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    If you see no advantage then what is the issue?

    What are you hoping to achieve by this thread?
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    Like literally an time a girl likes me I always get really defensive and either end up ignoring them or being outright mean to them.
    I used to be like that. I would block them and whenever they'd be brought up in conversation I'd get angry. Yeah... it was bad but then I grew up, had my own crush, found out how it felt and now when I do pull girls I keep in touch and I'm just a bit more understanding to their situation? Still don't know what girls see in me though.
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    (Original post by Someboady)
    I used to be like that. I would block them and whenever they'd be brought up in conversation I'd get angry. Yeah... it was bad but then I grew up, had my own crush, found out how it felt and now when I do pull girls I keep in touch and I'm just a bit more understanding to their situation? Still don't know what girls see in me though.
    Haha
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    (Original post by Davide_online)
    If you see no advantage then what is the issue?

    What are you hoping to achieve by this thread?
    to understand why i see no advantage in it
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    Ok. I'll throw out a few guesses in the hope that they help, but they may not apply to your situation.

    Perhaps your sex drive isn't so strong at the moment.

    Perhaps you are not meeting females who you find attractive.

    Perhaps your need for autonomy- your own space etc- is stronger than other needs.

    Perhaps, given your other interests and activities, relating with females is a low priority at this time.

    What do people who know you think is the explanation?
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    go to church cuz mate u need jesus.
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    Like literally an time a girl likes me I always get really defensive and either end up ignoring them or being outright mean to them.
    Ahh, this is actually me as well. There was this guy I thought liked me, I pushed him away. I don't do it to everyone but people who I don't want for them to like me. Do you do this to every single girl?
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    (Original post by BhavyaB)
    Ahh, this is actually me as well. There was this guy I thought liked me, I pushed him away. I don't do it to everyone but people who I don't want for them to like me. Do you do this to every single girl?
    Not really, however even when i like them i just push them away more due to the fact that i can kind of intuit that their personality is incompatible with mine
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    l think you may actually have a point there tbh. Like once this girl gave me condom, (i heard rumours that she like me and she was always trying to get my attention) anyway my mum found the condom in my blazer pocket and then she said to me that this girl is using you, she doesnt really like you she thinks that because your black that by having sex with you its like having sex with a gorillla (not lying lol she actuallly said this) pretty much any time i socialise with people in any form she always tells me that i am wasting my time and that these people are not really my friends, they just use me and that I have no real friends. When i was teenager and i used to get invited to parties my mum would always say that i couldnt go because i would be the only black person at a party and all the white people wanted me there so that they could make fun of me (this literally never happened when i went to a party) Basically \ny girl thats ever been around me my mum would always tell me that they are trashy and that for whatever reason she needs to go
    Your mother is stunting you emotionally.
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    Not really, however even when i like them i just push them away more due to the fact that i can kind of intuit that their personality is incompatible with mine
    Oh :/ It could be that you fear messing it up with them?
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    (Original post by BhavyaB)
    Oh :/ It could be that you fear messing it up with them?
    I think that's pretty much it tbh
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    Do you feel as though they are trying to control you and your emotions when they do feel romantically attached towards you?
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    I think that's pretty much it tbh
    N'awh, it's a common thing but you have to remember that you're never going to know for sure unless and until you try. Take it really slow maybe.
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    Like literally an time a girl likes me I always get really defensive and either end up ignoring them or being outright mean to them.
    You like men more?
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    (Original post by serah.exe)
    because gurls r smelly
    Especially Serahs.
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    (Original post by blackstar101204)
    she doesnt really like you she thinks that because your black that by having sex with you its like having sex with a gorillla (not lying lol she actuallly said this) pretty much any time i socialise with people in any form she always tells me that i am wasting my time and that these people are not really my friends,
    can we just focus on this for a minute im dying here
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    (Original post by Synonym)
    can we just focus on this for a minute im dying here
    lol i'm not joking that's what she said to me
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    (Original post by WhimsicalSloth)
    Do you feel as though they are trying to control you and your emotions when they do feel romantically attached towards you?
    Not really
 
 
 
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