I've had almost exactly the same experience with you, though I've only known her for around 2 and a half months. We've become really really good friends, even though she's two years younger than me and I've liked her the entire time, although she didn't have a clue about that tbh. And then yesterday we were just talking and she asked a question which led on to me telling her about my feelings for her. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, as I'm always insecure because anyone who I've ever liked has never like me back the same way, but I felt comfortable enough in her company to tell her how I felt about her. Now believe me when I say it was the very best thing that I could've done. Unfortunately she doesn't feel the same way about me, but we had a great conversation talking about it and she was really understanding and gentle to me. I'm not going to lie, it still hurts, but it was something which needed to be done and which was only going to keep distracting me if it went on any longer, and I feel that if I hadn't done it I would still be constantly wondering about it which wouldn't be good this close to exams.
I hope my experience can help in some small way, and good luck with anything that goes on in the future
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Last edited by Almageddon; 12-05-2016 at 17:11.
- 12-05-2016 17:09
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(Original post by southafrica1102)
- 16-05-2016 01:42
Thanks so much, I'm just finding it very difficult because he is the first guy I've had feelings for so to get rejected would probably be very hard to tolerate and particularly as I'm afraid to lose him from my life, as he is someone I very much want to have in my life because he is kind, compassionate, funny and intelligent.
Thanks so much.
It's just that we have only known each other for 6 months so I feel so anxious about him knowing.
We had got so close in terms of stuff we shared with each other then he turned weird on me by becoming awkward when he hugs me.
Now I'm despairing because he takes forever to reply to my messages though he always does and this isn't new, it's starting to hurt to be around him even though he is one of the best people I've ever met and he irritates me further by being simplistic /logical about issues I have in life.
I just want to be close to him and for the first time in my life I've ever felt like this and it's hard to accept that I simply cannot control anything.
How would I hint? I'm terrified of him knowing if case he takes it badly. This Is so messy.
(Original post by Anonymous)
- 16-05-2016 17:39
It feels like he's become more awkward recently about hugging me.
I can't flirt to save my life
I just don't feel good enough for him and I don't think he feels the same at all. He knows about all my flaws because I tell him.
All the bestLast edited by GlitterandGold-x; 16-05-2016 at 17:42.
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(Original post by GlitterandGold-x)
- 19-05-2016 02:08
Nooo, you should never think you're not good enough for someone. Even if he doesn't feel the same, don't think that. If he feels uncomfortable with hugs that in itself might suggest he doesn't like you in that way, but it's not certain. Next time the two of you are together and laughing / joking around, playfully ask him why he doesn't ever take you anywhere. That should signal to him that you like him and that you want to go on a date, and if he doesn't bite, you still get to save face.
All the best
We do meet up for coffee and stuff regularly and sit and chat for a couple of hours but that's about it.