point where they begin to exploit or abuse others for personal gain.
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    (Original post by JohnGreek)
    I'd avoid conflating selfishness and/or greed with self-interest. We look out for our self-interest every moment of the day as rational human beings - the issue arises when people take their selfishness to the point where they begin to exploit or abuse others for personal gain.
    This. But this is the split in being selfish in a certain degree to keep our 'self-interest' as you said and to be kind to people around you.
 
 
 
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